I can't stand being directly told what to do, or what I should do, or what I should think

[bigtree]

Everything I do revolves around that, even when I'm busy complying. I suspect I'll be that way for the rest of my life.

Just thought I'd share that.

[crim son]

1. I'm the same way and always have been.

I'll resist complying without knowing I'm doing it... you know... "forget" to do something over and over again because I didn't like being told to do it in the first place. The workplace is a constant stress for me, so much so that I use reverse psychology to help overcome my resentment i.e. I pride myself on ass-kissing. At least then I have some control. :D

[femmocrat]

2. That is probably why you post here instead of freerepublic.

:shrug:

[wildhorses]

3. i despise it!!!

especially on my bad days...

[Nikia]

4. At work, I prefer being told what to do

Because those who do the wrong thing, get yelled at and often personally insulted. It also means that they have to do more work, correcting their mistakes. If I do what I am told, it is less likely that I will do the wrong thing, although sometimes when I do what my boss says that is actually the wrong thing. Working for someone else is about doing what you are told.

[graywarrior]

5. Cats. We're all cats here.

[Adsos Letter]

6. You should knock this crap off...NOW...and stop thinking that way!

:D :hi:

[bigtree]

7. no

:P

[GoddessOfGuinness]

8. You should get bent out of shape when being directly told what to do

or what you should do, or what you should think.
:*

[bigtree]

12. I think I'll try passivity this week

just for the heck of it :eyes:

[Redstone]

9. Then you'd have liked working for me, back when I was in management.

I never told anyone specifically what to do. When they asked, I'd tell them "This is how I'd handle it. If you can think of a better way, do it that way, and let me know how if your way worked better than mine."

I learned a lot from the times when my people came up with a better way to handle things.

Redstone

[zanne]

13. I couln't possibly manage anybody....

My attitude is that other people don't have the right to tell me what to do and I don't have the right to tell other people what to do. (directly). Yeah--my resume is less than spectacular.

[bigtree]

16. some folks just beg for you to tell them what to do next,

or always telling you what they're doing, or going to do.They try and draw you into the game, but I push that off too. I think the reason I can't stand to direct their day comes from raising two boys, and being (almost) completely done with all of that responsibility, I just don't feel like telling folks what to do in any shape or form. I'd like to be done with all of that forever.

And, the job I hold now isn't (mostly by choice) the most important position I've held in my lifetime, by far.

[treestar]

20. You are an ideal manager!

:yourock:

[idgiehkt]

10. Comply.

[Ptah]

11. Welcome home

The future is tomorrow

[Random_Australian]

14. I laugh at stuff like that - I take more umbrage when people try and tell me

what I do think, rather than what I should think.

Clue to the various morons I've met: You wanna know what I think about something? Ask me, don't tell me. Because not asking questions is how morons stay morons.

[Forkboy]

15. That's why we see such a wide range of thought here..

..and why so many of us butt heads in GD.I see a LOT of absolutes thrown about in those forums,as I'm sure you do as well.

I suspect at the end of the day if the DUers who don't get along here sat down with one another over a beer or something they'd get along great.

[bigtree]

18. we'd get along great . . . for a while

but unless we stay eternally polite, all of our traits (favorable and not) come rushing forth, sooner or later. Especially if I start drinking beer. :9

[BarenakedLady]

17. Me too.

It does cause me some problems on occasion.

[treestar]

19. I am exactly the same way

Being a lawyer, the words "must" and "shall" have been read by me too many times.

I am sick of absolutes and rules and assholes who think their word is law.

:hi:

[lildreamer316]

21. Are you a Leo?

We are SO like that!

[bigtree]

23. Libra

but, Leos and Libras are tight

[CBHagman]

22. At this time in my life, that's an issue for me too.

Unsolicited advice, pronouncements, judgments, micromanaging -- the list of behaviors that foul up human relationships (and someetimes destroy them) seems to be endless, and my meek acceptance of it is at an end.

Much of this is perfectly accepted in American society, especially the unsolicited advice. Raise your hand if the mere mention of a problem or frustration causes your SO, parent, or other to announce, "What you need to do is...."

But I have never heard anyone say, "Why, thank you for your one-sentence solution to my rather complex problem. The next time you are upset about something, I'll be equally dismissive!"

It's natural to give out advice (and some people assume that's their role, and that it's helpful), but it actually can put a strain on relationships.

On edit: Here are some tidbits from Santa's Little Helpers, as I like to call those who give unsolicited advice:

*That I should quit my job, self-insure, and live on my savings.

*That I should wear a particular type of shoe so as to attract a romantic partner (I wish to heaven I were making this up...)

*That I couldn't go around believing "liberal" newspapers (Said by a hysterical right-winger waving a newspaper).

And so on. The fun never ends...

[bigtree]

24. that's it

Some folks say that the older you get, the more you let things slide, but I find that I'm fighting for every inch of what I want. Things seem more precious, more important, not less.

I like thinking on my feet. It's one of my greatest joys in life; doing things at my pace and priority. I almost always finish first and effectively, so the outside nattering is mostly irrelevant to me. I know what I have to do, and I choose the order in which I do it, well aware of most of the obstacles and minutia.

I'll admit that I look aloof and like I'm in need of a push, but that's deliberate; just another rebellion, I suppose. Control over what I do is the most important thing to me right now, and, while outside advice is probably well-meant, I'm a complete ass when someone finally manages to lay it on me.

[jollyreaper2112]

25. you should do something about that.

Seriously.

[bigtree]

26. I'll get right on that

:evilgrin: