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Long, involved story that is now turning even more uncomfortable...and I'm wondering if we're doing the right thing, because I'm a nice, giving type of person anyway - and yet, I feel as if I'm being taken advantage of...
A gay friend of the kidlet and his mom found themselves out of their apartment when it went condo - back last December. She works a clerical/LVN job that doesn't really pay squat anymore (a little over $13 an hour) along with a $250 a month student loan payment that won't take into consideration that she's a single mother with no child support (dad's in the county lockup for the next 5 years). As they were bleeding money staying in a hotel and the kidlet had a 3 week visitation with her mom and was the one who brought it up in the first place, we told them they could hang out at our 2 bedroom, 1 bath house until they got settled. Everyone figured that this would be until the middle of February, as Mom was expecting a rather large tax return and was taking a second job to pay for the store room they had to take and could save money for deposit/rent/moving et all and still have enough left over to start payment on the braces Friend needed. Rents average around $800 for decent one bedrooms, $1000 for decent 2 bedrooms, and everyone checks credit religiously, especially, unfortunately, when dealing with single parent families with a minority background.
Things were a bit stressed around the smallish house (950 sq ft) with now 5 adult people, three in one bedroom, one bathroom, a small kitchen and refrigerator, two indoor cats (one elderly and incontinent) a very stupid indoor dog, and one family computer. Apparently, Friend and Mom both have MySpace accounts and like to spend a lot of time on the computer. Which frosts the Kidlet, as she also has a very active MySpace account and lots of friends from out of state she chats with regularly. Did I mention that both kids are a very young 15, and both have emotional social issues?
February comes around. Three Apartment possibilities - including one where a deposit was actually given - which all fall through.
March - Grandma loses her job - grandma was apparently going to pay the outstanding costs for the braces - and since the covered portion of the new braces were already in Friend's mouth, Mom had to use the rest of the tax money to pay for braces. Oh, and did I mention Friend is now in Varsity Cheer? And was required to go to Cheer Camp this summer, another $400 upfront for camp and for the uniforms if he wanted to be in Varsity Cheer next year.
April - rentmate possibility with co-worker and boyfriend that had a nice, 4 bedroom house at $600 a month for two bedrooms falls through; boyfriend apparently does not want a teenager living with them. About now, "rent" to us, about $50 a month, stops coming in. "Still looking" but Mom's money is starting to hemorrhage; she quits second job because of issues with part-time hours.
May - Mom is looking (apparently not too actively) for apartment and second job. Friend is getting new clothes, from discount stores, true, and a new cell phone and plan. End of month, we - I find the place for her and take her in to look at it - find a nice large 1 bedroom apartment with a "cubby" that can be used as a second bedroom for $825. And she finds a second job. Between two paychecks, she gets through the property manager's TRW check and gives them the deposit. She promises us they'll be getting the key by the 8th after she pays rent from two more paychecks, and we offered to help her clear out her store-room, move out - and take her shopping at the commissary to stock her refrigerator and sundries inexpensively. Meantime, since the middle of May, I've been buying groceries for the entire household of 5 plus animals; saving up for the deposit, the rent, the storage, the braces, the new phone, and Cheer Camp leaves Mom with no money whatsoever.
Well, yesterday, she tells me, while I'm taking her to work on my way to work, that she doesn't have enough to pay the rent for the new place to pick up the key this week, also, the manager told her about another place that will be opening up by the end of the month that's a bit smaller, but only $700 a month...and her deposit can be used at the new place. Oh, and her "new job" isn't working out either, she's not working enough hours, unlike the first new job, so she's thinking of quitting and looking for some part-time job that will give her hours enough to pay for rent.
That's pretty much where DH sort of loses it. It's been a strain, this isn't the first time things have fallen through for them, our lease is coming up at the end of the month and we're due for an inspection - there's obviously 5 people living here and our lease does not allow for anyone other than who is on the lease. It doesn't matter if they "make themselves scarce" the day of the inspection, it's just real obvious there's 2 more people, one a boy living here. And even though they're nice people, it's gotten too much - the kids are starting to argue, the bathroom basically has a ticket dispenser on the door ("now serving, number 27, number 27, you can come in now...") I'm feeding everyone, utilities are going up, food is going up, I'm playing taxi...
We've even offered to pay the remainder of the outstanding rent for this one apartment - apparently $250 before they can move in. And offered to help them through the beginning of next week, as the key can't be picked up until Monday right now. But I think Mom now wants the cheaper apartment, sight unseen, that opens up next month, as she's claiming that they'll just "move into a hotel" until supposedly next week. At this point, the suspicions are that she doesn't have the rent, that she just split the deposit up between four paychecks, and she's now trying to save up first months rent, because of the amount of money she seems to be spending on her kid and the rest of her family.
Are we being bad? Taken advantage of? Or being responsible, caring adults?
I just need to vent, but come hell or high water, they're out of here by Monday/Tuesday.
Haele
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