I've been undumped.

[crim son]

He thought I didn't like him.

Just keeping you updated!

[NewWaveChick1981]

1. I didn't get to respond to your earlier thread, but...

...:hug: I'm happy for you! :) :D :pals: I hope he's not playing games, but it doesn't sound like it.

[crim son]

3. I don't think he plays games... I think he's insecure as hell

and unable to acknowledge it. I guess I'm happy for me too. It's sort of cute... he is flawed, just like me!

Thanks, NWC! :pals:

[RetroLounge]

2. Get off the roller coaster...

RL

[crim son]

4. Good answer.

He assures me I won't have to go through this again and I believe him.

I hope you're well, Retro.

[malta blue]

5. Congrats crim son!

:hug:

I hope it all works out well for you!

[BarenakedLady]

6. I hope it works out, hon

Be careful.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

7. My dear crim son...

Glad to hear you've been undumped!

It is sooooo important to keep those lines of communication open, sweetie!

And please do keep us updated....We need to know what's happening...

You matter... :hug:

[Inchworm]

8. I'm hoping the best for ya!

but.. oh my gawd.. keep your eyes and ears opened :)

:hi:

[Zavulon]

9. Even without the benefit of knowing anything other than

what's been posted in this thread and a few others, my advice to you is to run. I've seen dozens of stories like this in my lifetime and not a single one turned out well.

I don't know you well, obviously, and this really isn't any of my business, but I'll throw caution to the wind anyway: there is nothing whatsoever to be gained by continuing in a relationship with an insecure man (or woman - believe me, I know), especially one who dumps you and then backtracks this quickly. There are very few cut-and-dry situations which can be accurately diagnosed from a distance with such limited information, but this actually is one of them. RUN. Run like Mexican tap water through a first-time tourist.

Tell him his first instinct was right, and then dump him. Trust me. You'll be glad you did, and (hate to sound like a chain letter here) you'll be sorry if you don't. Hope I didn't overstep my bounds here, but I've never been more certain of anything. I'd hate to see you get hurt, and that's the road you're on if you stay with an insecure jerk.

Good luck.

(Edit, typo)

[Bunny]

10. Agreed.

100% :thumbsup:

[MissMillie]

15. yep

this guy said he was leaving you because you were insecure, and it turns out he was the one with the issue.

What other of his issues is he going to project on you?

[Shakespeare]

23. Well said, and agreed.

You summed up exactly what I was thinking. :hi:

[Zavulon]

28. Thanks

:hi:

I'd normally never be that frank to a relative stranger in the middle of an obvious ups-and-downs relationship, but we've all seen this story too many times and it never ends well.

Crim son, I can't stress this enough: press "eject" and get out of this immediately.

[Shakespeare]

29. Yep, and I'll add (wanting crim son to see this!):

You are a lovely, intelligent, funny woman (from what I've seen on DU), so do not, under any circumstances, no matter what kind of hideous relationship ugliness you've gone through in the past year, do not undervalue yourself as a person generally, and as a woman specifically.

What he's done is a textbook definition of projection, and it hurt you in the process. I'd run like the wind if I were you.

Being alone may suck, but it's still FAR preferable to ending up with a headcase or any other subset of "unhealthy jerk."

Whatever you decide, though, I wish you much luck and happiness. :hug:

[cwydro]

11. Ya know

I predicted this to myself...and that scares me a little. This is sounding very familiar to me.

Please be careful Crimmie. Guard your heart.

[Lil Missy]

12. Proceed with caution ...

[Writer]

13. I am glad for you.

And I hope it works out well.

:hug:

Just a thought, though: Didn't he tell you that YOU were insecure? (or is that what you were thinking?) I ask because it sounds like he's insecure.

Writer.
:hi:

[u4ic]

14. So instead of sitting down with you,

discussing any feelings that he had, any concerns regarding the relationship, anything that he needed clarification on - he just dumped you? On that premise?

He also didn't trust you enough that if you didn't like him, you wouldn't be with him?

[Dr. Strange]

16. Cool!

Swear to God, though, when I first saw the subject line I thought you were doing a copycat thread!

By brain hurtz sometimes...

Congrats

:toast:

[Aristus]

17. Sounds like a recipe for happiness, crim son.

I was dumped and then un-dumped probably fifty times by the woman who is now my wife. She was just extremely insecure as a result of a really rotten first marriage. She finally came to her senses and married me. B-)

[lost-in-nj]

18. Happy for you......

geesh


from one roller coaster to another!!!!


:hi:


lost

[Starbucks Anarchist]

19. That's good, right?

[HEyHEY]

20. Ah, self-preservation, the greatest relationship destroyer in the world

[Karenca]

21. nt

edited ;cause it just came out wrong.

[hfojvt]

22. I had the same feeling

I thought you didn't like me. Then you told me you did.


Later I found out it was opposite day.

[Guava Jelly]

24. Crap.. Just when i thought i had a shot!!

Kidding of course :)
Only the best wishes for you Crimmy :hug:

[some guy]

25. yay?

I do wish you all the best, maybe he will turn out to be really good for you, and you for him.

I'd advise proceeding slowly, and with lots and lots of conversation.

:hug:

[ContraBass Black]

26. What a great way to make an impression.

[cobalt1999]

27. then I guess I un-"that sucks" respond to you.

since I replied as such on your dumped post. :)