Were You Bullied in High School?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

[Arugula Latte]

1. Not bullied...My high school was a nasty place, though.

There was all sorts of psychological torture going on, both overt and subtle. A good portion of the kids were rich a-holes who had a new outfit every day and a BMW on their 16th birthday, and they liked to make life miserable for everyone else.

[Seashell Eyes]

37. Sounds like my high school

I wasn't bullied, just completely ignored. I was a clique of one.

[Arugula Latte]

59. Those were four long years.

Sorry you had a rough road. Sometimes the scars from high school seem deeper than others.

I did have friends, and we did well academically, but I can't say I had a lot of fun. On the positive side, it made me study a lot and I was able to enjoy college all the more.

[MnFats]

60. yes, badly at times. to my everlasting dismay, on a couple of occasions..

...i virtually turned around and bullied someone smaller, nerdier than me. There are a few guys i apologized to and we actually becamefriends, but there are still a couple people out there I would like to apologize to.....if you're out there?

an interesting thing happened at a class reunion a few years back.
A girl, who was quite unattractive and got teased a lot (others more than me but i confess my role) approched me and said:
"You guys weren't very nice to me."
me:
:You're right. It was terrible, and I'm sorry about it."
her
"you were mean."
me
"I know, and I'm glad you brought it up because it gives me a chance to apologize. I probably would have had the courage to apologize if you hadn't said something about it. It never should have happened, and I apologize.
her
she kind of looked me up and down, and something almost resembling a smile came across her face.
"All right, then."
and she walked away.

I did feel better.

if you owe somebody and apology, get on with it.

[malta blue]

2. not in high school but I got beat up every single day of

middle school - EVERY SINGLE DAY.

It's a miracle I am somewhat normal...

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

3. Wasn't everybody at some time or another?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. i was in kindergarten. after first grade though no one would ever bully me

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

6. Yeah, I think everybody experiences it in childhood.

I also think everybody spends some amount of time being a bully.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

11. school systems are different though. in my school i dont think anyone was bullied after maybe 2nd

grade.

we were encouraged to be ladylike and polite and kind.

[AllegroRondo]

4. I was smart and in the band - what do you think?

at least us band geeks tended to look out for each other.

[ZombieNixon]

7. Not really. I was pretty well liked, by students and faculty both.

Which is really kind of strange, since I was never a jock and always kind of the weird, bookish, slightly nerdy, punk rock/heavy metal kid (and an outspoken liberal in a Republican town to boot). I think that fact that I've had a black belt in Tae Kwon Do since I was twelve and made sure people knew that helped. :P

[supernova]

8. Not high school

but earlier grades.... 1-3 grade. Our class bully was the tallest girl. She regularly liked to punch me in the stomach. I found out years later after we grew up that she was being sexually abused by her father (abortion, all the rest)

The last time was in 9th grade, a few kids wanted to give me grief because I wore a torso cast for most of that year. They made jokes about "wanting to tip her over."

[skygazer]

9. I was a defender of the bullied actually

I wasn't bullied myself because no one ever knew what to expect of me (always keep them guessing - it's a good tactic).

I wasn't a member of any clique but I hung out with people who were jocks, or brains, or stoners, or geeks, or losers indiscriminately. I think that put people off balance somewhat.

I had friends who were bullied and I just hate that. I've always hated that. I still hate it.

[Fran Kubelik]

10. yes.

[TheCentepedeShoes]

12. No, just mostly ignored

I got along ok with everyone and always had a group to hang out with before school and eat lunch with, but my out of school hours social life was very restricted by Mommie Dearest. Attended class reunion last year, huge chunk of people just didn't remember me. Not surprising, I wasn't "there" when memorable things were happening (the dance, the big game, etc).

[Akoto]

13. Yes, badly.

Feel like I'm posting too much about this today. I guess it's coincidence. :)

I was bullied to the point that I developed an anxiety disorder and dropped out. It has taken me years to get my life back on track, but I finally am.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. ---

:hug:

[Deep13]

15. Not much in HS, but earlier I was. nt

[Mutley]

16. Not physically

but I most certainly was not one of the "in-crowd". At this point I consider that a blessing, as most of those people peaked in high school. I know of several who have been married and divorced repeatedly, lost jobs, dropped out of college, etc.

My peak is still yet to come. :D

[NewJeffCT]

17. More in middle school than high school

I was too depressed in high school to get bullied.

[flvegan]

18. Not in the least.

I was lucky, though. If you wanted to graduate, you had my mom as one of your senior year teachers, and she was well-liked. Therefore, I was in pretty tight with every senior in the school. Thusly, picking on me meant potentially upsetting the entire senior football team, weightlifting team, etc.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. lol!

[dropkickpa]

20. Only in middle school

I was the smallest kid in the whole school and spoke with a texan accent for 2 years (had just moved to pittsburgh). I spent a LOT of time in in-house suspension for fighting, and that's just with the ones i reacted to. The biggest girl in the school, almost 6 feet tall in 8th grade loved to pick on me when I first started (I was all of what, 4'9" at the most).

My reputation for being crazy enough to fight anyone that picked on me or my friends and not stopping until the teacher pulled me off served me well, though, because in high school I had no problems with anyone - one girl tried to start the bullying crap but her friend grabbed her and told her she was crazy to mess with me. I actually went through my whole hs career without getting into one fight there, an insane change from MS, where it was at least once a week.

[reyd reid reed]

21. Not in high school

I was in elementary school and then I learned to just laugh it off and spoil all their fun that way. By the time I got to high school, I was pretty much ignored.

[Bassic]

22. In elementary school, and in high school

Right up until I started getting bigger.

It sucked ass.

I always had friends though, I was thankfully never a total reject.

[cwydro]

23. Not in high school.

But in elementary I was bullied. I still had a British accent, dressed like a British schoolgirl, had childhood asthma and was very shy and small.

Many years later, in college, I ran across one of my worst tormentors. She was very overweight, had an awful complexion and just overall looked like crap. Funny thing, she started talking to me as if we had been the best of friends back in those days. Go figure.:eyes: :shrug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

27. hello there british person~

:P

[cwydro]

28. and hello to you.

My grandfather was stationed in India back in the day. Don't hold it against me...:P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

29. where was he stationed? calcutta? if so he was friends with part of my family

they were landowners. landowners liked the british typically.

[cwydro]

31. I don't know, sadly.

I was very young when he died and only met him twice. They lived in London and we were in the states. My dad might know. I'll have to find out.

[Left Is Write]

24. No, but I was bullied in junior high school (7th and 8th grade) in such a vicious way...

that it sometimes affects me to this day.

[SPKrazy]

46. me too...

:hug:

:hi:

[applegrove]

25. Nope. But I was quite the doormat.

[havocmom]

26. Only ONCE

After that, no trouble.

Ya gotta nip that shit in the bud. A little temporary discomfort is worth it for the long stretch of peace it can bring. Confrontation is something you might as well deal with once, other wise one keep having to deal with it.

[Breeze54]

30. No way!

I was bullied in grade school by the teachers so I learned to
defend myself there, so no one messed with me in high school.
They wouldn't have dared. Even the toughest girls there were cool with me.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

32. Not high school...junior high was murder.

[jobycom]

33. Only by my brother. Some kids tried in 7th grade, but I talked them to death.

I had a nasty, sociopath brother who was very much like W. He tortured everyone. Including himself, I guess, since he's dead now. And that's not a bad thing.

In seventh grade I switched from my low income redneck school where I'd known everyone to a fairly snobbish private school. A couple of the "in" kids (there were twelve people in my class, so "in" was only in their own perception) didn't like my cowboy boots and somewhat country attitude. So they tried to bully me. They'd threaten to beat me up, and I'd laugh at them. None of them really had the nerve to hit someone who wasn't afraid, especially one who had long hair and cowboy boots. They called me names, and I laughed at them. "You redneck!" "Hehe. Yeah."

The next year the two that had tried to bully me left, and the few friends they had told me they'd always liked the way I stood up to them.

I had some people try to pick fights in high school, but I had a knack for talking my way out of everything, usually with the people becoming friends. I moved between just about every group in high school--the brains, the band, the hicks, the preps, the hoods.

Doesn't work in GD, though. :)

[Alexander]

34. I was bullied quite a bit before High School, but not in High School.

Getting stupid people to think you're crazy is a great way to get the bullies to leave you alone.

[mainegreen]

35. I was to spacey to ever be bullied.

It's no fun if the person you're trying to bully doesn't get that he's being bullied.
And I was physically to large to be physically bullied.

[bullwinkle428]

36. Not much in high school, but often in middle school (grades 6-8)...

...not shocking at all, I suppose, being an undersized, shy, sensitive type with no real athletic talent!

[bigwillq]

38. Nope

Everyone liked me. I was sooooo cool. :)

Really I was. :P

[ThomCat]

39. Yes, by my brother and his drunken group of friends.

x(

[Rue]

40. No, but middle school was absolutely terrible. (nt)

[terrya]

41. Yes...my high school was not gay friendly.

Which is a colossal understatement.

[GreenPartyVoter]

42. From Head Start on up through high school, yeah.

[triguy46]

43. Not in HS, but in Jr. High.

[Va Lefty]

44. Not in High School...

but in sixth grade I was constantly threatened and bullied by a P.O.S. aka Nicky Baber. He bullied everyone, but for some reason took a special interest in me. Never wanted money, but I had to "help" him on tests and do some of his homework and laugh at his stupid jokes at the threat of getting my ass kicked. That was the longest year of my life.

[SPKrazy]

45. Jr. High Yes

not high school

:shrug:

[femmocrat]

47. This might sound crazy, but ... I didn't even know of such things.

Not only was I never bullied, I never heard or knew of anyone who was. And I went to a huge school district. I just think times were different, and people either respected each other more, or because the schools were so large, everyone fit in somewhere.

Or I was in my own little world.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

54. me too. when i say bullied, i was pushed out of the dollhouse once.

but some people seemed to have experienced highly traumatic bullying.

[Taverner]

48. Beyond bullied. Try sexually abused eom

[Lydia Leftcoast]

49. Emotionally, but not physically

throughout junior and senior high school. I thought the whole suburban teen culture, you know, worshipping the athletes and cheerleaders, girls talking about nothing but clothes and boys, boys talking about nothing but sports and girls, was stupid, and unfortunately, I wasn't savvy enough to keep it to myself.

[In_The_Wind]

50. Darn it! How did you know?

[Deja Q]

51. Bullied, taunted, mocked, spat on, sexually abused, sexually assaulted...

Who wouldn't be surprised? :D

[WritingIsMyReligion]

52. Not yet.

I'm not "popular," but people don't fuck with me, at least to my face. I don't particularly care what they do/say behind my back. I think they think I might show them up; the only thing most people know about me is that I'm "smart" and don't fuck around, either literally or metaphorically.

[sakabatou]

53. No, I was kind of a loner

That and I stayed in groups.

Plus it doesn't hurt to have 3+ years of karate back then. Now 7+

[GOPisEvil]

55. High school, no. Middle School, yes.

It's left some scars that remain to this day, although I've gotten a lot better in the last few years.

[ronnykmarshall]

56. Not High School

But in 6th - 8th grade.

[Crazy Dave]

57. Yes

I was the 90 pound weakling. Couldn't even play sports as most kids in my grades outweighed me by about 8 - 10 pounds and as a teen that's a lot. I used to get back at some of the jocks (who were most of the bullies) by fooling around with their girlfriends.

[YankeyMCC]

58. Not in high school but

in elementary school it was pretty merciless..at least in the second elementary school I went to after we moved out into the 'burbs.

By 6th grade I started fighting back and things changed over the course of junior high and by high school I'd kinda found my niche and in fact I think a lot of other kids were a little intimedated by me. ;)

[LSdemocrat]

61. Mildly, only by one guy in one class (gym)

Just the occasional insult with a couple rare shoves in an attempt to provoke something

I'm not sure if that really counts.

[astral]

62. In Jr High School, verbally, often, badly in my opinion

. . . . I was only shoved once -- a fella pushed me out of the way so he could walk into math class ahead of me and stated 'rich before poor, muck!' That kinda shocked me as I didn't think anybody thought I was poor, just too backwards and uncool to speak up for myself.

And yes, I do think the whole jr. hi experience had its permanent effect on me, even though I think I'm 'over it' now.