So if you were to congratulate a person who got married a few months ago...

[Writer]

and the person were to shrug and shake his head a little, especially when you asked, "But that's a good thing, right?"... would you not interpret that as... oh... that maybe the person may be having a few issues with the fact that he got married? Or could he just be embarrassed by your positive attention? Or is there something else that sort of body language might convey?

Yes, this happened to me recently. The gender in question is male.

Any thoughts?

[petronius]

1. That's exactly how my wife reacts when I mention our wedding!

Both of your possibilities are likely; another thought is that this person is attracted to you and doesn't want to talk about his marriage with you in particular (perhaps it puts a damper on his fantasy world)...

[Writer]

4. If that's the case then it's really not good.

And that makes me feel sad for him.

[The Straight Story]

2. Might have been a bad day for him (nt)

[Writer]

3. A bad day?

What do you mean?

[The Straight Story]

7. Like they had gotten into an argument over something

and he was not feeling all happy over her at the moment.

[Writer]

8. Ahhh... I should have picked up on that.

I thought you meant that the wedding day wasn't so happy. ;)

:dunce:

[Omphaloskepsis]

5. I'm a male.. And that sounds like someone that regrets their decision.

But, it could just be a bad day. I don't really know.

[Writer]

6. It was a very weird interaction that I'm still trying to dissect.

I sorta wished he had been a bit more open, but he's not the type.

[Omphaloskepsis]

12. I always thought two months was within in the time span of cute farts.

You know, you are cuddling when your SO has the flu. She sneezes on your face and you think it is cute.

[Writer]

13. This is #2 for this guy...

and he's a bit older than 35... I think he's well past the cute farts phase.

[Omphaloskepsis]

15. I'm 29 and slightly sensitive about the turning thirty thing.

Thank you.. September isn't very far away.

[Writer]

16. I'm 32... believe me, it's nothing.

Don't sweat it. 30 really is the new 20.

[Omphaloskepsis]

17. Damn, you type fast...

Fast enough that I might assume you write or type for a living.

[Writer]

18. Well... I'm working on it.

The "making a living of it," at least. :)

[AlCzervik]

19. i just turned 40--and it's ok. 29 was harder because i kept thinking all year

omg i'm going to be 30, well i hit 30 and it was really ok. hitting 40 was a bit--Whaaaaa? and my daughter will officially be a teenager in September so this is kind of a milestone year for all of us.

[AlCzervik]

9. could be nothing at all or it could be something, time will tell.

[Writer]

10. That's absolutely correct.

I at least hope this friend of mine is happy.

[AlCzervik]

11. yeah that would be pretty lousy but you'll know if it is something as time goes by.

i had an uncle, he's only 3 years older than me but anyhow he got married and before the event even happened my sister and i so totally knew it would not last and within 2 years---all done. He stopped talking about her and we stopped asking.

[Writer]

14. He has been with his SO for several years...

w/o marriage. Knowing his personality, I was actually surprised that he did decide to take the plunge. Instead of congratulating him, maybe he wanted me to call him a fool and slap him for doing it. :D

[reyd reid reed]

20. I'd try not to interpret anything at all into it.

When and if he's ready to talk about it, he will. If not, then...

Trying to interpret someone's non-committal response is a sure way to put your foot in it.