Anyone else here married but don't wear a wedding ring?

[Generic Brad]

I am as married and as loyal as a man can be, but I don't wear my wedding ring. After twenty plus years my fingers got fat and the circulation in my ring finger was being cut off. My wife stopped wearing hers years before I did because she hates the feel of jewelry against her skin.

It baffles us to no end when our families think we either don't love each other or ok with cheating. Sure the ring may be a symbol to all of them, but it's not for us. It was just a tight band making our fingers uncomfortable.

[SeattleGirl]

1. I think that if the two of you are fine with it, that's enough.

You know who you are, and what you mean to each other. A ring is just a symbol; it's what's between two people that matters.

[leeroysphitz]

2. I'm like your wife. I can't stand wearing any jewlery not even a wrist watch.

My wears hers but understands why I don't.

[carly denise pt deux]

3. the older generation thinks that if one doesn't wear the ring, one is on the prowl

I believe that most of the time a ring really doesn't matter to someone if they are looking to hook up with someone else.

[AlCzervik]

4. my husband doesn't wear his and i don't wear mine everyday, just now and then

when i remember to put it on.

[Generic Brad]

6. Maybe we'd feel differently if we owned expensive wedding rings

But we were poor when we got married and could only afford the cheapest, thinnest rings. Now that we have the money there are a million other things we would rather spend the money on like our mortgage or a vacation.

[AlCzervik]

10. yeah, my wedding ring is pretty simple but i'm really hard jewelry and sometimes

it gets caught on things so i tend to leave it off. If i was ever going to buy something sparkly i'd get a fake.

[havocmom]

5. Arthritis in hands makes rings hurt me. Ugly finger joints don't need attention drawn to them

And, I am so intensely claustrophobic that I seldom can wear ANY sort of jewelry for more than a few hours. Doesn't make me less devoted to my husband. Does save him a fortune in baubles ;)

[Generic Brad]

9. It is so nice to hear we are not alone on this

We have been castigated by family about this over the years and made to feel like we were freaks over this.

[SoCalDem]

7. The band on the bottom got flat and the jeweler said

to fix it would require having all the stones reset..he charged by the stone.. there were 12 diamonds, so I said nope.. That was about 12 years ago..

I am ashamed to say I'm not sure where it is these days..:eyes:

[Shell Beau]

8. If you and your wife don't care, then what is the big deal?

I wear mine as does my husband, and I like to see his ring on his finger. But that is just me. Love, honesty and commitment are all that matter. Ring or not.

[MorningGlow]

11. I must admit I got mine resized

I hadn't worn mine in months--ever since I quit my job and stopped wearing jewelry. Then, with all the house renovations I was doing, my hands were swelling up, so I ditched my wedding and engagement rings as well. But I started to miss them, and probably in the back of my mind I was wondering if it looked like I was pretending to be single (silly, I know, but I had a supervisor once who, every time everyone in the office went out for happy hour, would take off his wedding band and put on a kind of signet ring--he was :puke: --and yes, he was on the make--so I didn't want to resemble him even by accident).

So a couple of weeks ago I took both rings back to the jeweler who made them, and he resized them for a small fee. I find myself happy to be wearing them again (and happy I only had to go up half a size).

[Generic Brad]

12. Been there, done that

I never envisoned becoming "big boned" as I aged though.

[grace0418]

13. We both lost a lot of weight and our rings fall off.

We're not in a huge hurry to replace them, and when we do they'll still be very simple. Diamonds are not my thing. I think my husband's family is completely confused by that. All the women have LOTS of jewelry. I'd so rather spend the money on a great trip.

[yellowdogintexas]

14. we both gained weight and had to stop wearing ours. I have

finally lost enough weight that I can wear mine occasionally, but my finger swells around it and it feels strange. My other rings are ok though. I don't wear them every day because keyboard work makes them my fingers swell.

Hopefully this last 10 pounds will do it and I can wear them comfortably again.

We have discussed getting new different ones that fit and feel better for our 25th anniversary. I inherited a nice diamond solitaire and would like to remount it with a nice anniversary style band.

[Bjornsdotter]

15. We haven't worn ours in years

...mine doesn't fit anymore and my husband used to do a lot of physical work and it would have been too dangerous.

We are both fine with not wearing them....

Cheers

[masshole]

16. My job wasn't ring-friendly

when we were married in 1986, or I might have tried harder to get used to wearing it.
Having things around my fingers just doesn't feel natural. The same for chains of any kind. I wear a watch, and I have an earring, thats it.
My wife being a nurse, often cannot wear her engagement ring, but she wears her wedding band most always.
She knows I love her, and that we are as committed as ever.
She's never needed me to wear a ring to prove it.

People have inquired about it, and we just look at them funny and tell them she prefers I wear a dog collar, but she left the leash at home.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

18. LOL.

"we just look at them funny and tell them she prefers I wear a dog collar, but she left the leash at home."

:rofl::rofl:

[Nikia]

20. My job isn't ring friendly either

Our food plant prohibits wearing any jewelry.
I try to remember to put it on during weekends but sometimes I forget. I have finally gotten heavy enough though that it won't fall off. When I was sick with anorexia, it fell off.

[trackfan]

17. Neither of us wears a wedding ring.

We don't have any.

[Pendrench]

19. I lost mine a few years ago...

I plan on getting another one, but right now there are more pressing expenses.

Tim