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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:12 PM
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What Was The Saddest Moment Of Your Life
When I had to put my 'Woos' to sleep after 16years (Cancer) 12December 2004 :cry: :cry: :cry:


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nini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:13 PM
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1. watching my dad take his last breath
:cry:
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:16 PM
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2. Not to be a downer
but I was with my Dad, Mom and 2 brothers when they died.....
could not tell you which one was the saddest......
but as of this minute I'm ok.....


your baby Woos looks beautiful
:hug: :hug:

lost
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:41 AM
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64. ...
glad you are ok...

lots of loss there lost...

:hug: :hug:
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JANdad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:45 AM
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65. OMG...I'm so sorry
Did they pass together or were they seperate events?
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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 01:23 PM
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105. I'm so sorry, saying that even makes me cry
be wellO8)
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:24 PM
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3. The day I put Byron to sleep.
Edited on Wed Aug-15-07 06:25 PM by Joan_Alpern
July 30, 2001.
Two hummingbirds flew along with us as we carried him to the car.





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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:27 PM
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4. The last day I saw my mother alive
I knew she would be dead within days and I'd flown out for a long weekend to see her. She was there, but was only lucid some of the time. My poor dad had to be set down and told that his beloved wife was dying. Despite the fact that she'd been in hospice for a good deal of time, he still clung to an idea that she would snap back. She'd been so very sick and nearly died several times before.

I also have had some good friends die and that was very sad as well.

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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:30 PM
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14. Ditto.
Flying home knowing that there was a good chance that I wouldn't see my mother alive again was the hardest day of my life. She died about a week before my next scheduled trip.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 04:14 PM
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90. ...
:hug:

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Gormy Cuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 08:02 PM
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96. ...
Back at ya.
:hug:
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:35 PM
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16. ....
crap

been there, done that

:hug: :hug:


lost
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:40 AM
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63. I know...
:hug: :hug:

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Bennyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:53 PM
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5. 3 years ago Saturday...
Me and my wife broke up.
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:37 PM
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18. sorry
its been since Oct 2006.....

married 30 years



lost
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Bennyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 09:54 PM
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25. Thanks and I really...
sympathize. It is very hard.......I am still lost and not sure of the future......
Good (((((((vibes)))))))to you
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 06:55 PM
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6. telling my daughters that their mother and I were divorcing.
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:39 PM
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19. I think
this is coming soon......
it will be our son and daughter

:hug: :hug:

lost
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 07:05 PM
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7. When my dog Katie died unexpectedly
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 09:36 PM
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22. Aww
:hug:
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 07:15 PM
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8. Telling my 2 kids that their mom and I were divorcing
:cry:

RL
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Swede Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 07:25 PM
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9. The day mom died.
August 08,2006.
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:06 PM
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10. December 20, 2000.
Edited on Wed Aug-15-07 08:08 PM by YellowRubberDuckie
It was a little past nine in the morning, and I got a phone call. My now husband was calling me from downstairs in my dorm. It was a work day and he shouldn't have been there. When I got downstairs, I saw his face, and his mother was with him. I started shaking my head. I knew something wasn't right. Skip started crying, and his mother told me that my sister had been in a really bad car accident the night before. They didn't have any details except that my sister didn't make it. She was 29 years old...and 8 months pregnant. I remember asking about the baby, but they didn't know. I prayed that he was OK, but I knew he wasn't. Skip drove me home, and I cried the entire way, repeating "I really can't do this." I lost a very large piece of myself that day that I am still very hollow from. There was no one like her in the world and there never will be. I miss her everyday.
Duckie
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:42 PM
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20. Oh sweetie
:hug:

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susanna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:30 PM
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30. YRD, my heart goes out to you.
What a terrible thing it is you had to endure. My sister is my best friend and always will be. I can't imagine. (((((Hugs to you.))))
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 11:27 PM
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36. ...
:hug:
I'm so sorry...
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 05:38 PM
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93. I'm very sorry.
:hug:

I'm glad she was special to you. I'm glad you remember her and still care for her memory.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:07 PM
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11. The moment my Mom died.
But yes, the deaths of my 4 pets have been hard, too.
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:14 PM
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12. It hasn't happened yet
my parents are still alive and I have both my sisters.

But so far, being with my grandmother and watching her say goodbye to everyone the day before she drew her last breath. Everyone thought they were brought in to say "hi" to Ruth, but I knew better. :(
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angrycarpenter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:15 PM
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13. the day Jeb Bush helped put me out of business
Wanted to have my own one man business all my life. Had went through the massive paperwork nightmare to become legal. After many fees I was all ready to go and for 3 months I did well. Then in month of October I think, the Fl legislature came back and rushed an act through that was to be enacted just 2 1/2 months later.

It seemed innocent enough, No one is allowed on construction sites without workmans' comp. insurance. I don't know how it is elsewhere but in Fl. no insurance company will cover fewer then 3 employees. The act forced people to declare themselves LLC's with a president,vice president, secretary, stock certificates, corporate meetings with kept minutes and at the mercy of complex corporate laws and taxes. All for the honor of naming your own price to work like A dog in the hot Florida sun.

So here I am facing end of year taxes with x-mas coming on and two step kids and no hope of coming up with the cash to pay fees and hire accountants so I like many others had no choice but to let my license lapse and go back to work for A construction company at dramatically reduced wages. The economic stress of losing that much money, about $1500 a month, Broke-up my marriage. I then went on A two year drinking binge that nearly killed me. I am off the booze now and have been for 2 years. The road back has been long and hard and for the rest of my life A hatred will burn for the republicans of Florida who broke my dreams with the stroke of A pen.

They had made A deal with the large construction and insurance companies where they would pass this law for A 14% decrease in workmans comp rates for large construction companies. The kicker is that this happened in oct. 2003 two weeks later GB came to Florida and actually praised the small business man as the backbone of the American economy. That was the day I was the maddest.
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VLC Donating Member (487 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:19 PM
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27. No wonder you're angry!!!
I realize they can never pass any law that doesn't affect someone negatively, but that one seemed like a no-brainer - it must have put a lot of people in the same situation as you!!!
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stuntcat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:34 PM
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15. Woos had a great life!
That's a real long time for cats, they used to none of them make it to 10 a long time ago. So now the older ones get those kinda diseases, all we can do is keep them comfortable and tell them how we love them. Don't feel sadness about Woos, just think of how happy you made his life!

My sad times are about my Daddy and my Grandma, I think of them every day. Also my little cat Milla, I was the center of her world, her nervous freaked-out little world.. but she died of a heart attack :(
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Downtown Hound Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 08:35 PM
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17. The death of my father when I was 19.
February 15th, 1996. Hepatitis C. It's taken me years to get over it and all of the unresolved issues I had with him. Only recently do I feel like I'm making progress.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 09:03 PM
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21. When my dad died....
I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. It was very unexpected.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:14 PM
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26. I know that feeling.
:hug:

My dad died without warning (heart) ... It's been almost four years. It still seems a little surreal to me.
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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 09:37 PM
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23. When my mom died, and when I left my 3 boys and moved out (nt)
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 09:38 PM
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24. Hard to pick one time
I've been reeeal sad many many times. I think once I cross a threshold numbness sets in.

:shrug:
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wildhorses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:21 PM
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28. leaving alabama in the broad daylight. ---
i died that day. a hollow shell remains. walking the earth. waiting for the day that the body may lie down. so my spirit can resume its intended journey.
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:21 PM
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29. Watching my mother die
from the ravages of breast cancer. I don't think anything will ever feel as bad as that.

Second on the list would be both my parents funerals.
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LeftyMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:42 PM
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31. My mother backed her car out of the driveway, and I didn't hear from her again for four years.
Other things in my life were worse, but I was too young to know how to deal. I had to grow too fast.
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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:42 PM
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32. When my mother died
It is an event that changed my life forever and that I'm still seeking to come to terms with


Second to that would be the days on which all my grandparents passed away and the days when we had to have our two dogs put down (once in 1991 and once in 2006)
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RandomKoolzip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:07 AM
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:48 PM
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34. When I realized that the pregnancy I was carrying was over...
And I miscarried...

It was quite early, only 9 weeks...

I was devastated, and thought that I'd never carry a child to term...

That was 42 years ago, and I remember it almost as though it were yesterday...
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:06 AM
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42. .
:hug:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:26 AM
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46. Thank you, my dear GoddessOfGuinness...
It was a very hard time...

But I went on to have two beautiful daughters, who are now adults...

You always remember the loss...even when good things follow...:hug:
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 10:46 AM
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60. My Dear CaliforniaPeggy
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hi:



"It is said that if you move a single pebble on the beach, you set up a different pattern, and everything in the world is changed. It can also be said that love can change the future, if it is deep enough, true enough, and selfless enough. It can prevent a war, prohibit a plague, keep the whole world... whole."


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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:55 AM
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68. My dear Parche...
Oh, wow, that is so beautiful...

It made me cry...

Thank you for it...

Who said it?

I want to write it down in my little blank book, and I'd like to be able to put the author too...

Blessings on you for telling me this today...:loveya: :hug: :loveya:
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 10:51 PM
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35. no one here really cares to know...
not really
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 11:28 PM
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37. This one does...
Unless you'd really rather not say... :hug:
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 11:58 PM
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40. ...
Andres Segovia Plays Bach Chaconne (Part 1)

Andres Segovia Plays Bach Chaconne (Part 2)

i had to put down my Bandy too, it was very sad, i thought he had gone soon after the injection and i was standing there crying/weeping really, stroking & petting his fur; but he waited for my son, and brother Willy to come, and he opened his eyes and made his way to the edge of the table all groggy & stumbling, looked into both their eyes looking himself so sleepy, licked their hands, then laid his head in Willy's palm and died...it was very...

very sad :cry: :hug:

i also had a shit-head idiot threaten me once, he found out where i lived and killed three of my kitties; he called and said, "How do you like that, bitch! I killed your fucking cats. I poisoned them, and the only reason I didn't kill all four is that the other one wouldn't come out and play."

i found them dropped & strewn on their lawn out front, one by the stairs while trying to get back in it seemed...very sad :cry:
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:05 AM
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41. Oh Bridgit...
I'm so sorry...
It's so hard to let the ones we love go. Poor Bandy knew you loved him... :hug:

I can't imagine the horror of finding your dear ones so cruelly treated. It's just heartbreaking... :cry:

Did they catch the prick who did this awful thing?
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:25 AM
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45. funny sometimes...
Edited on Thu Aug-16-07 01:02 AM by bridgit
just funny i guess :loveya:
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:20 PM
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72. I was thinking about this all last night...
I'm typically a light sleeper, and every time I woke last night, your story came to mind. Tails, my grey polydactyl cat, slept on my stomach all night. He knew what I was upset about, I think.

Did they ever catch the murderer?
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:34 PM
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75. someone did, did hear me met with an unusual ending...
i do think some people, call it Karma or whatever, set themselves up for just such endings...

please know that i did not want to upset you :hug: Tails is a caring kitty...for Tails too :hug: :hug:
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:40 PM
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76. Deservedly so, in my opinion.
I'm not sorry you told me...Hearing things like this makes me appreciate my babies that much more. :hug:
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CC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 11:29 PM
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38. May 29,2000
at approx. 11 pm.



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Manifestor_of_Light Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-15-07 11:38 PM
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39. A beautiful kitty!
July 16, 1990.

A Monday morning. My sister's funeral. She died of brain cancer at 42.
My best friend in the whole world. My big sister that I looked up to.

My parents are gone too. I really miss my dad and his wise counsel (he was a lawyer as well as street smart) and I have a lot of resentment about my mom not pulling her weight in the family that I need to let go of.

And now I'm the older generation. That can be scary.

The only direct relative I have is my daughter. And I have a wonderful devoted shackmate of 13 years. I don't want to call him a boyfriend, cuz he's way more than a friend, and far too old to be a boy.

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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:14 AM
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43. The saddest moment ?
Seeing my Mother, in ICU, just before

she lost consciousness.
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Lethe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:21 AM
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44. when I realized the truth about God
no inflammatory replies please, this is just my experience and it is not open to debate.

Being brought up in a very religious household, my saddest experience came when I realized there was no God watching over me, and no heaven to go when I die.

But I been an atheist for a long time now.


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cascadiance Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:40 AM
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47. It was ALMOST yesterday!
Edited on Thu Aug-16-07 12:42 AM by calipendence
Thought I might get a call that the vet would have to put my 13 year old cat down in the middle of an operation to remove a growth that might be cancer. But fortunately he pulled through!

If I had to say what the worst was, it was waking up the day after Christmas at my folks' house with my 3 year old cat dead in the bed next to me for some unexplained reason (died in the middle of the night likely from some neurological disorder or the like). Just three years earlier, they'd given me that cat as a kitten and I saw the cat in the very same room for the first time then. I kind of felt like I was in that plot of one of the Gremlins movies when something like that happened on Christmas.
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Seashell Eyes Donating Member (498 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:01 AM
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48. middle school
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:43 PM
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77. turbulent years...
Middle school sucks. :hug:
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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:05 AM
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49. At our local Relay for Life...
Watching several of my friends break down and cry, and not being able to comfort them as I have had no real pain myself.


Real downer.
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Lethe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:48 AM
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54. what is Relay for Life?
just curious....
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MiniMandaRuth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 05:36 PM
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92. A marathon walk for cancer.
My friends dad died of it when she was five, and my other friend (Who totally relies on her grandparents for everything) just found out her grandad had prostate cancer. It was pretty emotional.
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wiggs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:39 AM
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51. This coming Sunday
This coming Sunday might be the second saddest. First goes to my father's death one year ago this week.

Second is moving my two kids into college as freshmen this Sunday...then driving home to a suddenly quiet house.

Doesn't help that I can't tell my Dad about how his grand-daughters are going to the college where HIS mother, their great-grandmother, graduated as the only woman in the school of dentistry.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:44 AM
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52. The morning I found out my father died.
I had received a call from my aunt the night before, telling me my dad had had a couple of grand mal seizures; he had cancer but it had started in his abdomen.

I lived about 120 miles away from my parents, and didn't have a car. One of my housemates and her ex offered to take me there the next morning (my aunt had also advised that I wait).

When I called my mom the next morning to let her know I would be there in a couple of hours, she told me dad had died during the night.

I cried all the way from Portland to Eugene.


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Roon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 01:46 AM
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53. I have two
When my precious Dolly had kidney failure and died. She was only 5 years old. She was a sweet kitty that my ex-lover and I rescued from under a dumpster. She was feral and it took months for her to get used to humans.

A few months after Dolly died my ex and I broke up and it really upset Piggy,our tuxedo kitty. He quit eating and his liver eventually failed.
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:51 AM
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55. That would be the afternoon of November 4th, 2004.
Edited on Thu Aug-16-07 03:54 AM by BlueIris
I went online and expected to discover that the re-selection of * being challenged all over the place in various states and by various major news organizations and websites. Instead, I found the CNN.com headline "Kerry concedes election" and "Elizabeth Edwards has cancer." I broke down, (and I mean broke) watched the re-broadcast of the concession speech, and didn't come out of my room for two days.
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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 04:11 AM
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56. While that is not the saddest moment of my life, I can relate
That came less than one month after the landslide re-election of our neo-conservative Bush-loving Prime Minister (whom Jay Leno actually mistook for Dick Cheney once when he was in the US -NO JOKE)and the two victories so close together absolutely devastated me to the point where I was in a deep depression for several days. Ugh:puke: That was a horrible period
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QMPMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 07:35 AM
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57. The mind-numbing day we got the diagnosis that our
beautiful daughter, Anna-Maria was mentally handicapped - profoundly so. She was approximately 18 months old. We knew something was wrong but the Drs. never really gave us the prognosis in plain terms until I asked. His direct quote: "If you're lucky she might, someday, be able to dress herself. She may never walk."

Right after that we were handed a prescription for leg braces and told that we needed to go to the orthotist's office right away as they closed in 30 minutes. Oh yeah, and the braces were $800.00 per leg.

We were numb. Fucking numb.

Anna-Maria is mentally handicapped with the mental level of about a 4 or 5 year old and she can walk and talk and do a lot - much more than dress herself.

But - - - there are some days that I still feel numb from it all - and she is going to be 21 in a few weeks.

I will never get over this. Ever.

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Mad_Dem_X Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 07:45 AM
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58. One of these:
1) March 2001 - Having the vet put my little rabbit, Paulie, to sleep. I had him for nearly 11 years.

2) August 2001 - Finding out my cousin committed suicide.

3) November 2004 - Another stolen election. Four more years of Bushco. I wept like a baby.
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Dragonbreathp9d Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 08:15 AM
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59. The day I spoke at my roommate's memorial service
and realized I was in love with my best friend whom I could never be with - all in the course of a couple of hours - that was a shitty day
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Javaman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:03 AM
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61. When my dad died. July 24th, 2000. I miss him everyday. nt
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Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:27 AM
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62. Saddest day lately was two weeks ago.....
The day Angel died in my arms at the vet's office. She was a good dog and I still choke up every time I think of her.




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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:44 PM
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78. What a beautiful dog...
:hug:
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ceile Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:50 AM
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66. 4/3/94
Day my grandaddy died in a head on collision (he fell asleep at the wheel) after visiting my gramma in the hospital (she had just had a stroke). He was the backbone of the family and we were all devestated. My gramma followed him 3 years later. We're (as a family) still not over his death.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:51 AM
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67. While on vacation I received an email which ended a relationship I was in.
It was such a blow that I slid out of the chair I was sitting in (at an internet cafe in Merida, Mexico) and had to be lifed up and half-carried back to the house I was staying in. I became ill and screamed and cried for two days. It wasn't the loss of the relationship, which was illicit and wrong and destined for disaster. It was that at the moment it ended I realized I could no longer pretend that my marriage was viable. I knew life as I knew it was over and I was going to be on my own. Seventeen months later and I'm still unsteady, but getting stronger.

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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 11:58 AM
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69. May 7, 1976
At about 3 am. I was at my sister's house sleeping on the sofa and I heard her answer her phone. She said, "Oh, my god!" several times, hung up and told her husband that my beautiful black horse had been hit by a car and was dead. "How will I tell skygazer?" she said.

I said "I already know."

It was the culmination of a lot of things. Spring, '75 my dog died. A month later, the family cat was hit by a car. In June, my dad's horse nearly died when she got tangled in barbed wire. In September, my mom died. On Christmas Day, my own cat died of kidney poisoning.

I felt like everything I ever cared about was gone. I felt like a jinx. Took me a long time to let myself love anyone or anything again.

Yeah, that was a bad day.
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Tikki Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 12:03 PM
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70. Will be happening soon, I suppose...when my sweet..
little grandson asks me where his mommy is.
I don't dwell on that day, but I have practiced in my mind telling him
different truths.
I suppose she might show up before he actually asks the question.
He just turned five; but after four years of absolutely no contact from her, I'm not counting on it. :(


Tikki
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:25 PM
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83. ...
I'm not good with this stuff, but you are doing a wonderful thing. (and I know the response - what else could I do?) I am raising my niece. My sister hasn't showed her face in 15 years. (although that would be one of the few smart things she has ever done, my reaction would not be healthy for either of us. She lost a second child to the system as well - now adopted by "his" sister. Lots of negativity to deal with)
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Tikki Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 08:34 PM
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97. Thank you for the support....
I know there are many 'kinship' families out there.
You are correct; I am so thankful that I am here for him.


Tikki :)
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:17 PM
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71. my dog's food dish was missing
That was the only indication I was given by my parents that my dog had died, and the signal on how I was supposed to react to it - silence.

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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:38 PM
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84. No that's not it
I don't talk about this much - maybe I should.

I was home alone, asleep when the phone rang. It was the school where my wife taught, wondering where she was. She was very conscientious and it was just down the street, so I knew something was horribly wrong. I started to get dressed to go down the street looking for her car when the phone rang again. It was the RCMP telling me to get down to the hospital ... NOW!!

I drove there like a madman, screaming, ranting, blowing through red lights, parked in a no-parking zone and ran into emergency. A nursing sister (nun working at the hospital helping with stuff like this) snagged me and took me in to a special room and told me my wife had been in a horrific car accident miles away from where she was supposed to be. Then an RCMP officer, Karen, came in and started interrogating me, asking all sorts of wild questions about our relationship etc.

After awhile, the surgeon stopped by to ask if he should do an extraordinary measure to try to keep her alive - some sort of surgery. I said yes. The interrogation continued.

Awhile later, the surgeon was back, saying the operation failed and she died on the table. A little while later, the nursing sister came back and took me downstairs to a special room where I could view her (primarily to identify the body). She still had all sorts of tubes sticking out and I touched her and she was cold. Then the nursing sister took me back to the other room.

Eventually I demanded a lawyer, which she refused, telling me "you're not leaving this room until you confess to whatever you've done", had me write up a statement that was basically a pack of lies. In other words, the classic Reid technique for extracting a bogus confession.

Then she had me phone my wife's mother to tell her what had happened (which is actually the RCMP's job). Eventually the nursing sister came back and took me under her wing and arranged for someone to come get me.
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:49 PM
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86. ...and the story continues
A day later the phone rang and it was some Mormon guy who said he was the first person to get to the car accident and he pulled her out of the car and prayed over her. Question - aren't you supposed to leave an injured person in place? The steering wheel was embedded in her chest and she had a broken arm.

A few days later he came to the house and tried to convert me to Mormonism.

And you wonder why I've got it in for the religious right?
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Wcross Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 04:13 PM
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89. That is terrible TrogL.
I thought the cops were idiots here in America, dam. I find that kind of treatment reprehensible, as if you staged a horrific automobile accident??????????
I am sorry for the loss of your wife, I am glad the nursing sister was kind to you that day.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 06:28 PM
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95. Wow.
:(

They demanded that you confess? To what? Did they think you caused a car accident? x(

:hug:
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 09:16 PM
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98. Driving her to suicide
...and it gets better. A local Rush Libaugh-style talk show host, Eddie Keene, got ahold of the story and wouldn't shut up about it for days. Then he stuck it in his newspaper column.

I was wondering why people wouldn't let me turn on the radio or read the news.

I talked to a lawyer about suing him and he said to just walk away.
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WindRavenX Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:27 PM
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73. that would be the day my lover had a complete mental breakdown.
Never saw him again.

What a beautiful soul he was too...:(
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YankeyMCC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:33 PM
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74. The moment I realized I wasn't going to make it to the hospital in time
to say good bye to my Dad before he died.

But the moment a few weeks ago now that my wife said she wanted a divorce is giving that a real run for it's money probably because as much as I miss the dynamic presence of my Dad it's been a few years and I've adjusted (as an atheist death doesn't bother me over much but it still took a while to adjust to his absence in a living dynamic way) and I always have my memories of him and how he lived life but with the divorce is a pain that will continue on in life.
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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:46 PM
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79. When my mother passed away..I was with her at the time
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 02:53 PM
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80. it wasn't really a single moment, it is ongoing. My mother's death.
And believe it or not the few months after the 2004 election. The whole implication of what was wrong with our country hit me much harder than I thought it would. I was weepy and moody for months.
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Jimbo S Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:16 PM
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81. Getting dumped
I was dating a fantstic woman. Progressive, open-minded, totally hip. I was lucky to be with her. Then one day I got a letter in the mail.

I know this pails compared to the above posts, but I haven't lost a close relative yet.
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Blue Diadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:19 PM
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82. I've had several,
The deaths of my Dad, Mom, sister and brother. Sis had downs syndrome and was treated like crap by the Dr's when she got sick. One even went so far as to say she was a vegetable anyway so why wouldn't my Mom sign a DNR order. Shortly after that, she stopped breathing and they resuscitated. She lived by machine for another month in a coma/near brain dead state.

When my brother died, he had been trying to reach me and I'd just recently moved to another state and we didn't get a chance to talk and say goodbye. My SIL told us not to bother to fly down since she was not having a funeral or memorial service for him.

Finding out my daughter was pregnant and miscarried..she hadn't even known she was pregnant. A patient fell on her at her job, she miscarried that night. Dr. said she was only about 6 weeks or so.

Finding out my oldest brother is homeless at age 64 and has been for a year and there's not a darn thing I can do to help him out.

Having to put to sleep my dear Missy, Sir Thomas, Rocky and Sammy.
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:40 PM
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85. Date Correction
12December 2002

How time flies.......it will be 5years ago this December :cry: :cry:
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bleedingheart Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:54 PM
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87. Kissing my dead father goodbye ...I was 10 years old
my father had died in his sleep.
my sister and mother had tried to resucitate him.
but he was gone.
my mom wanted us to give him a hug and a kiss good bye while he was still warm to the touch...so that we would be scared..
so she escorted my brother and me into the room...as the ambulance was arriving...and we hugged and kissed him goodbye ..
were were then shuttled into another room and the door was closed to save us the trauma of watching him be wheeled out with a sheet over his head..

i didn't cry at first...i was in shock...i had been my daddy's little girl...

two days later at the funeral home i just cried and cried and cried and no one knew how to console me...

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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 03:59 PM
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88. Finalizing my divorce in court and walking out arm in arm with my ex
even though we are still best friends, there isn't a night that goes by I wish she was still beside me.

:hurts: :cry: :cry: :cry:
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azmouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 05:14 PM
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91. The miscarriage of my only pregnancy after 5 yrs of infertility.
I cry every March 31... the worst day of the year for me.
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alarimer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 06:24 PM
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94. Realizing that I will probably never see my grandmother alive again
She is almost 90, in a nursing home after a stroke. She can't communicate very well, which frustrates her a lot. It is only a matter of months before she is gone. But who knows really. It was hard to see her like that, when up to a couple of years ago she was pretty hale and hearty.

The other thing that made me sad was realizing that a man I was dating lied to me about nearly everything. He was not, in fact, divorced. He had a kid he never mentioned (why, I have no idea). He claimed to have been diagnosed with an extremely rare, progressive illness (which, no matter how often I googled never came up in any search, so I think it was a fake illness, a way to break up with me without it being anyone's fault). He was the first guy to say he loved me. I am thinking that was a lie also.

Anyway, it's been six years and have not been in a relationship since. Talk about gun-shy. Can't seem to trust them and I am not exactly getting younger so it looks like I will be alone forever because of this one person.
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DemocratSinceBirth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 09:24 PM
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99. When My Dad Died, When My Mom Had Her Leg Amputated, When My Mom Was Diagnosed With Colon Cancer
But she's 89 and still kickin...

I don't know if I'll ever be prepared to not have her...
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-16-07 10:10 PM
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100. when my Grandfather died; I was away at college
and it just devastated me. He was my best buddy.

Next after that when my dad died, I think.


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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 04:58 AM
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101. way too many to mention
way too many.
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 05:09 AM
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102. Holding my mother's hand
the moment she finally passed due to cancer.

My father, her husband, had passed seven years prior.

She was 76 and it was diagnosed as terminal so she chose no heroic efforts, still the body puts up a fight.

Yeah, that was pretty much the saddest to date.

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City of Mills Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 07:56 AM
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103. One of the saddest
My friend Brian's funeral...I had grown up with Brian, our families were close and he was several months older than me...he was my big brother...we lost touch, then suddenly, at 29, he took his own life. I don't know why. At the funeral, I had to squeeze his lifeless hand to set it in my mind that he was really gone. That was the defining moment where I knew my childhood had completely ended.
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WilmywoodNCparalegal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 08:07 AM
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104. A particularly bad and public break up
with somoeone I consider to be the greatest love of my life, on the night that Hurricane Fran ravaged our area. Even though I eventually reconnected with that person and in fact we are somewhat reunited, it still hurts when I think about it. That was the most painful, gut-wrenching, emotionally draining and physically difficult period of my life.
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laylah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-17-07 03:46 PM
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106. Not being able
to tell my Dad good-bye before he passed as I was in Colorado with a new born and the day I realized my husband considered me only a responsibility :cry: Heartbreaking, both.
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