Ever fallen in love at Christmastime?

[ProudToBeBlueInRhody]

And then have it negatively paint the holidays for years after when things don't work out?

It happened to me and the only women I can truly say I ever loved. I get very nostalgic this time of year and sometimes debate making another run at her(Which would include moving). I usually get past it around New Year's, but it's like that first cold of the season you seem to get the same time every year and this year it's particularly strong.

[Broken_Hero]

1. yeah, sorta

xmas of 02 was a bad one for me in that regard...still leaves me with sore feelings.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear ProudToBeBlueInRhody.....

I haven't had it happen to me......

But I still have empathy for you.........so, here, have a :hug:

[ForrestGump]

3. Yes

And too early to tell if it'll have a negative effect on Christmas. Probably not. That job's already done, anyway, by a death around Christmastime and by some less-than-optimal Christmases as my marriage wound down.

I guess relationships that go south, for whatever reason, are more likely to affect other things (trust, openness, and all of that) than a calendar date, though I wouldn't be surprised if, over the years, certain dates (birthdays, dates of significance in the relationship, etc) carry a little load of pain and regret in each year. My wedding anniversary's such a date for me, to a certain degree, much more so than Christmas or some other arbitrary date calendar landmark.