Kali
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Thu May-03-07 07:10 PM
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bat mitzvahs etiquette question |
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Edited on Thu May-03-07 07:12 PM by Kali
daughter of husband's niece (they were raised together - more like sister and brother) we have met her exactly once, they are wealthy and live across the country (she is a bit spoiled)
We are NOT wealthy, nor Jewish. I don't have a clue how to respond - well yes I will send regrets, but do I send a gift? Money? What is the generally accepted procedure for this ceremony/celebration?
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philosophie_en_rose
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Thu May-03-07 08:10 PM
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1. Not Jewish either, but I'd send a small, meaningful gift. |
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Something symbolic of your hopes for her or memories of her mom. A book or CD or journal. Something small, but nice.
If you knew her better, I'd recommend a long letter to her about your advice for growing up. That could be funny or comforting.
:shrug:
You might want to talk to her mom to see what she likes. Tickets to a concert or something might make a nice and (depending on venue) affordable gift. I wouldn't send money, but that's just me.
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Kali
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Fri May-04-07 12:21 AM
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4. yeah maybe a blank journal... |
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Thu May-03-07 08:26 PM
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If you send money make it a multiple of 18. It represents the hebrew word 'chai' which means life. 36 is double chai.
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Kali
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Fri May-04-07 12:22 AM
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5. money is probably not a great idea but I like the chai and 18 thing |
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Thu May-03-07 09:12 PM
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Doesn't have to fancy or expensive. One of the best ones I got was a "mini-torah" fro my bar-mitzvah.
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Kali
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Fri May-04-07 12:25 AM
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6. is there a good on-line place for things like that? Doubt if I could find that |
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in my small rural Arizona town.
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Fri May-04-07 12:31 AM
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7. I found a couple, Kali |
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http://www.nvo.com/menshenables/barbatmitzvahgifts/ts.com/occasions/bar-bat-mitzvah/8ohraicp?sid=vsm:Bar+%2F+Bat+Mitzvah+Gifts:P&rid=http%3A%2F%2Fsearch.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%3Fei%3Dutf-8%26fr%3Dslv8-msgr%26p%3Dbat%2520mitzvah%2520gifts I also found this: http://judaism.about.com/od/barandbatmitzvah/f/bmitzvah_gifts.htm
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Fri May-04-07 12:35 AM
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I'm headed to bed now will check those out in the morning :hi:
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