Did you meet your true love on DU?

[Lostmessage]

I am curious if anyone has met a DU member that is their true love now.

If so are you married to that person or are you going to get married soon. Who is it and did you move out of state to be with each other?

[foreigncorrespondent]

1. No! But I did indeed my true love online.

Sapphocrat and I met online in one of AOL's many chat rooms.

She wasn't much for hanging on AOL, but this night she felt like just logging on and checking the chat rooms looking for that one little voice that stood out above the rest. Lucky for me, she chose the very chat room I had been hanging out in for the last three of my life prior to meeting her.

It was my voice that stood out above the rest to her. We were having fun chatting in the room, and had shared a little joke (?) when she asked if she could spell "Melbourne" how us Aussies pronounce it, what would she win. I told her she would win me. LOL Well she did just that. She spelt out Melbourne how I would say it, and she won me. :loveya:

She did go quiet in the chat room so I IM'd her, and we began a two plus hour chat in IM's. Because I was flirting with someone else in the room, she thought I was infact taken, only to learn that I was as single as they come. :)

Anyway, we chatted and stuff, but soon it would have to end. She had a business meeting to attend in the morning, and it was already rather late. So because I was currently in the United States (another long story for another thread), she said, if I ever get to SF to look her up. Well I got to SF and I contacted her.

We met about a week after I had been in SF. We went out, had dinner with friends of mine. (I was being cautious seem as how I was already hurt by another American, and wanted friends with me.)

And basically, we have been an item ever since.

Sappho and I had experienced some sort of magic online together, and when we saw that, that same magic was there in person, well we certainly weren't going to walk away from it.

Now we have been together for almost four years. And as many know, we are living in two separate countries because of the discriminating immigration laws in the U.S. We do plan on going to Canada and getting married, but we need to be settled in one country before we do that.

I hope you don't mind my sharing Sapphs and my story here? I am feeling really nostalgic tonight, and it felt really good to recap in short, our story again. :)

Thanks for the great thread.

FC

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2. I love your story

It was magic and it was in the stars that you guys met. My ex was from Under-dale Australia and always would say that it was fate that we meet when I was driving down the street and looked over at the person on the sidewalk in front of the place that I was getting ready to go into. It was love at first sight and we felt it immediatly. But, and there is a but I never left the States to go to Australia and I have regretted it everyday of my life because I have been screwed over so many times that I am getting ready to give up and stay single the rest of my life.
I was thinking of moving to Orlando if I get the job that I am applying for and possibly starting a new life but and there is another but in there I would have to leave my boys behind for a few months until I get settled. My boys are my three male cats and I love them too much to leave them behind.
I would love to move to Australia and meet someone over there but I don't have the funds to move and take my boys along.

Your story was so incredibly sweet and I am happy for you. It was in the stars and it was meant to happen.

Right now I am someones "Just In Case" person and I am their backup if their other relationship doesn't pan out.

[foreigncorrespondent]

20. I am glad...

...you didn't mind that my story had nothing what so ever to do with what you asked your thread to be about, apart from the fact that Sappho and I are a committed couple and both members of DU. :)

Underdale is in the Western sububrs of South Australia. Very nice area there. And believe me it is hard for this Victorian to say anything nice about South Australia. I used to live there years ago, but the people weren't very accepting of people from Victoria.

I am sorry you gave up your love here in Oz. It is hard to leave ones country at the best of times. You really need to know in your heart that the person you are willing to give up your country for is the right person for you. (Yes I am talking from experience which is to do with the other long story I will probably share on DU one day if the right thread comes along.)

Anyway I wish you luck with your future, and hope that everything pans out for you.

[slinkerwink]

3. that sounds like a great story........

I'd love to share my story sometime when it works out---it still hasn't been written now:-)

[foreigncorrespondent]

21. Remember...

... to always keep a window open.

I for one would love to hear your story, when it is written. :)

I wish you luck, my friend.

[CandyCrim21]

4. LMAO

Is there even such a thing as true love?

[foreigncorrespondent]

19. Yes there is actually.

I should know, I have found it.

And even with 8,000 miles between us, and the fact that over the past two years we have seen each other for the grand total of 56 days, we still remain monogomous, and completely in love with one another.

When you go through the hell that Sapphocrat and I have, and still remain totally loyal to one another, believe me, it is very true, very real, and meant to be. :)

[totallynluv]

5. Yes I did

I love him so much I can't think half the time and I think he loves me too, but we're trying not to be in love (or at least say these words yet) because it was almost too much, too fast for both of us (and many barriers, geographic and otherwise). Sometimes though, one finds someone that they feel absolutely at ease with and opens their hearts. Someone who, if they could make a list of what they want- physically, emotionally, intellectually, sexually, and spiritually in a partner, it would be the other, and in the face of every obstacle, still manage to find each other sometime, someday down the road.

He has alluded to a few things in regards to being closer to me, but I don't know yet. There's a lot up in the air between us presently. I would love nothing more though. My heart is his now. It may end up broken, but he has awakened me and I still need him regardless.

on edit: I had to change my name to protect the not-so-innocent. Sorry.

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6. Did you meet him on DU?

Are you willing to move for him? Do you talk to each other every day?
Tell us all about him I would love to hear your story because I can't sleep because I am so upset.

[totallynluv]

7. Yes, I met him on DU

I really can't get into it much because of many reasons, but we have discussed many things on many levels many times. But because I'm a regular DU person and if I said much, there's people who could easily figure this out if I said much which isn't what I'm ready for. I couldn't move for him due to obligations to family, but he could possibly move closer to me. If he did, I would do everything in my power to make him happy and be with him.

[Lostmessage]

9. How far are you from him?

Remember this opportunity may only come once and you need to take it.
I am hurting horribly inside and I wish that this person wouldn't have come back into my life. I was settled with being alone and now I am hurting.

Take your chance and move and do not look back.

[totallynluv]

12. A few thousand miles

I really couldn't move, not without hurting people in my life that I also love as much in other ways. He's a bit more free. If it has to be long-distance for awhile, as long as we could be together sometimes, for the present, I can live with that. If we are meant to be, we will be.

[Lostmessage]

8. I thought that someone loved me until today

Then I figured it out that I was a joke and I am hurting real bad. I was the "Just In Case" person and I can't sleep right now because of how bad that I am hurting. I have a tendency of falling for someone and being true to them. I am not going to work tomorrow because I am so depressed from what happened.

[totallynluv]

10. That's not right

Obviously this person is undeserving of you if they would do that to you. Playing games with someone's heart and leading them on is VERY wrong. :hug:

I have the opposite thing. I tend to not easily fall for anyone. I have had long term relationships, yes, but never quite feeling like I do with him. It's kind of scary, but it's so powerful that I find it scarier not to take the chance at this point.

[Lostmessage]

11. Have you known him a long time?

Do you live at home or would you have to move your kids and they would have to change schools?

If someone truly loved someone wouldn't they want to talk to them everyday and not just on Saturdays?

[totallynluv]

13. It seems like they would want to talk more than Saturdays

When we are able to talk, we can't get enough of each other. We've chatted for hours on end. Things started for us about 4 months ago, so it's a relatively short time in the scheme of things and we're trying not to get ahead of ourselves. I don't feel comfortable answering the other stuff, but is this person perhaps in a relationship already that they don't want to let go of? That's what it sounds like.

[Lostmessage]

17. Well

I am letting go and I think you for your help.

[totallynluv]

31. I'm still very sorry

My situation is so up in the air right now and it hurts because of that, but there's still hope, a lot of hope really.
Keep your heart open, but protect yourself (i.e. don't go too fast) and something will happen for you when it's right.

:hug:

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32. I was over it a few weeks back

Then I set myself up again because I answered my phone. My aunt was suppose to call that day and I should have known that it wasn't her.
I am kicking myself right now and I feel like an Idiot because of it. I am probably being laughed at right now at this minute.

When is lent? I am going to give this person up for lent if it is soon.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

18. Here is a hug

:hug: I have been there before . It hurts when you let your Guard Down and then you are stabbed right in the back . happenened to me 2 weeks ago , I could not sleep either but I wrote a song about it and now I am so much better . Another :hug:

[GOPisEvil]

22. I'm sorry to hear that. That is just wrong.

Good luck in purging that jerk from your life. :pals:

[JanMichael]

14. Meet her through DU? Hell I married her!

Met in February, just a friendly meeting, things got serious rather quickly, then got married this last August.

Couldn't be happier either.

She's the best!

[ET Awful]

15. I wish . . . maybe some day :).

Ladies I'm available, in Boston, and I have the cutest kitten in the world :).

[Andy_Stephenson]

16. Termite and I met before the internet existed.

This august we will be together 18 years. I think DU keeps us together though...it keeps me outta his hair.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

23. I haven't :-( but

two early DUers, Not_Over_It and Coralsea met and married on DU and haven't been seen since.

[greatauntoftriplets]

25. Scubadude and Babette also met and married thanks to DU.

And they have not disappeared. In fact, I met them a couple of weeks ago at a Chicago DU get-together for flush_bush. They make a nice couple.

[short bus president]

24. Sure.

After stalking me in the Lounge for a brief period, dolo amber lured me to a dimly lit room at the Stickit Inn in Ashland, KY, where she charmed me with her siren song. Three month's later, we're living in sin back in NC, and we may get marred at some point in the future. Go figure.

[Whitacre D_WI]

26. You might wanna edit that.

I'd hate for dolo amber to take offense to your description of any potential nuptials as "get MARRED."

[short bus president]

27. The malapropism was intentional

and so it remains. Although to be fair, "marred" would be an improvement over our current mutual state of being, which is somewhere between "cracked" and "shit-for-nuts-wacko."

[Whitacre D_WI]

28. Ah, 'tleast I picked up on it, lest all your language-manipulation...

go for naught.

[dolo amber]

34. I think

I'd be more likely to be offended by the BLATENTLY false "stalking" accusations (he wishes! :P) and the file-under-too-much-information references to the "Stick-it Inn"...x(

Fukin' weirdo. :eyes: ;)

[VelmaD]

35. Yeah...but he's our...

"fukin' weirdo". :-)

[Lostmessage]

37. Are you guys joking?

That some crazy shit to put in a thread. I thought that it was a bit too blatant. :argh:

[Lostmessage]

36. So he is not your true love?

I would be :mad:

[CivilRightsNow]

29. Well..

I didnt meet him on DU, but I did meet him on a Bulletin Board.

Real life syncronicity proved that he was the one.. too many amazing events to sluff off as mere coincidence. We found ourselves working at the same company. After keeping our actual life very seperate, it was quite a shock to find out that the adorable and wonderful man in a training class that I had traveled 2000 miles to teach was the same man that I had spoken to as a close friend for 3 years online! Neither of us had any idea where the other worked, or even what each other's last names were. We had not even shared pictures. We were each other's anonymous shoulder and confidant.... I had always had feelings for him, but had been involved in a relationship for 2.5 years of the 3 years we had known eachother and had only been on my own for 3 months at that point.. Plus, it seemed like such a pipe dream, we were on opposite sides of the country, we had never met, heck, Id never even seen a picture of him. Plus we were both in our early 20s. Internet dating was not very socially acceptable until the last couple years.

But synchronicity could not be ignored. I returned home from my business trip in a daze to a ridiculous amount of roses.. and I remembered that anything really was possible and that moving from Va to Ca was a risk that was surely worth taking. I've never regretted it.

It will be 3 years ago Feb 2nd. My life has changed in ways I never thought possible. It is better then I ever imagined. And I know that I found my soulmate. When I was young, I went into technology because I felt it was so powerful that we were no longer constrained by geographic boundaries, we could talk to people all over the globe and keep in touch with our loved ones with the click of a mouse.. I wanted to enable that technology. I wanted to enable global consciousness. I felt that it could truly change the world.

Little did I know how much it would change my world!


Dont get me wrong though, I met my share of people with serious issues online, that were able to hide behind a screen and play with people's emotions.. I think it really enables people with relationship issues to create convienient emotional ties that can be severed with a push of an off button. I got lucky... but it wasnt without having to deal with the emotional callousness that many in this thread are talking about. Be careful with your heart. Especially online, distortion of reality is commonplace.

[camero]

30. Not yet

But I'm working on it. :P

[ScreamingMeemie]

33. No, if anything, DU keeps me from my truelove.

;) He's an understanding guy.