What do you tell your friends when they are having guy troubles?

[Mutley]

I just don't know what to say to my friend N. She called me this morning in tears because her boyfriend went out with friends last night and didn't come home. She's worried about everything from he spent the night with another woman to he died in a car accident. How do I comfort her? :shrug: :(

[NewWaveChick1981]

1. Give her a hug and tell her not to jump to any conclusions.

He might have been too drunk to drive and passed out at one of the other guys' places. However, anything's possible, so don't get upset until you know what really happened. :)

BTW, good to see ya, Mutley! :hi:

[Mutley]

2. That's what I tried to tell her.

That she shouldn't get too upset until she talks to him. But she's very upset and irrational right now. I wish I could make her feel better. :(

Good to see you too, NWC. :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

3. There isn't much else you can do except listen to her.

:hug: I've comforted more than one friend who had similar problems, and that's all I could do if they wouldn't accept my original suggestion. :)

[Mutley]

5. Thanks, NWC.

Yeah, I guess that's all I can do. She's got me worried, too. He's a cool guy and I consider him a friend as well. I hope he's okay.

[billyskank]

4. Dunno

:hug:

[Mutley]

6. Hey billy.

:hug:

Howya doing?

[billyskank]

7. Caught my brother's cold

x(

Apart from that, I'm okay. :D How are you? :hug:

[Mutley]

9. Apart from this thing in the OP I'm doing well.

I'm sorry you're not feeling well. :hug:

I'm hoping I won't be catching a cold any time soon. It seems like everyone I know has one.





It's coming to get me. I know it! :scared:

[Crazy Dave]

8. If the two of them live together...

...she should kick his ass out and be rid of him. If they don't live together, no big deal. It's pretty damn inconsiderate, selfish, sneaky and fearful for those at home waiting if someone you live with doesn't come home or call. She can say hello to the rest of her life if they live together and he gives her some bullshit story of why he didn't come home or call.

[Mutley]

10. They don't technically live together

but she spends almost every night at his house. She went there after work expecting him to be there at some point, but he never showed.

[SlavesandBulldozers]

11. easy

plan a girls night out.

[Mutley]

12. We do that once a week anyway.

:evilgrin:

[SlavesandBulldozers]

17. you both are welcome here any time

;)

[NC_Nurse]

13. She needs to talk to him about it.

All you can do is be supportive. I would encourage her to think about what she would like him to do differently next time and talk with him about whether he is willing to do that.
Otherwise, she either needs to accept this behavior or move on.

[Mutley]

15. Good advice.

Thanks. :hi:

[Schema Thing]

14. I send them here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5998653

[Mutley]

16. ...

:rofl:

I'll pass that message along. :D