My lady friend broke up with me.

[DainBramaged]

My first relationship in the many years since I was divorced. Something about being a sweet person who deserves everything blah blah blah must concentrate on work blah blah blah maybe someday blah blah lies bullshit blah blah in an email. I didn't see it coming, but I should have, She didn't answer her phone all weekend. She wasn't as Conservative as she professed to be, but it sucks nonetheless.

It sucks when you are grey and the future is dimming for you. It sucks being alone everyday with no one but your pets and the TV to talk to. It sucks every night with no one to say goodnight to. It sucks seeing everyone else with someone.

I'll be back later. I just need to get caught up with a few things.

[MissMillie]

1. I'm sorry, hon

I feel your pain. I really do.

I'm almost 43 and I've never been married. 25 years of dating people and NONE of them have wanted to stick around.

The pool of available people is shrinking, my standards are getting higher and I'm feeling older, more lonely, and less hopeful than ever.

:hug:

I feel your pain.

[WinkyDink]

35. One of my female colleagues just got engaged---never been married---at age 56.

[DainBramaged]

38. That's great I love to hear that

[ThomCat]

2. I'm sorry.

My current relationship is fading and we both know it. I'm wondering what will come afterward. :(

[DainBramaged]

14. Fading is worth fighting for

My situation wasn't due to the relationship, it was my ex's health.

Ah the smell of making Sunday breakfast for your friend and lover.

I miss that tremendously.

Thanks

[malta blue]

3. I am sorry DB...

:hug:

You will find that person who is the right one for you...I truly believe that.

[DainBramaged]

9. At this point I'll take almost ok!

:hi:

Thanks for the kind words

[malta blue]

52. It will happen - really

:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

4. I'm sorry

That sucks.

:hug:

[Debi]

5. Sorry DB

:hug:

[TZ]

6. I feel for you...

Its the old "distraction" routine which I have gotten on more than one occasion. I am 38 and never married as well. Have almost given up on men entirely..I have cats instead....:hug:

[patricia92243]

7. So sorry! I just started again at age 63 and it is not fun :( Hope you will find someone even bet

better than the one who was so mean to you.

Wish you were my age and lived in NC :)

[DainBramaged]

8. Hell I'm 56 I AM your age LOL

It's been a tough ride. I waited almost 9 years after my ex left to try and date again, and my first effort was fruitless. :cry:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

10. A few years ago, I played for the wedding of a young couple in their late 70s.

Neither had ever been married before. They met at the retirement home where they lived.

Sometimes, when the future seems dimmest, someone comes along to help light the way. :hug:

[DainBramaged]

11. I hope I don't have to wait until I'm in a "home".

:hi:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

13. I'd be surprised if you did...

because you really are a sweet person who deserves everything. And I'm not just blahing you. :hug:

[Kajsa]

12. I'm sorry , DainBramaged.

Yep being alone sucks, sometimes.

Even those who " have " someone can be alone.

Reality check here, it may seem like everyone else is with someone,
BUT THEY'RE NOT.

There are lots of lone stars out there.

Hang in there, DB.

:hug:

[SammyWinstonJack]

54. No Kidding!

Even those who "have" someone can be alone. Even worse, imho.

[HEyHEY]

15. Someone needs a trip to the peeler bar

Look at it this way, now you get to sleep with other women!

[Debi]

16. And HEyHEY chimes in with the asshole comment of the day!

:rofl:










:hide:

[HEyHEY]

20. Hey, if there's one thing a freshly single man needs

It's a buddy standing behind him to make assholish and insesitive comments. Cause men know, when it REALLY counts there buddies won't make such comments.
So, if you're in it and no one has made a smartass comment yet, you KNOW you're in serious trouble.

[Debi]

23. I gotta go home...but I'm glad you're here for DB tonight

:hi:

[DainBramaged]

17. I've stopped counting the years since I did

Conversation and a hot dinner are more prized right now.


Thanks for the laugh.

[HEyHEY]

21. Seriously though, dude

You'll be fine. You met this one, didn't you? You'll meet another.

[DainBramaged]

24. Took nine yeas, next one I'll be maybe 66 with false teeth? No

[alarimer]

18. It's her loss

I know people say that all the time but it really is true.

I feel the same way- I have not had a real relationship ever. A few false starts but no one who wanted to stay around. And you know what, it hurts to be alone. But it hurts more to be with someone that doesn't really want you.

[DainBramaged]

22. My original long term relationship/marriage was about 23 years total

Where do you go after being with the same person for so long and then going nearly a decade alone? Lost opportunities, wasted moments? Or just self-flagellation for not deciding to do something sooner.:shrug: :hi:

[Omphaloskepsis]

25. Take action..

Wasting today thinking about wasting yesterday is really a recipe for failure. Get pro-active and go meet a nice lady. I know it is hard, the rewards might just be worth it.

Good Luck.. And remember the last one found something in you that made her want to spend time with you. It would be crazy to think others won't find the same thing.

[Zookeeper]

19. Oh, I'm sorry, DB!

That sounds very disappointing.

:hugs:

[no name no slogan]

26. What a shitty way to break up with someone

She did it in an EMAIL? :wtf:

How cowardly. You definitely deserve better than that.

Take care of yourself. I'm in a similar situation right now, and I can relate. Hang in there, it will get better.

:hug:

[DainBramaged]

28. Yeah, in a freaking email

Talk about devastation. It took me a week to get past it and write about it here.


An email.

[Olney Blue]

37. Broke up in an email?

That's way harsh.

I hope you are better soon- I've always liked you on this board!

[StarryNite]

27. Time to get involved with

things you enjoy doing. Who knows, you just might find your special someone who enjoys doing those very same things. And if not well at least your time was spent in an enjoyable way. Find a good Democratic candidate in your area and help with their campaign. And be glad you didn't spend one more day with the wrong person. Being alone is not the same thing as being lonely. There are a lot of lonely people who are in relationships.

[DainBramaged]

29. I understand that completely

But when you come home from a hard days work, the only friend you have other than the cats and dogs who pile all over me (a good thing) is your microwave. It's hard to find friends who are alone like me who love the same things I do too. I've been trying to find them for years, but almost all have a family to go home to.

Thanks.

[StarryNite]

30. I think most of us have been

there at one time or another. I know I have. But it was a whole lot better than living a lie in a marriage that wasn't working. And I wasn't the one who wanted it to end. However, I soon realized it was for the best. I worked and had two dogs waiting for me when I got home. I didn't even have a microwave, they hadn't been invented yet! And you have all kinds of other neat things these days like DVDs and computers to keep you busy. It's really hard going through a break-up. It's a loss and there is a period of mourning. That's all normal. But you need to find hobbies and interests. And don't go looking for another person. For some reason that never works. Just look for other things that bring you happiness. My mother died a year ago. My dad is 91 and they were married almost 68 years. My dad retired years ago but now he keeps busy with bike riding and jigsaw puzzles and cooking for himself and cleaning the house. I know it's lonely for him but he just keeps on keepin' on. You're going to do just fine. We're here for ya! :hug:

[DainBramaged]

31. Thank you

My Mom is 89. maybe we can hook her and your Dad up?? :hi: :loveya:

[StarryNite]

32. Now there's an idea!

:hi: My parents were both born in NJ. Actually, I was too. So if your mom lives there then they would already have something in common.

[DainBramaged]

33. My Mom won't fly any more

Still lives BY HERSELF in the house we grew up in, will have NO part of living with her children or in a "home". Sharp as a tack, hates *ush, loves the Yankees, LOL.

[StarryNite]

36. She sounds like a great lady.

Sounds a lot like my dad. But dad's not a lady. LOL He's as sharp as a tack too, great sense of humor, lives alone, hates *ush, not really into baseball but he would probably pick the Diamondbacks. Gotta go with the home team.

[WinkyDink]

34. It's why we're here. Community.

[u4ic]

39. I'm so sorry, DainBramaged

You've got to grieve now, but I hope that the very fact that you did find someone - even for such a short time - may give you some hope.

In the meantime, plenty of :hug: :pals: :grouphug:

[DainBramaged]

40. It's a very difficult situation when you are too old for the clubs and bars

And the online dating services are filled with people way too picky for their circumstance and age. I am even thinking about joining World Gym when my Carpal Tunnel is operated on next month. I am strong and very fit for my age, but that doesn't seem to be such an attraction to my peers.

Maybe I need to shoot for other insecure people LOLOL! :silly: :silly: :silly:

[SlavesandBulldozers]

41. you know how to get over a girl?

heheheh. i can't say it.

[DainBramaged]

43. Gettin over was the easy part, facin bein alone again is the hard part

[SlavesandBulldozers]

55. definitely. don't be alone.

plan things with friends. get out. whatever you do. go out.

[NC_Nurse]

42. Wow. An email, that sucks.

Reminds me of the Sex in the City episode where SJP's boyfriend breaks up with her on a post-it note.

Lame.

You'll find someone better. :)

[crim son]

44. I empathize.

It seems terribly bleak. I wish you strength to get through it.

[DainBramaged]

46. Thanks. life has been harder, but tit's tough being on the brink

of called "Pops" by the kids and not having someone looking over my shoulder while I type.

[crim son]

47. I know it so well and only wish

that my understanding could somehow make it easier for you. Instead I tell myself that this is something that must be borne. How, why, I am not sure!

[Generic Brad]

45. So sorry for your loss

I have no trite advice or schmaltzy words of encouragement to offer. I'm just sorry to hear you're having a rough time.

[Connonym]

48. ...

:hug: Count me among the astounded that she did it by email. That's cold. I'm sorry.

[DainBramaged]

53. Well, she said she was a Conservative from the beginning.......

I'll never know what really happened, but when you're in your middle 50's you would think finding someone would be wondrous. For her, she may have just gotten cold feet but I'm giving her too much credit.:banghead:

[Omphaloskepsis]

49. E-mail.. Thats fucked up.

I always wanted to break up with someone via light bulb. Write a message on the bulb and have it projected onto the wall when they turn on the light. That would be classy.

[DainBramaged]

51. But still painful and as cowardly as an email

Hmmm I wish I had Had that opportunity.:evilgrin:

[Callalily]

50. So sorry to hear that!

I'm not one to give relationship advice. Haven't deeply cared for someone in several years, and realistically, I think I'll be solo for the rest of my life.

All I can offer you are >>>>>> Hope your heart heals fast.

[legally blonde]

56. I'm so sorry, DB

My ex (of 3 1/2 years) broke up with me via email, too (I was pretty shocked as well, especially because we were engaged). It took me a while to get over the hurt and anger, but I did. And I definitely know how it feels to be "the only one" without someone (the last of my friends from college just got married on Saturday). But, being in a relationship doesn't mean you're not alone and not being in a relationship doesn't mean you are.

It's okay to be sad (but not forever!), and you always have lots of people here to lean on when you need it! :hug:

[DainBramaged]

58. Thank you, it was the inconsideration and cowardice of using email that pissed me off

And all of the bullshit condescending language, as if I was a child being patted on the head.


Fuck that noise.

[smtpgirl]

57. I have been in three serious relationships

and have not found anyone yet.

I am a gay woman, and at this point am single and loving it.

I know you have to go through all of the changes, but being single is not that bad.

I know you will find someone that is better suited for you as I know I will, but hang tough DainBramaged, there is a better life for you in the future!!!

[Maraya1969]

59. Don't quit! Go here. It really is a great free dating site. All sorts of

gatherings posted for your area. They have forums and chat rooms too. I'm dating a guy now that I met on this site.

http://www.plentyoffish.com/