Do you have a "comfort zone?"

[skygazer]

Two different people used that phrase to me in the last week, referring to how surprised they were that I could move so far from my "comfort zone" - I moved to California from Vermont.

I had to kind of step back and analyze that and came to the conclusion that I'm just a person whose comfort zone is wherever I happen to be at the moment. I guess a lot of people - maybe most people? - aren't like that so I thought I'd ask here.

Do you have a comfort zone that you'd be hesitant to leave?

[hippiechick]

1. Yes - going from 'aloof hermit' to 'actively dating'

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[bertha katzenengel]

2. two answers (while i wait for more "hurry up and wait" work)

One:

I always said I'd never leave Southern California. My ultimate comfort zone, where I was born and raised, no better place on earth. Earthquakes? Pfft. Used to 'em. Brush fires? Keep the brush around your house cleared. Homes slipping off cliffs into the surf? Arrogant assholes; I'm not one of 'em.

Southern California is home sweet home. But I moved for love and I don't regret it in the least. I am in love with Kathy and we'll always be together; I'm crazy about Maryland, and Tennessee has a big place in my heart. But Southern California is home.

Two:

Regarding my personal space, meaning the air cushion around me. Don't ask me why, but if you're a man . . . . If you're a man and you come to my desk to show me something, I'll tell you to back off and if you don't listen, I will inch as far away as I can, and if I can't get any farther I'll stand up and back away and then tell you to go away! If you're a man and we're both standing and you back me into a tight space or against a wall -- even innocently, like, you're someone I know at work and you mean to keep your voice low -- you'd better grab your nards because they might get kicked -- if my growl and bared fangs don't work. Like I said, don't ask me why.

I also have an "air cushion" re: women, a very similar one, but it's not that pronounced.

[skygazer]

3. I do think of Vermont as home

And I always will. I even have a cemetery plot there. But I've never been afraid to leave it or even thought much about that.

I wasn't even thinking about personally - you raise a good point. I guess I do have personal comfort zones and like you, I don't like feeling cornered (though I don't think it's as pronounced) and I don't know why either. :hi:

[Parche]

4. Komfort Zone

NO, but I have a ......................

[alarimer]

5. yes, it's about three feet in diameter

Anybody (that I don't know) gets closer than that (you know, those "close talkers") and I start backing away. Same thing with strangers who touch me. Can't stand it!

But I am actually afraid to visit other countries because they are too different from this one. And I live in Texas, for Pete's sake. There aren't many states stranger than this one LOL. No, I am just an extremely anxious traveler and when things go wrong, I just can't deal with it.

[Nikia]

6. I go through an adjustment period

When I get sad about moving and have increased anxiety. Then my new location becomes alright to me.
I think of comfort zone more like personal space generally though. Generally, I let women get closer to me than men and have occasionally stepped too close into other women's zones. With men I know, I let some get closer to others. The only time that I have gotten too close to a man (that it made him uncomfortable enough to say something or step back) was once around my boss, which was accidental.