what to do

[private_ryan]

this girl who likes me agreed to go out to an event. I want to call her and go out before that though.

She asked me more than once for me to call her, so it's easier but how long should we talk about on the phone. What would you do? Long enough to make the date plans, or ..?

[YellowRubberDuckie]

1. Girls love to talk on the phone...

Sit and talk to her about everything and nothing. It'll be fun.
Duckie

[private_ryan]

2. and we meet we just have sex

because there's nothing else to talk about. Thanks :)

[LastKnight]

3. talk as long as you both have time for it...

but dont pester... that way she wont get the wrong idea... if a guy is silent too long a girl can get the wrong impression, had it happen to me way too many times when trying to not appear too desperate, but it backfired on me, she overthought it and freaked out... and i just wish i woulda called and just shoot the breaze or whatnot... can save some frustration later

-LK

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

4. Why not just be yourself?

If you are worth knowing, there really isn't any strategy necessary.

[private_ryan]

5. yeah there is

would you do the talking on the phone or in person. That's the only strategy

[never cry wolf]

6. You have a word quota?

A limited amount of things to talk about? Talk her ear off both on the phone AND in person. Better yet, let her do the talking. Ask her about her childhood, her friends, her family, her favorite vacation spots, her hopes and dreams, her fav tv shows, fav movies, music, food, pets, politics, etc., etc, etc..

The potential topics are ENDLESS!!!

on edit: ask her how gud she spels!

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

7. I talk on the phone and in person

Use your best judgement...try to be in the moment seeing what SHE wants...if one listens to her instead of their internal strategy machine, they can hear whether she would like to chat or get together.

I think people place far too much emphasis on scheming and far too little on considering what the other person wants. YOu can tell by the way she greets you if she is glad to hear from you, glad to talk and wants to get together.

Do you know what kind of food she likes or her interests?

[Lefta Dissenter]

8. Just call her and ask her on a casual 'date'

for coffee or a drink or whatever it is you do, and you'll pick up from her whether she wants to yack on the phone or not. If she just says 'ok, see you then, bye' then don't be offended, she may be thinking that YOU would rather talk in person (which IS nicer, after all). If she starts chatting while you're on the phone, then go with the flow! Just relax and hang loose - she may be a little nervous about this, too.