Am I wrong to feel somewhat resentful?

[Darth_Kitten]

I left my former area (at work) after years of being there. I am now in a generally supportive environment with a great manager. (phew!!) Years of being unappreciated, bullied, etc, etc, with a lazy, dumb supervisor and an even dumber manager who backed her up. Really back-handed, sneaky, conniving people. Trust me on this one.

One of my friends in my former area is away on stress leave from that area. As it is, she doesn't have to contend with the lazy supervisor as she finally retired (after I left the section!) and was replaced by this guy who got promoted. He's a bit of a bully and he's been pretty hard on her. Dumping all kinds of work on her (the amount 2 or 3 people should be doing) yet not getting the other people in the section to carry their weight.
No doubt, there has been harassment for like the last 6 months or so. I've seen the emails he's sent her, not nice. :(

Well, she's off now indefinitely, got her doctor to write a note to the company advising her she can't go back, she has to be re-assigned elsewhere.


My thing: I'm a tad resentful. I went through shit for YEARS, and I mean, YEARS, until I finally made a change and left that area. I got stress leave for one week and my doctor gave me some recommendations for learning how to cope and heal, etc. PLUS, the human resources people, union people, etc, who I pleaded to help me never could seem to do more than tell ME to just, in a nutshell, learn to live with it, look at myself to see what I was doing wrong. Yeah, like doing 3 desks for weeks, if not months on end, be gossiped and lied about, and being made sick with stress. Yeah, I'll improve. :eyes:

I'm slightly torn now, her bully will be written up and what happened to mine? nothing!! I went through years of crap.

Maybe there's a small part of me that thinks maybe she's milking this slightly? I don't know.......I hate thinking about this about a friend, but that's the way I feel. :(

Am I wrong feeling resentful?

[TOhioLiberal]

1. No it's not wrong...

...it is kinda pointless, though. Perhaps her doctor is more versed in handling work stress?

[Darth_Kitten]

4. A very generous doctor........

I would say.

But at work it's like, NOW they are so concerned with workplace fairness.

Yeah, right. :eyes:

[hfojvt]

2. I would try not to feel resentful towards her

She's just getting the response that you should have gotten. Milking it? So what? It serves them right if she is.

[Darth_Kitten]

3. Yeah, it does serve them right.

that whole section is finally imploding. :)

[dropkickpa]

5. Maybe you were the one

who started to bring this shitty situation to their attention, and now, after losing one person in that area due to asshattery, they are actually gonna be doing something from here on out?

[Droopy]

6. Do not feel resentful

I know it's probably hard, but if you resist the urge you'll be happier.