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Sun Jun-03-07 02:26 PM
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At what age do you consider a person in "mid-life"? |
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Edited on Sun Jun-03-07 02:27 PM by hiaasenrocks
I guess the numbers are different for different generations, and because of medical advances, and also if you take the phrase literally as "the middle of someone's life" ;) but, I'd have to go with...40.
I realize that this is also a question of attitude and how someone approaches life.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:27 PM
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1. well since 40 is the new 20 |
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i guess 80?
i dunno, 18 year olds 50 years ago were probably more mature than most 30 year olds nowadays.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:30 PM
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6. Good point. I'm glad I wasn't 18 fifty years ago! |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:28 PM
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2. I'm 45 and I I think of anywhere from 35 to 50 is possibly mid life |
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but 40-45 is more likely, and traditionally has been that age that mid life questions are asked.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:29 PM
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3. I've been thinking about this lately because I will turn 36 on June 29th. |
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So I guess the fact that I'm starting to wonder says a lot. :)
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:35 PM
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11. Well 40 is a symbolic milestone for many |
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i know that it surprised me how much i reacted well after the fact of turning 40. i mean, it's just a day and not much different from 39 or 38 for that matter.
yeah, the fact that you begin to even wonder says a lot.
good luck with it! you are as young as you feel, and taking care of yourself is the best solution!
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:49 PM
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21. The 30s. Great years. Don't even worry about it but enjoy! |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:37 PM
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13. But that means I'm elderly! |
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I don't mind being called "middle aged" or "older". But elderly? Never! (I'm 55)
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:30 PM
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4. When your confidence is greater than your insecurity |
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Edited on Sun Jun-03-07 02:38 PM by sfexpat2000
that's mid-life.
:rofl:
/ack, your/you're
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:31 PM
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That means I still have a loooooong way to go.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:33 PM
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9. Ha ha. Good, then I'm nowhere close to it. |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:35 PM
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12. I'm there and most of the time, I LOVE it. Except for that bikini thing. |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:56 PM
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27. good description of the feeling psychologically |
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i think you are correct
in my case at least
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:00 PM
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32. We are slow learning creatures but we're teachable. |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:30 PM
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that I will take after my 102 year old maternal grandmother. So then I won't actually be at mid life until about 50 or so. Hehehe.
I hope I am that lucky. I'm only 1 1/2 from 40.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:31 PM
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7. Some months ago somebody posted a thread asking when "middle age" is |
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which is pretty much the same question, and I was struck by the number of 40- and even 50- somethings saying that "middle age" was older than whatever their age was.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:40 PM
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14. That's cause most of us 40-50 people feel exactly the same as we did |
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Edited on Sun Jun-03-07 02:40 PM by sfexpat2000
when we turned 30.
And some of us look mostly the same, too.
Except that neck thing. Fuck Nora Ephron. :mad:
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:42 PM
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I feel the same at 30 as I did at 18. So I don't find it hard at all to believe I will still feel the same at 40, or even 50.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:46 PM
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19. I think I freaked my younger kid out by waking up on my 30th |
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birthday and yelling, "Now I can tell everyone to F#CK OFF!" He still remembers that and he was like 9 at the time. lol
Maybe we're like Jello and after a certain point, we're set. I can still do all the stuff I did 20 years ago and most of the time, I can't believe how quickly time has passed.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:33 PM
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10. If I average the lifespan of my four grandparents, |
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then forty-six would be half way.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:43 PM
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17. Cr@p! Cant' you recalculate that? |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:42 PM
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16. Julio Franco is 48. When he finally retires from baseball that'll be the |
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new benchmark for the start of middle age.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:48 PM
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:52 PM
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22. Well, they are the "BOYS of summer" now, aren't they? |
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Plus Franco's from the Dominican Republic so he might actually be in his 50's. :-)
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:53 PM
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24. Maybe that's why I enjoy baseball more and more every year. |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:45 PM
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18. Anybody who is at least 10 years older than me. |
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This opinion is becoming increasingly ridiculous as I get older...
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:52 PM
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:55 PM
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I couldn't even find my own foot until I was 38.
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:57 PM
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28. Baby or not, it's still middle age. |
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I know a lot of 35-40 year babies. :rofl:
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:03 PM
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and may never grow up myself. :rofl:
BTW, this is how I figured out it was 36.
Senior citizens are defined as 65 so mid life of that is 32.5.
Life expectancy for women is 80 so mid life of that is 40.
About an 8 year difference there so add 4 to one, or take 4 from the other, it's 36.
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:04 PM
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35. Growing up is highly overrated, imho. |
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:10 PM
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37. It really isn't the chronological mid life I don't think |
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most people developmentally begin to look at their life with some level of introspection and questioning sometime between that 36 and maybe even as high as 50-55?
I think what people call a mid life "crisis" is really a normal stage of development that is handled by people differently based on their level of maturity, their handling of other developmental stages, and their resources.
A time of looking at where you are in life, vs. where you want to go.
That seems to be the developmental task, along with the idea of passing it on to the next generation as well.
:shrug:
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:29 PM
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41. Mid life crisis seems to involve feeling loss or regret for stuff |
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you haven't tried or done yet.
And it seems to happen just about at the time when you can try it or do it.
I'm all for mid life crisis. Mine got me painting and writing as I never had the confidence to do in my 20s. Now, bailing on your family, buying a sports car and becoming a casino habituee might be more problematic.
lol
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:45 PM
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bailing meaning leaving is one thing, abandoning them without resources and ignoring them is a major problem
but a lot of people realize that they got married for the wrong reasons and they come to terms with it one way or another it seems.
:shrug:
sounds like you found some positive outlets for changing
:hi:
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:54 PM
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44. It's a lot like revisiting adolescence, isn't it? |
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Sun Jun-03-07 10:46 PM
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55. OMG! I hope you enjoy these years! I sure did! |
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:53 PM
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25. I'm planning on being 150, so |
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75 is middle-aged for me! ;-)
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:59 PM
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150 eh?
Well I better get my butt to the gym more :shrug:
or something
:D
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:02 PM
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I've seriously fallen off that wagon the past few months. :D
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:06 PM
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36. I've been working my way back |
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but for some reason I can't get the rhythm going again...:shrug:
I was at the point where I felt bad if I didn't go at least every other day
Now I have to make myself go.
:D
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:18 PM
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40. Or do something you like more. |
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I used to run and memorize verse but it got so boring, it became a chore. My walks now are much more fun. I walk in Golden Gate Park or on the beach and have a great time taking note of the wildlife or just watching people or watching my pup discovering things for the first time.
The program has to engage me or it won't be a go. Life is too short to force yourself to do something that doesn't interest you, imho. :shrug:
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:50 PM
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I won't/can't run due to my knees.
I love to bike, but i really like to do it where i won't get run over LOL
but i do like going to the gym usually, but lately i've been to where i go and i have to drag myself to do anything, much less drag myself there.
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:56 PM
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45. You might want to consider that you're dealing with the D word. |
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And you know you have my thoughts and wishes. :hug:
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Sun Jun-03-07 02:59 PM
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31. I'm 44 and I ain't there yet |
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I keep moving the goalposts, though. I still seem young to myself. Maybe when I'm 75 (if I live that long) I'll see things differently.
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:13 PM
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I only think of "mid-life" as an insult when my mother-in-law applied it to me. Why does she think that I would die before the age of 60 when all my youngest grandparent died at over 70 (and he was a heavy smoker).
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:15 PM
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39. It totally depends on the person. |
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I'm in "midlife", but it in no way means I'm on the downhill turn. :P
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Sun Jun-03-07 03:58 PM
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46. I'm 40. I figure that's "mid-life". |
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I don't plan on living past 80, so the math works out pretty well.
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Sun Jun-03-07 04:03 PM
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47. I've seen people in their 80's act youthful. |
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And I've seen those in their 20's act like life was over. Me for one.
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Sun Jun-03-07 07:58 PM
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53. My mom is mentally younger than I am and she's 75. |
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lol
And a huge troublemaker, at that. :evilgrin:
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Sun Jun-03-07 04:40 PM
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50. Sometimes I feel like my life is over, other times like it's just beginning. |
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My mother died at 49, my dad at 52. They were way too young to go.
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Sun Jun-03-07 04:45 PM
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since the average life expectancy is around 80
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Sun Jun-03-07 04:49 PM
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52. I think it was Dustin Hoffman who reaches age 60 in August -- is now convinced he's past mid-life. |
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Edited on Sun Jun-03-07 04:52 PM by Radio_Lady
He was interviewed recently and stated something like "I'm more than halfway and know the end is much nearer now."
I just turned 68 last month, and hubby will be 73 this month. It does give someone a good dose of perspective. Even 50 is stretching it in my humble opinion.
Maybe 40 or possibly 45 would be my guess. But who knows -- for any one individual?
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Sun Jun-03-07 11:16 PM
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56. I was always a wild and crazy girl...very independent. & lived an .. |
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adventurous life, traveled and moved from place to place, across country to LA...no kids to make me be responsible....met the love of my life at 33, married at 37 & unfortunately divorced at 47. I'm 50 now and still feel like my life hasn't even begun, although the reality of my age is setting in fast lately. I used to not think much about it at all...dated men 20 yrs my jr and thought nothing of it. Just lately have I realized that I should probably start acting my age.
So in answer to the question, I guess I'd say 50.
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