Ever make a decision, and then...

[Haole Girl]

...wonder if it was the wrong one?

I mean...I've been sick, with a stomach virus all week (and a sore throat an ear ache, just 2 weeks prior to this). Considering my health, and how hard it's been (even on me), I decided to cancel a lunch meeting with my friend who has cancer. We were going to meet on Monday. I thought about it, today, and decided I didn't want to put her at risk.

Well, she called and left me a voice mail message...her voice cracked a little as she said she'll miss meeting me for lunch...and she hurriedly said good-bye. I feel awful.
I did do the right thing...right? It *is* really bad for someone fighting cancer to possibly catch a contagious virus, right.

Why do I feel so horrible, then?

[MissMillie]

1. of course you did the right thing

and I'm sure your friend knows this too. she's probably just disappointed. I'm sure she doesn't blame you; she's just going to miss you.

rescheduled as soon as you're well.

[Haole Girl]

2. Thanks

I just started to doubt myself. It was a hard decision, you know.

[bigwillq]

3. I think you did the right thing

and I think she knows that and while she may be a bit disappointed, she understands.

When you're better, you can just get together then.

:hi:

[Haole Girl]

4. Thanks...

I'm so sorry about your grandfather....
how sweet of you to think of other people at a time like this.
It just shows what a great guy you are.
:hug:

[bigwillq]

5. Thank you.

:hug: I got your myspace messages...thank you for them! :pals:

[Haole Girl]

7. You're most welcome

Let me know if I can help, okay?

:hug: :pals:

[SPKrazy]

6. If her immune system is worn down, then you are doing her a favor

and you may have a chance to catch up with her later

you probably are just being human and feeling bad because she's your friend, and you have conflicts about missing the lunch with her, and how it will affect her.

:hi:

[Ilsa]

8. Next time you see her, do something a little extra to let her

know that it was a tough choice, but you were thinking of her. It doesn't have to be aything elaborate, maybe a favorite cookie, pastry, or pint of ice cream from her favorite place. Even a lovely, organic tasty apple.

[wildhorses]

9. are you running a fever?

if you are not then you are not contagious...this is NOT medical advice.

i feel bad about this kc2...what stage is she in?

you may never have another chance...

[Haole Girl]

10. I have had a fever, as recently as this morning

...she has stage 3 cancer.

[wildhorses]

11. oh dear ---

this was set for monday right?

it is now saturday night...

are you on antibiotic?

stage 3 kc2....

honey:hug:

maybe by monday your fever will be down...

[Haole Girl]

12. I'm on antibiotics....

Just started the second round of antibiotics yesterday, in fact. Had to wait for my stomach to settle down. I just thought...after I thought about it...it was better not to take a chance...
and better not to wait until the last minute. But, believe me, it was a difficult decision. And, I do know what you are saying...about never knowing when it's the last time...

It's hard.

Thanks. WH. :hug:

[wildhorses]

15. listen ---eat some yogurt that will help with the stomach

and always eat something when you take your antibiotic.

and kc....get with her real soon ok?

don't put it off...

:hug:

[Haole Girl]

16. Thanks

And, I will...on all counts. :hug:

[Truthiness Inspector]

13. Did you explain to her why you think it isn't a good idea?

I am assuming you did, so how about making it a phone lunch date instead? Tell her you wish it could be in person, but since you don't want to compromise her health, you'll do a phone lunch date, with a real meeting to happen once you recover.

Order food to be delivered to her place and yours at a set time, and you two can talk on the phone while eating it. If you can, order a dessert too. :)

It will probably make her day, even if it's second best to seeing you in person.

[Haole Girl]

14. You know...

..that is a good idea!
I tried calling her back, because we've been playing phone tag, and left her a message.
I'm going to suggest that!! :-)

Thank you!

[Truthiness Inspector]

17. Right on, hope it works out

You sound like a great friend.

If she turns down the offer out of modesty, maybe send her some flowers that day instead with a card saying something like "we were supposed to have lunch, but please don't eat the flowers." :)

[ScreamingMeemie]

18. Awww, KC, you did the right thing.

I'm sure she's genuine in missing you and, if you explained it like you did here, will understand after she gets over the sadness of not getting to see you. Maybe you can make a big deal of the next one.

I really wish people were more considerate of my immune system. I've been battling a respiratory infection since April. :(


:hug:

[Haole Girl]

19. Thanks

It's so good to see you around. I've missed you. And, I hope you feel better, too, very soon! :hug: :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. I'm still here. But seeing as I'm batting 4/6 on posts here tonight,

I made the right decision to not hang out as much. As soon as the "crud" that inhabits this place at times clears up, I'll be back. :loveya: And you feel better too!

[Haole Girl]

21. I hear you...

Take care.

:loveya: