Have you ever gone to a concert by yourself

[NightWatcher]

Since my divorce, I have enjoyed going to things by myself (ie restaurants, and such) but I have yet to go to a concert by myself. The NightWatchman and Ben Harper are going to play relatively close to me in a couple of weeks (Myrtle Beach, SC June 14).

Should I go by myself and enjoy it redardless if I find anyone to go with?

Secondly, anyone wanna go with? haha

Tell me your lonely stories. haha, not lonely but alone and diggin it

[RedStateShame]

1. About 7 years ago, I went to see Junior Brown play. My friends stayed home and took acid.

Whatever. Had a blast. Then I went home and tried to go to sleep while 8 people wouldn't shut the goddam hell up for the rest of the night. Great show, but it's amazing how nobody left our apartment with a screwdriver in their neck.

[tigereye]

2. all the time!

and I'm married. Sometimes my husband didn't want to go, and I did. Doesn't bother me in the least.

I love music and I never let lack of company stop me from seeing a show!

[Joe Fields]

3. sure have. rarely, but if a friend or relative couldn't go, i sure didn't mind it.

[fizzgig]

4. a few times

and i love it. i'm not going to not go to a show because i can't find anyone to go with.

go and enjoy yourself!

[NightWatcher]

5. just bought the ticket

ouch ticketbastard sucks. $52.50 to see the show.

[fizzgig]

12. i hate ticketbastard

but have a great time at the show!

[ghostsofgiants]

6. Sure have.

And the first time I did it I ended hanging out with the band a little after the show.

[LeftyMom]

7. There's a show last year I skipped last year for lack of anybody to go with

and I'm STILL kicking myself for not going.

[supernova]

8. Sure

I have been to rock concerts, street fairs, classical concerts, modern dance performances. If I waited to find someone to go with. I'd never go anywhere. I don't know anyone who enjoys the same things I do, or has the time to spend with me, so... :shrug:

[kwassa]

9. I used to do it a lot

because of my esoteric taste in music I literally had no friends, male or female, who was interested in groups I wanted to see, so if I wanted to see it, I went by myself. I just love music.

Many of the concerts were free or low-cost.

My funniest one was walking out of bizarre singles dance with this organization I belonged to on New Year's Eve, and then driving by a theater where Los Lobos was playing a special gig. The scalpers outside had over-bought tickets; I got a 7th-row center seat for half the face value of the ticket, and it was a great concert. Totally spontaneous.

[Midlodemocrat]

10. "A Better Way" is one of my favorite songs.

Love, love, love the video.



Plus, my daughter's show choir does an amazing version.

[AllegroRondo]

11. yup, last Rush tour.

my wife didnt want to go.

[Rising Phoenix]

13. I went to see Primus by msyelf

when I was at UMASS amherst...at the mullins center.... I met tons of people and was able to go wherever I wanted...jumped to the floor with out having to worry about ditching the coward friend who wouldnt jump the wall....I danced, and danced and had the best time. Plenty of people willing to share fun stuff when you are there on your own.

Go for it!:thumbsup:

[Callalily]

14. Oh yes, many times.

If I want to see a particular performance, and can't find anyone to go with, I just go by myself. There's always someone to talk with. Afterall, everyone there has at least one thing in common!

Good luck!

[LynneSin]

15. Yes but only because the people who were going with me got lost

1989 and we were seeing Jimmy Page at the Spectrum in Philadelphia. My friend from Harrisburg and some of her friends were going to meet me at the Spectrum but they got horribly loss.

I ended up hanging with the people sitting near me and had a great time at the concert

[musette_sf]

16. all the time

and i usually have a much better time by myself. i meet ppl, get to chat with ppl i might not otherwise ever have met, and get a better seat if the seats are reserved.

after looking for weeks for someone to go to see Mel Torme with me at one of the downtown Houston concert halls, i finally said Screw it and bought myself one ticket. i got a GREAT seat in the 5th row even though i bought the ticket fairly late, and being all alone with my own reverie while watching and listening to Mel was far better than wondering if my companion was enjoying it all as much as i was.

i still love to go to shows by myself but no occasion to do so lately. (H issues that i won't go into on this board)

[Roon]

17. I went and saw Roger Waters by myself

Well, I wasn't really by myself...Roger was there!!

[Radical Activist]

18. Yes. A few times.

I've always met new people and had a good time. Its easier to meet people at festivals or in open lawn seating areas. A Ben Harper concert will have plenty of friendly people.

[MissMillie]

19. yep, and ball games too

And I eat out alone all the time. I just bring a good book w/ me.

[Guava Jelly]

20. I am going to one by myself for the first time

Bob Dylan in July kansas city MO

[NightWatcher]

23. I saw Bob last year, it was great

[Rambis]

21. Yes Patty Griffin last month

I have seen Danu great Irish band, Tannahill weavers great scottish band by myself. Great times!People tend to talk to you if you like the same music so it was fun each time. Of course these were hundreds of people not thousands like a big show but...

[MissMillie]

22. I'm jealous--I love Patty

She's got a great voice, and a good mind for lyrics

[Rambis]

25. She so totally rocked!

she said "since I have never played in Iowa I can pretty much do anything I want" then she launched into makin pies.

[some guy]

24. Plenty of times

Most of my life I've not been part of a couple, so if I didn't go to concerts (or other events) alone, I would have missed out on lots of good times.

Here's an alone and diggin' it story: One year for my birthday, I didn't really have any plans, but was checking the paper, and saw that Les Miserables was opening that week, so I decided to go see that for my b-day. I called for tickets, and just wanted one. The person at the ticket office said, 'If you only want one, could you make it tonight? I have a single seat in a very good location.' I said sure.

So I was 4th row center on opening night. :D
I got to sit next to the woman who did theater reviews for the local newspaper, so I visited with her about her job and such, between acts, and a bit before the opening act. I had a GREAT time!

[HughBeaumont]

26. Nearly every concert I've been to for the past 7 years has been solo.

Friends are too broke/unwilling/domesticated and the wife is too busy or can't get a sitter.

I drove all the weigh to Columbus to see Sunn O))) and saw a woman I worked with there. That took me for a loop.

[NuttyFluffers]

51. Sun O)))? O_o :D someone else knows 'the claw...'?

screw throwin' devil horns, it's all about the claw!
:evilgrin:

[HughBeaumont]

55. A RISE up and Hail "Claw"!

[Beer Snob-50]

27. went to the allman brothers by myself

as well as a few ballgames. not a big deal. before i got married i even contemplated going on vacation by myself.

[Louis Cipher]

28. I have seen thses shows by myself.

YES at Hampton Colesium
REM at William & Mary hall
Greatful Dead at RFK

I actually ran into a friends at all these shows and hung out with them except the YES show.

[KamaAina]

29. Hell, I went to *Dead shows* by myself

Not only that, I generally left those same Dead shows by myself. That's almost impossible!

Sometimes I wonder just what it is that separates me so completely from the rest of humanity. All I know is, whatever it is, it does not apply to cats.

[hippiechick]

30. Always.

People irritate me.

I hate arranging 'what time' and 'who's driving' and 'are we going anywhere after' etc etc etc .... so I've learned that my best companion is myself.

:)

[HEyHEY]

31. Yup, Dick dale - it was awesome

Couldn't find anyone to go with, and there was no way I was missing dick dale.

[Strawman]

32. Once I saw Low by myself

That's the only concert I have ever attended solo.

[Dora]

33. Best show of my life, I went solo.

It was a SXSW showcase event. My beau was still living out-of-state at the time, I had no friends who were interested in popping for a $20 cover or a $90 wristband, so I went by myself. I was bound and determined to see Spacehog while they were in town - I loved the cd I was listening to at the time. It was just an added bonus that A3 was on the marquee too, I loved "Exile on Coldharbour Lane."

I got to the club at 7:30, and managed my boredom drinking free tequila shots the tequila girls were handing out. Stood around through three mediocre and overrated acts. Spacehog was on at midnight, A3 at 11:00. Day-um. A3 kicked so much musical ass I thought I was 19 and eating acid again. What a show, what a show. Four bars into the second song of the Spacehog set, I bolted. They were insipid and dilute, and I didn't want them sullying my A3 conversion.



Ten years later I'm still throbbing with the love I felt that night.

Spacehog who?

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

34. I'm going to see Morrissey by myself Friday night

Although I did talk to someone on a fan forum whom I'm going to meet up with so we can hold each other's place in line while waiting to enter.

I go to movies, dinner, etc. by myself when Mr. DTBK is out of town. I think you should enjoy anything you want to do - don't let being alone stop you!

[Initech]

35. No way am I gonna miss my favorite bands because my broke-ass friends cant go!

[seemunkee]

36. Yes, many times

My wife doesn't like the same music as me. My son is the only one who would go with me, but he's moved out.
At clubs I usually stake out a place at the end of the bar. At larger venues, just take my seat and try to be friendly to the people sitting next to me.

[CatholicEdHead]

37. Yep, two

A John McCutcheon and Johnsmith concerts. I tried to get someone to go with me but to no avail.

[driver8]

38. I went to see Warren Zevon by myself when I lived in DC.

He was playing a solo show at the Bayou. I was interning at a local television station and the warm-up act (a comedian) was on one of our shows. I helped him out and he gave me two tickets to see Zevon.

None of my friends wanted to go with me so I went by myself (no way was I missing Zevon!). When I got to the show, there were some guys looking to buy a ticket for their friend. I gave them the extra ticket that I had as I didn't need it.

I didn't pay for a single beer the whole night!

[SteppingRazor]

39. Probably hundreds of times...

but then, I was writing a music column, so I had something to do while I was standing there by myself — take notes and shoot pictures. That said, I rarely had a bad or boring time going to concerts alone. I hung up the music column about a month ago, but I'll probably still go to concerts alone if there's something I want to see and no one will go with me.

On edit: Anyway, you should go, especially if you haven't seen Ben Harper or Nightwatchman. Harper's unbelievable, and Morello's solo work — while nothing like Rage — is definitely worth checking out as well.

[grace0418]

40. Yeah, and I had a blast. Ended up meeting people in line (it was a GA show).

Why not? I would do it again.

[jonnyblitz]

41. half the shows I see I see by myself. Though I go myself I always

seem to end up "with" people for the duration of the show. I will see Marilyn Manson/Slayer by myself this August but the other concerts I already plan to see, or have tickets for, I am with people. I actually go to more movies by myself. Many people I know would stay home rather to go by themselves.

I often have a better time when I go by myself.

[MysticalChicken]

42. I ALWAYS go to concerts by myself

...because none of my friends have the same taste in music that I do.

On Sunday I'm going to see the Arcade Fire. My favorite band! Yay!

[KG]

43. its the only way to see a concert if you are serious about the music.

i'm alone for 99 per cent of the shows i see. heck, that descibes the rest of my life. oh well. :hi:

[Omphaloskepsis]

44. I do it all of the time..

I also go to the bar by myself. It isn't difficult to strike up a conversation with people.

[Withywindle]

45. All the time!

No reason to miss good music just because you can't find a friend who's interested or free that night. Just get one of those little book lights and you can read in the dark between sets. :hi:

[Theres-a]

46. Yes

Lyle lovett,3 times! Once,I even got to meet him and get my picture with him.Sadly,he is coming to our area next month,but I won't be going.Couldn't get a good seat,even though I only wanted one!

[Burma Jones]

47. A Few

My Ride to a Tull Show in 1978 got sick, so I hitched to the Capitol Center.

I went to a Dead show solo on September 18, 1982 at Boston Garden. It was my last sojurn with hallucinogens. I went to a showing of Friday the 13th in 3D before the show......After the Dead Show, I rode the bus back to Plymouth, and had the walk the four or so miles from the town to a house I was sharing with a Band, in pitch blackness among ponds and Cranberry Bogs and barefooted because my shoes were somehow deigned to be evil. While not a specifically BAD experience, I thought that I had experienced enough mind flushes.

[hippywife]

48. No. I don't play any instruments

and I can't sing, either. }(

[enigmatic]

49. The majority of concerts I've gone to have been by myself

If it's a band I really like I prefer to go by myself because I'm concentrating on the music too much to be in a conversing mood, though Mrs E is the same way so it's not a problem now. I've met alot of cool people at shows hanging out by myself, so I guess it all evens out..

[hfojvt]

50. me too

but I have only been to about 10 concerts, and I usually go by myself because I do not have anybody to go with.

[NuttyFluffers]

52. quite often, yes!

going with friends is a totally different bag, y'know. it's fun, but for different reasons. often the concert becomes about your friends -- be it posturing, staking space, keeping everyone up, staying organized and together, finding everyone to committee vote over the most insipid things... crapola! sometimes they're fun, but often they take over the evening.

going by yourself becomes about the music. i really, really, really love music, so i find going by myself a wonderful change of pace. often my musical tastes don't match others, or our schedules don't mesh, or they got a case of the blahs and wanna go bowling or watch a game... so i go by myself and have a great time. i kinda think of it as going 'with kids' and 'w/o kids'. sometimes friends are great, but feel like family dynamics and maintenance. alone i can go buck wild and not give a toss because the only one in real danger is me. but then, alone you have no one to watch your back in case you are going too wild -- it's always nice to have someone tip you on your side when your out and vomiting.

[Forkboy]

53. Bunches of times...even in strange cities.Go...have fun!!!!!

:)

[NewWaveChick1981]

54. Yes.

:) I went to see the Psychedelic Furs in 1984 at Duke University, and nobody could go with me. I'd already bought my ticket, and the friend who usually went with me had a family emergency. I said, "Fuck it---I'll go by myself!" I had a great time, because the music was great and that was what I was there for.

On a side note, during that concert, a drunk guy (kinda cute but very drunk) grabbed my ass. :P

Edited to add: I'd already seen the Furs three times previously at Duke, but they had a new album out and I wanted to go.