In a 20 year marriage

[kimmerspixelated]

is sex twice or maybe once a month, okay? I mean, if it's always great? Isn't quality better than quantity? I get a hang dog, dead- bird look from my husband when it happens less. Why do men take it so friggin personal!!! Argh!

[greatauntoftriplets]

1. This oughta be interesting...

:popcorn:

[MistressOverdone]

2. Twice a month sounds fine to me

but my husband never agrees with me. Maybe the calendar on the bedroom wall annoys him?

[kimmerspixelated]

4. I guess having a penis means you are wired different,

but hell, I get horney, too! Sex is great, it's just not the same to me as it is to him. I suppose every man is the same way. I wish they could really understand and just deal with it!!

[Lyric]

3. I don't feel that I'm qualified to give an opinion here...

My "marriage" is only 8 years old, we have had sex four times. Just this morning. ;)

Seriously, though--so long as both partners are happy with it, that's all that matters.

[kimmerspixelated]

5. Ahh, apparently no kidz?

[Lyric]

6. One kid--7 years old

Thankfully, we have a friend staying with us for a few days, and she was willing to keep an eye on him while he played outside this morning. :)

[kimmerspixelated]

7. Really????

You mean, you can have sex when someone else is awake and in your house? Oh, I'm far too noisey for that!

[Lyric]

10. She was outside with the kidlet, recall

Thank goodness for loud window unit air conditioners :rofl:

[SOteric]

8. 20 years of marriage,

or 14 days of lust, the amount of sexual intimacy appropriate to a couple is best determined by that couple.

We've got no clue what the dynamics of your relationship are like.

If you're all about you right now, do what makes you comfortable. If you're all about sarifice, do what makes him happy. If you're all about a healthy relationship with two relatively happy participants, negotiate 'til you're both comfortable.

[BrotherBuzz]

11. Word!

:thumbsup:

[crim son]

9. I think it's okay, but not what a man prefers.

The problem, to my mind, is deciding whether to go for it as a "gift", so to speak, and risk it being a bad experience; or reserve your willingness for those times when you are better able to respond, and risk his feeling ignored/unloved/whatever. Either way somebody makes a sacrifice unless you have the good fortune of having the same levels of desire throughout the marriage. I hear it happens! :eyes:

[SarahB]

12. I guess that depends on what you both enjoy.

I think open communication and compromise are a couple's best friend no matter what type of relationship or how long.