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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:20 PM Original message |
Poll question: So, the wife and I agreed to have an open marriage |
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MrScorpio (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:24 PM Response to Original message |
1. It might work as long as you don't shove it in each other's faces |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:30 PM Response to Reply #1 |
6. Ah - thanks for the link Mr. Scorpio! |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:24 PM Response to Original message |
2. Doubtful, but, maybe you're lucky... |
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The Straight Story (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:27 PM Response to Original message |
3. So it's not like a swinger type thing then? |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:48 PM Response to Reply #3 |
32. It's more like |
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jpgray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:28 PM Response to Original message |
4. If it's a "I want to look around but would enjoy an eternal plan B," then no |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:29 PM Response to Original message |
5. I'd guess No |
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GreenPartyVoter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:31 PM Response to Original message |
7. I would suspect you might drift apart in favor of emotional intimacy with others |
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somewhere_out_there (48 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:43 PM Response to Reply #7 |
11. I'd say I have to agree...... |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:59 PM Response to Reply #7 |
17. That's a good point and a valid fear |
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In_The_Wind (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:37 PM Response to Original message |
8. It takes a lot of relationship work in a situation like the one you've described. |
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Wapsie B (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:39 PM Response to Original message |
9. Given those parameters I really don't know. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:45 PM Response to Reply #9 |
12. It's probably hard to say without specifics... |
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haele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 04:01 PM Response to Reply #12 |
75. If there's no children involved - and never will be any |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:45 PM Response to Reply #9 |
13. It's probably hard to say without specifics... |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:42 PM Response to Original message |
10. If you can keep a mature head about it, and not listen to the 90% of Americans with a juvenile |
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Blue-Jay (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:28 PM Response to Reply #10 |
29. In other words....no chance in hell. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 02:58 PM Response to Reply #29 |
51. Yup. It's a doomed cause |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:49 PM Response to Original message |
14. I don't think I could do it. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:56 PM Response to Reply #14 |
16. It's not something I ever thought I'd have to think about |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:09 PM Response to Reply #16 |
24. If you are, and it works for the two of you, I say go for it. |
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Bullwinkle925 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 07:54 PM Response to Original message |
15. Well, my first instinct is a resounding "No" . . . |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 08:27 PM Response to Original message |
18. Probably no. Sorry. |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 08:31 PM Response to Original message |
19. Who knows. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:52 PM Response to Reply #19 |
35. That has been the hardest part |
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bluethruandthru (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 08:32 PM Response to Original message |
20. Are children involved? |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 08:39 PM Response to Reply #20 |
21. No children... |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 08:56 PM Response to Original message |
22. I voted "maybe"... |
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Zookeeper (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:03 PM Response to Original message |
23. I think it depends on what it is that you want the marriage to be... |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:11 PM Response to Original message |
25. Aren't you supposed to fulfill each other's needs? |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:21 PM Response to Original message |
26. I don't know. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:22 PM Response to Original message |
27. I've known several couples who have tried this and it hasn't worked out. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:27 PM Response to Reply #27 |
28. I'm cool with her being with other guys |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:34 PM Response to Original message |
30. Have I been transported to a 1968 John Updike novel? |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:47 PM Response to Reply #30 |
31. Well, we live in a Boston suburb |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:48 PM Response to Original message |
33. Why don't you "want to be divorced"? |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:49 PM Response to Reply #33 |
34. Ding! |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:57 PM Response to Reply #33 |
37. An excellent question! |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 11:22 PM Response to Reply #37 |
41. "I've been working towards reconciliation for some time," |
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triguy46 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 12:41 PM Response to Reply #41 |
48. Seriously, and with best hopes... |
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regnaD kciN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 07:14 PM Response to Reply #48 |
57. Ouch! No kidding... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 09:55 PM Response to Original message |
36. Honestly, I don't know any |
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LynzM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 10:15 PM Response to Original message |
38. Totally depends on you guys and your personalities and needs. |
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IdaBriggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 10:16 PM Response to Original message |
39. I'm betting "NO" but I'm a cynical sort. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:56 AM Response to Reply #39 |
67. I think your comments make a lot of sense |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 11:12 PM Response to Original message |
40. It all depends on if you can make it work. |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 12:05 PM Response to Reply #40 |
70. You're right |
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Monk06 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Aug-31-07 11:48 PM Response to Original message |
42. My wife and I have an open marriage..... Worst PU line evah! BTW are you retarded? |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:30 AM Response to Reply #42 |
65. Yes. |
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edbermac (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 12:01 AM Response to Original message |
43. Hell no. Ever see Fatal Attraction? |
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liberalhistorian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 12:15 AM Response to Reply #43 |
45. That movie has always really pissed me off. It put the blame |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:33 AM Response to Reply #43 |
66. I don't watch too much TV |
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AnotherDreamWeaver (917 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 12:01 AM Response to Original message |
44. Good Luck, and Best of Wishes, |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 12:02 PM Response to Reply #44 |
69. This sounds a lot like our situation |
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liberalhistorian (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 12:19 AM Response to Original message |
46. Dude, I'm sorry, but what's the point of being married |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 05:38 AM Response to Original message |
47. marriage is what the two of you make it. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 02:24 PM Response to Original message |
49. typically open marriages work when a marriage is already strong and secure |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:58 AM Response to Reply #49 |
68. That seems counterintuitive to me |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 12:49 PM Response to Reply #68 |
72. I think that this is what she means |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-03-07 12:21 PM Response to Reply #68 |
77. some people have open marriages because they arent monogamous by nature |
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Giant Robot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 12:52 PM Response to Reply #49 |
73. I agree |
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YDogg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 02:57 PM Response to Original message |
50. Beyond your needs and her needs ... |
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electron_blue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 03:01 PM Response to Original message |
52. I used to think 'no', but since then I've learned of many long-term open marriages |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 04:00 PM Response to Original message |
53. What do you want from the other people who you would be sleeping with |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:29 AM Response to Reply #53 |
64. Honesty |
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BelleCarolinaPeridot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
54. Either be married or be divorced. |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 05:18 PM Response to Original message |
55. If you are honest and respect each other and communicate |
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NC_Nurse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 07:08 PM Response to Original message |
56. Have you tried counseling? |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 07:17 PM Response to Original message |
58. It can be done.... |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:24 AM Response to Reply #58 |
63. It probably sounds stupid and naive on its face |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-03-07 12:00 PM Response to Reply #63 |
76. Well, given the situation.... |
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bigwillq (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 07:47 PM Response to Original message |
59. Not usually |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Sep-01-07 07:48 PM Response to Original message |
60. What's her number? |
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City of Mills (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:17 AM Response to Reply #60 |
61. ... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 11:20 AM Response to Reply #60 |
62. Naught boy! |
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YDogg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 12:09 PM Response to Reply #62 |
71. a nasty, bad, naughty boy. |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-02-07 02:46 PM Response to Reply #71 |
74. I hereby resign my position |
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