Would you ever ask a store clerk out?

[Deja Q]

:)

[rug]

1. Snob.

[Deja Q]

2. What makes you think that?

:wow:

[rug]

10. Why not ask a stoe clerk out?

In fact, at the supermarket I usually pick the line with the best looking checker.

[Deja Q]

15. Same here. (going to the line with the best looking one)

:D

I might just indeed ask the question... it didn't dawn on me at the time that THAT was the first time a clerk came over to me twice; usually it's one time with the standard question and then they bugger off.
See, I am getting better - I usually can't fathom body language nor atypical incidents at all... :D

[billyskank]

6. I think he means at the store

[skygazer]

3. I am a store clerk

My SO asked me out when I was working in the Produce section. I was stocking the pears. That was a little over six years ago. :loveya:

I know several people who met their SO that way. Why not?

[Orsino]

4. 'Cause it puts them on the spot in their place of work...

...where they have to be nice. There is something less than fair about that.

YMMV, of course.

[skygazer]

5. You can tell someone "no" in a nice way

I have to disagree with you though I do understand where you're coming from. But as someone who has worked retail for the last 8 years and who has been hit on my share of times, for the most part I've not been bothered by it in the least. In fact, it usually gives me a bit of a lift to know that even in my stupid uniform and apron, someone finds me attractive enough to ask out.

I've said no to every one of them, nicely, until my SO asked. And most of them I've continued to see during their regular shopping trips and there's never been any real awkwardness on either side.

It's not really a huge deal.

[Orsino]

7. I make exception for people who already know each other.

The out-of-the-blue asking out crosses a boundary I'm not comfortable with. If you don't know that the checker is okay with being cornered at work, you're taking unfair advantage.

[SmokingJacket]

8. I'm a store clerk too... boy do I hate getting hit on.

You're *trapped* behind the counter, contractually obliged to be nice to the customers!

One poor woman at my store has a regular visitor -- he snorts and picks his nose constantly, but she can't get away from him, or even smack him down.

No one should EVER hit on a clerk while they're at work. Wait until they're off work!

[Pacifist Patriot]

13. Ew! Total gross out. I agree with you though...

Hitting on someone at work is tantamount to abuse in my opinion. No way to get away.

[patricia92243]

9. Of course you should - IF she is signaling you that she wants to be asked out. I have had guys sa

say that they don't know if a girl is flirting with them - I'm assuming that is NOT your case - that you will know if she is flirting with you and wants to be asked out.

[SmokingJacket]

12. Some people mistake good customer service for flirting.

Granted, there are similarities...

[Deja Q]

16. Well, here's the scoop:

At Best Buy, she came up to me asking if I needed any help. I didn't, but she must've noticed I was, uh, looking.

Later on as I had found what I needed but wanted to verify with the Geek Squad dude, she came by my way again. I was staring up at the wall with the pattern on it; she thought I was looking at some equipment. She mentioned my technical question wasn't one of her normal questions.

Maybe that's all it was, or maybe it wasn't. It's the first time EVER that a clerk would see me and approach me again. She was cute... I distinctly remember her name too. I'm usually good with phone numbers, but NEVER names.

Mind you, I'm also pushin' 35 despite looking 26. I'd estimate her chronological age at 38, which means she's probably closer to 34. Body language, signals, and the temporal effect on one's corporeal appearance are items I've never been good at properly identifying... (one reason out of 42 why I like to call myself 'eternally single'... or 'Aspie', but it all works out in the end...)

[patricia92243]

20. Go to the store again. If you see her, determine how she acts. If you think she is interested -

give her YOUR phone number. She then will make the next move - or not. This provides safety for her and makes it known that you are not a stalker - just a nice guy that would like to know her better.

Try to not too disappointed if nothing comes of it - I know that is a lot easier said than done. :(

Good luck!

We here at Du all know that you are a sweetie - too bad we can't pass it on to others for you.

[Deja Q]

22. Awesome advice - thank you!

:)

:pals:

[Pacifist Patriot]

11. Worked retail for 8 years and was never ever asked out.

Very rarely hit on or flirted with. Must be chopped liver.



There is this guy at Target who is quite yummy...but I'm married now. Not a chance. My hubby is the one and only!

[SPKrazy]

25. you ain't no chopped livah!

if that is you in that picture, you are quite nice looking! ;)

[Drum]

14. I would and I have.

:shrug:

[u4ic]

19. My answer as well n/t

[murielm99]

17. Store clerks probably have to

be very careful. Of course they have to be careful going to their cars at night, but being nice to everyone can bring the crazies out of the woodwork.

One of my former students was working at the local grocery store while she went to community college. She was a pretty girl, and someone everyone liked.

She started getting too much attention from a guy about ten years older. He was geeky. He had halitosis, and he lived with his mother. I suppose any of those things can be dealt with, but overall, he was creepy.

I saw him hanging around a few times when I happened to be in the store. I asked her if there was a problem. She was scared of him. She had told him that she could not go out with him, because she had a boyfriend. I think she talked to me because I had been her teacher.

I offered to talk to her dad, who was also a friend. She said that she did not want to lose her job. I don't know how serious her situation was, but I tried to keep an eye on her, while honoring her wishes.

Nothing ever happened to her, thank God. About a year later, I noticed the same guy in the video store I frequented. He was hanging around a girl there. She was visibly annoyed, and frightened. I asked her if they had escorts to walk them to their cars late at night. She said they went out together, or her boyfriend came. I told her to speak to her manager. The guy had a history.

Maybe he was just a lonely guy who was creepy and unable to connect with women. But I am older, I have two daughters, and I noticed that there was something off about the guy. The girls in question did not laugh off their feelings about the situation. But I wish young women clerks felt more comfortable telling their supervisors about possible stalkers or molesters. A job at the grocery store or the video store is not nearly as important as one's safety.

[Deja Q]

21. Which is why I didn't have the guts to ask the first time 'round.

I'm lonely, definitely different but nobody I know of has yet to call me creepy, and I don't live with mommy or daddy.

The one emotion I'm good at sensing is fear. If I think I am disturbing someone, I usually leave and never bother them and whine why I end up hurting peoples' feelings and not even knowing what I did.

Oh well. There's always the plastic bag. I wish the violent bastards would do that instead. :D

[Wetzelbill]

18. way too shy

plus I figure they must have to deal with jerks hitting on them all the time anyway. I'm a sucker though, this once a pretty clerk in a nice clothing store sold me like 400 dollars worth of clothes. She just kept bringing stuff in and I kept trying them on, haha. I couldn't resist her!

[Left Is Write]

23. I don't think my husband would appreciate it if I did.

[ForrestGump]

26. How does he feel about

Elvises? :D




:hide:

[Left Is Write]

27. Well....

He'd like to be "married" by one in a vow renewal ceremony for our 10th anniversary. :D

There is a possibility we'll be in Las Vegas in August.

[DFW]

24. No way

My wife would kill me.

[BarenakedLady]

28. I'm too shy.

But good luck to you if you do!

:hug:

[rainbow4321]

29. My teenager had a obsessed customer freaking us both out

She works at a movie theater and was doing concession stand. Saw the same **middle aged guy** 3 weeks in row (she works weekends). She would see him (being egged on by his older friend) looking at her and smiling, wave at her. He would always go to her line. By the third weekend I was telling to NOT leave the theater by herself. It was that third weekend that the guy asked her how old she was..."SIXTEEN", she said, "Yeah, TOO young". The guy just mumbled "oooohh, um, yeah" and walked off.

[Pushed To The Left]

30. Probably not. One thing I've noticed is that some female cashiers seem unfriendly and/or hostile

for some reason when I'm paying. Sometimes I wonder if it's because they are afraid I might try to ask them out or something if they are friendly. Most cashiers of both genders are okay, but I've noticed this a few times with young female cashiers.