A question for the guys

[XemaSab]

So last week I was working out in the field and my two female colleagues and I decided to go to In&Out Burger for lunch.

We were sitting there eating and this really hot guy came and sat at the next table. He was reading his bird field guide!!!!

I'm a pretty hardcore birder, and only other hardcore birders will sit there at lunch and read field guides.

I spent the better part of 20 minutes trying to work up the courage to go talk to him, and when I did, we wound up chatting about birds for about 20 minutes while my colleagues sat outside in the truck. He said I should totally call him if I was ever in Arizona, and he asked for my contact infos. As far as I could tell, we totally hit it off.

To put it in further context, I'm one of a very rarefied number of hardcore female birders under age 40. Very rarefied. Like, I can think of two or three others in the whole US.

I got his infos, and on monday I emailed him with a strictly birding-related question, BUT HE HASN'T EMAILED ME BACK!!!!

What the hell?

Thanks,

XemaSab

[SPKrazy]

1. mebbe he doesn't check it that often

or maybe it got caught in his filter

:shrug:


if he gave you all that I'd think he must have been interested

patience

or try one more time

then?

[XemaSab]

2. This is something I had considered

I also considered the possibility that he died, that he lost MY contact info, or that he was travelling.

Finally, I considered the possibility that he's sort of a flake.

:shrug:

[some guy]

3. "...if I was ever in Arizona..."

Maybe he isn't home yet, and can't check his email?

[XemaSab]

4. Either people check email or don't...

all the excuses I can think of are lame. :(

[SPKrazy]

5. mebbe he's in a coma

or his 'puter is broke down

or he is in a wireless free area looking for birds

or ....

i don't know

you'll either hear from him or not.

:pals:

[XemaSab]

8. This is all true.

:P

[Richard Steele]

12. I only check mine once a week sometimes, if I'm not expecting mail....

Some of us just don't use it as a primary means of communication,
and don't check it much.

OR maybe he thinks you're really HAWT, and is taking his time to
compose JUUUUUST the right response?

BAsically, I'm saying there's no reason to get upset yet! :thumbsup:

[Omphaloskepsis]

6. Ask him out... Life is to short to fuck around.

Boys like being asked out too. Maybe he is shy.

Two things can happen. You get a date or you get rejected. One of these things will happen in the end. Speeding up the process is usually a good thing. Good luck, I hope you find a binocular buddy.

[XemaSab]

7. I figured a noncommital email would be better

but I *did* ask how to get to a birding location that he reported from last week. :D

I'm shy that way. :P

[Omphaloskepsis]

9. Throw dead birds at his house??

I always end up with crazy chicks.

[XemaSab]

10. That's a GREAT idea!

I have a grebe in the freezer right now!

That'll win him over for sure!!!!!! :D

(To paraphrase Wayne from Wayne's World, "I say hurl. If you (throw dead birds) and (he) comes back, (he's) yours. But if you (throw dead birds) and (he) bolts, it was never meant to be.")

Words to live by, words to live by....

[petronius]

11. Perhaps he would prefer to be asked out or flirted with, rather than to have

some strange girl try to scam his secret birding spots out of him? :shrug:

[Truthiness Inspector]

13. What?

Your response doesn't make any sense.

She's trying to date him, not poach bird-watching spots. LOL. And from the way the OP described the encounter, only a birdbrain would think she was after his avian secrets instead of his affections.

[XemaSab]

14. You'd have to be sort of an asshole to think I was trying to "poach" birding spots

Most birders are eager to share good spots. :shrug:

Hence, if he thinks I'm trying to poach, he's a lamer. :P

[Hugin]

15. Give him a little time XemaSab...

:D

[badgerpup]

16. I really really HATE guys...

...who do this sort of thing...say one thing, then do another.

Gentlemen- if you're not going to call-
THEN FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, DON'T SAY "I'LL CALL YOU!"
it not only makes the recipient of the mixed message feel badly, it makes YOU look like a liar and a jerk.
And word does get around, you know...
:rant:


Thanks. I feel better now.

[KitchenWitch]

17. If he is, as you say, a hardcore birder, methinks he may not be online all that much.

[EstimatedProphet]

18. Give it a little while longer

He may not have checked his email yet. Sometimes that happens.

[bleedingheart]

19. keep emailing...and by the third email make it all caps

and then after that....send him the wedding registry at Macy's that you set up to see if the china you picked is to his liking...

I think that will work most definitely..


:sarcasm:

:evilgrin:

Just kidding...I think you should give him time...some folks don't read their email much and if he has a junk folder he may take a while till he scans it...cuz your first email may go there....until he marks it as "not junk"...

[El Fuego]

20. I'm not a guy, but...

I don't see any reason why he wouldn't email you back. Email is very non-threatening, since you can keep it short and sweet if you want without having to interact personally.

He probably just hasn't checked that email account yet. Or, maybe he was travelling for quite a while and is sorting through a ton of email, and yours is one of many he hasn't responded to yet.

Or just call him if you have his number. If he lives in another state, who cares?

[Parche]

21. Birdguy

Ok let me guess, his name was Jay, and he was brooding at the burger joint, when you saw him the
first time it made your heart flutter, so you decided to wing it and migrate over and talk with him,
you hit it off, he had to fly back to Arizona, and you havn't heard a peep from him yet???
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :hi: :silly:

[Rob H.]

22. Could be a technical glitch

A friend of mine sent me an email on Monday and I didn't get it 'til yesterday afternoon. She was asking me to do something for her for a conference she was going to Wednesday morning, and I got her email too late to help her out. :(

I vote for giving him a little more time. :)

[plcdude]

23. Patience

my little chickadee. Guys tend to live life by default and it is quite possible that he will get around to you.

[formerrepuke]

24. Sometimes an immediate response to an email suggests "too eager"..maybe he's putting

some time in between.. so as to not seem desperate (it's the man way of doing things, sometimes).

[entanglement]

25. Never attribute to malice that which can be explained by a spam-filter

:)
Aggressive spam filter, IMHO

[SteelPenguin]

26. Maybe he's nervous

Maybe he was totally crushing on you, and he's nervous about how to respond.

[rug]

27. He's a pecker.