Is it normal (during mid-life) ......

[Bullwinkle925]

to want to do all the wild things one did not do in the earlier years? I'm starting to yearn for things I never let myself think about during the 'responsible' years. Maybe this is a mid-life crisis?

[SPKrazy]

1. Yeah, i think it must be

gawdesses know that i have been there for a few years

:hi:

[Bullwinkle925]

3. It makes me sad to think of the life that I wish I could have had.

Realistically, I know I need to be grateful for what I actually have had.
But, there are times ....

[SPKrazy]

6. At mid life...

mortality sinks in
reality sinks in
it is natural to take an inventory
and to wonder what could have been, might have been
and to even find ways to make dreams happen
mid life career changes are not uncommon
total life direction changes happen

you're right where you are supposed to be I suspect

[Bullwinkle925]

18. waaaahhhhhhhh

:cry:

[SPKrazy]

22. wahhhhhhhhahhhh!

:cry:

(I'll join you)


:hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

31. double waahhhhhhhhhhh

:cry: :cry:

now - i must hop into the shower, dress and get myself to the grocery store.
crappity-crap.

[EFerrari]

2. Yes.

:)

[BarenakedLady]

4. Is that why

I want to go back to college, party, and take off by myself South? :shrug:

I think a lot of us go through that.

[Bullwinkle925]

5. Thelma & Louise roadtrip anyone?

We can skip the Grand Canyon part.

[BarenakedLady]

7. Great idea!

Especially if there is a Brad Pitt-looking cowboy along the way.

:thumbsup:

[EFerrari]

10. 'Long as he isn't a Republican.

:rofl:

I'm down.

[SPKrazy]

8. I wanna do that too!

and I wanna do a lot of other things and find the fountain of youth :D

:hi:

[zanne]

44. I was wild and irresponsible in my youth, so...

I'm good.

[SPKrazy]

50. Well hell...

I was wild and irresponsible in my youth, but then I sobered up and I now feel like I wasn't irresponsible long enough :P

or something like that...:shrug:

:P

[billyskank]

9. You should catch a plane to England

I think there is much fun you can have there.

[EFerrari]

11. One of my friends went over there to work and never came back.

You're right!

[billyskank]

13. See?

That's er, exactly what I meant! :D

[BarenakedLady]

Darn

I'd best get my passport updated.

:D

[billyskank]

37. No hurry

I'm not going anywhere. ;)

[Bullwinkle925]

14. I can't tell you how many times in the past 10 years or so that I've wanted to just

get into my car and drive. No itinerary - no nothing. Just freedom with the wind blowing in my hair.

What is that all about?

[EFerrari]

19. "Immaturity?" --Glenn Close, "Dangerous Liaisons"

Me, too. I think that's called the impulse to creative risk taking. :)

[Bullwinkle925]

21. That's one of my favorite movies.

And I am right there - reckless and immature. Dangerous combination.

[EFerrari]

25. Or, you're imagining choices. Maybe dangerous, maybe freeing.

:)

/typin'

[Inchworm]

15. South?

They say we talk funny down here, and eat grits. :)

:hi:

[Inchworm]

12. I am finding myself

realizing that all the wild things I have been doing the last 30 years stunted my growth. I'm just now trying consciously to have some "responsible" years.

:shrug:

[Bullwinkle925]

16. We always want the 'greener' side, don't we?

I'm just GD tired of being responsible. GD tired of being predictable.

I want something new and refreshing.

[Inchworm]

24. New and Refreshing

Yup. To me that is responsible and predictible.

:)

[BarenakedLady]

17. Dude!

Sounds like you just had a late start at being an adult.

;)

[Gidney N Cloyd]

27. It's never too late to have a happy childhood.

[BarenakedLady]

35. That's good to know

I have hope.

[Inchworm]

28. You have no idea

I'm just now getting to where I put pants on in the morning just because that is what you are supposed to do. :blush:

:hi:

[Bullwinkle925]

29. underwear (or underoos) included?

[Inchworm]

32. Rarely

Let freedom ring!

:)

[BarenakedLady]

36. LOL.

:rofl:

[Inchworm]

38. Wha?!

so.. you mean you have been wearing pants all this time?

:rofl:

Dedicating this 500th post to yer kitty. :loveya:

[BarenakedLady]

39. Awww thanks!

He's doing ok. I am noticing more drooling from that side of his mouth and less of an appetite. I hope this isn't a sign that it is going to be a quick downhill for him. :cry:

500! ALREADY! Didn't you hit 400, like yesterday? You are a chatty fellow.

:bounce: :bounce:

[Inchworm]

45. Love love love

and the occasional hunt? That will please him.

:hide:

Yea, I dont understand where these posts go. I look up and boom.

:)

[SPKrazy]

51. just look up thread

and you will see :D

:rofl:

;)

[Gidney N Cloyd]

20. Oh hell yes.

I finally got a motorcycle. I also just switched to a backpack for work like the guy in your cartoon.

[Bullwinkle925]

26. hahahahhahahahaha

i grew my hair out recently to pay homage to the ponytail again.

perhaps this is how senility begins - with regressions of these types?

[supernova]

23. I think its normal for sentient passionate intelligent people

To periodically reevaluate their lives and see of what they have is really what they want. What's more, I think it's a recurring event. Not just a "youth" thing, or "mid-life crisis" thing, either.

I know I do. And I'm there again after 10 years in this life. I'm still looking for fulfilling and sustainable work, a solid passionate relationship, *Sigh* At nearly 45, I still feel like I have this angry knot in my stomach. While I appreciate what I have achieved so far, I'm still hungry for what life has to offer that I haven't seen ... yet.

It's also unnerving to say, I don't know what I'll be doing, or who with, in five years.

[Bullwinkle925]

30. I clicked onto a DUer's post today and watched a movie clip of something

happening in his/her abode and thought - I'd like that life. Of course I have no way of knowing if that DUer is content with their life - but it just looked good to me.

[supernova]

33. Yeah, I get that twinge

sometimes also.

But I realize we all have our own paths to walk. And mine seems to be very different from others that I know, my family, and friends around here. Everybody's married, has kids, big house, stable careers. And I'm not sure they know really what to make of me: Divorced female, no kids, an intermitent career with highs and lows, pretentions of wanting to write fiction for a living, but a home that is mine for as long as I want it. :shrug:

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

34. I think you're very, very tired

You've been through so much in the last decade or so. It must quite draining for you. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

42. thanks, toots .....

but so have YOU.

Let freedom ring!!

[NewWaveChick1981]

40. Emphatically, YES.

:hi: My midlife "passage" or "crisis" or whatever you want to call it hit me like a ton of bricks not long after I hit 40. I was filled with a sense of urgency to do the things I had not yet done and to basically "fill in the blanks". I found my self again after feeling like I'd lost it over the years. It was still there, same as always, but I dusted my self off and rediscovered it. I'm glad I have it back and will never neglect it again. :)

[Bullwinkle925]

41. Good to know that it is possible.

I do hope to be able to do that one day.
:toast:

[Haole Girl]

43. What is normal?

It is common.

I'm going through the same thing, so I've been doing some reading on the subject. Some of the the articles are pretty interesting. Especially, the ones that discuss how some people will make rash decisions during this period, even though it may be a temporary phase.

It's hellacious...I know that much.

[Bullwinkle925]

46. good word - 'hellacious'....

that it IS.

[Haole Girl]

47. Yep

It is a living hell on earth. They lied when they told us adolescence would be the most difficult time in our lives, didn't they?

[Bullwinkle925]

48. Yes, they did. Rat Bastards!

[Wapsie B]

49. Oh yeah.

Do all the things you didn't do when you were 18, 20, 25. I can relate to that.

[YankeyMCC]

52. Absolutely

I freely admit that was part of my reasoning for getting a tattoo, all the hiking I'm doing, etc...etc...

Embrace and enjoy :) As I see it as long as you don't delude yourself or hurt anyone there's no problem.