How do you let go of something that causes you a lot of pain?

[Mutley]

Especially when the cause of that pain is in your face all the time. Specifically, a person who I have to live with for at least a month due to financial issues. I don't want to feel anger, I don't want to feel pain, I don't want to feel Anything regarding this person anymore. I just don't know how to go about doing that. Ideas?

[Hugin]

1. No ideas mutley...

It's nice to see you here more lately. :)

[Mutley]

4. It's nice to be around.

I've really missed this place. :)

[fizzgig]

2. i wish i could help you

i lived with my ex for about seven months after we broke up and now i can't even remember how i did it other than spending as much time away from the house as i could

:hug:

[Mutley]

5. I spend as much time away from the house as I can, too.

But it seems like whenever we are there at the same time, we end up fighting. It really sucks.

I don't know how you did that for seven months. I'd go bonkers. :crazy:

:hug:

[fizzgig]

8. i know how the fighting goes

:hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

3. I wish I knew...

...I'm in the same boat. :hug:

[Mutley]

6. I'm sorry.

It sucks, doesn't it? Maybe we should start a DU support group for people in our situation. :P

:hug:

[TOhioLiberal]

17. We've already got two members!

you can PM me if you need to talk, mutley...:hug:

[Mutley]

18. Thanks.

Feel free to do the same. :hug:

[bleedingheart]

7. Try to think of it as a learning experience

that is probably the best way...

Keep busy, make a list of goals...hell even make a list of things to do differently next time or things to watch for...

But what ever you do try to be constructive...

[Mutley]

10. I try to be constructive.

I certainly know how to do things differently next time.

I really want to move on, it's just so hard when I have to be around him all the time.

[bleedingheart]

12. it can be awful and my heart goes out to you..

just don't let things get to you so that you end up doing something you regret...

[Mutley]

15. Thanks.

:hug:

I don't think I'll do anything I regret. If I've controlled myself for this long, I should be able to continue in the same manner.

[StarryNite]

9. Keep as busy as you can.

Occupy your mind with other things. Get out and get some kind of exercise. Find a good book to throw yourself into. The worst thing is to just sit and dwell on your problems when there is nothing you can do about your predicament a this time anyway. Visit friends and family.

[Mutley]

11. I do all that.

He just finds a way to get in my face whenever we're both at home. It makes me feel like I can't even Be at home.

[StarryNite]

14. My son recently went through that crap

with a roommate. It was her house and she never let him forget it. It was a really hard time for him. He just more or less hibernated in his room when he couldn't get out of the house. But it was a learning experience for him. And boy does he appreciate and love living on his own now.

[no name no slogan]

13. When you find out, let me know

because I can't get away from her, even though she tears me apart at every turn

[Mutley]

16. Well, him pissing me off every other day seems to help.

But probably not in a healthy way.

[Wapsie B]

19. What worked for me is the spending as much time away as possible.

But then even that wasn't enough. Being around her completely drained me. If you simply cannot move out for financial reasons you'll have to give yourself as much space and freedom as possible until you can get out.

[Mutley]

20. So, there's no secret method to dealing with it, eh?

That just sucks. I want the easy way out! :P

Thanks. :hug:

[Wapsie B]

21. No, not that I can see.

Not from my experience.

yw. :hug:

[Deja Q]

22. What can't be cured must be endured. Or discarded.

I say the former, the boss would say the latter. At least about work issues.

I've had to deal with... unsavory people. Best thing to do is to ignore the idiosyncrasies as best you can. Not easy though. :(

[Mutley]

23. No, it isn't.

I ignore as best as I can. He's the one who wants to start shit.

How ya doing? :hi: