Gawd, I wish I was still married... (groan)

[krispos42]

Aside from the whole lonliness and celibacy thing, it was really nice having somebody to take care of you when you're sick!

[hippywife]

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[krispos42]

4. Oh thank you

:hugs:

This happened last weekend, too, but at least I had a fever to prove I was sick!

Ugh.


I was panicking because I was down to my last roll. But I found my kid's baby wipes, so I'm not totally helpless.

[SacredCow]

2. I can understand wanting to be taken care of...

but it isn't enough to make me want to get married again!

Get well soon!

:hug:

[krispos42]

5. He he he... I'm still romanticly stupid enough to want to get married...

I think I'll choose better this time, though.

"Man seeks voluptuous monogomous nymphomaniac who worked her way through a Criminal Justice degree as a masseuse"

Whatcha' think?

[SacredCow]

7. A man can have dreams, I suppose.....

Best of luck with that!

[billyoc]

3. I know exactly how you feel. I miss my ex-wife every day.

Except payday. :rofl:

[krispos42]

6. No alimony from me, thanks

And reasonable child support.

So I'm not that bad in that department!

I miss my son, though. :-(

[dembotoz]

8. Gawd, I wish I wasn't....(groan)

take care of yourself.
Friends can help you too ya know...

[krispos42]

10. I have a distinct lack of friends..

My ex was my friend, and her family by extension. At the risk of sounding incredibly corny, I was sad every morning when I had to leave her and happy when I came home after work.

I just moved up here, too, but that's not really an excuse. I tend towards inertia when I'm home, and I really don't know how to make friends out of thin air.

[Raven]

9. I would rather be alone than in a bad/unhappy marriage. n/t

[krispos42]

11. Me, too...

that's why I broke up with the great woman I was dating last year. She had a great family, was great with my kid, and had a good budding career. She was making more than I was! But...

You get the idea.

[Raven]

12. Tough choice but probably a good one. I have to tell you that

having reached 61 years of age, I know very few people who have good marriages. Some of them are my very close friends and I am amazed at the concessions they make to their spouse just to keep the peace. I have one good friend who gets knocked around and verbally and emotionally abused by her husband. I witnessed this one night at a party and saw the hatred in his eyes. This is the 3rd marriage for both of them. Go figure!

[krispos42]

13. My grandparents have reached tha point...

I believe they are 83 and 80, and it's gotten really bad. But Granny won't move down to be closer to her kids or her sister. She won't leave her hubby, crotchety though he may be. :-(

[Raven]

14. Sometimes that happens with age and senility. There can be

a personality change.

[krispos42]

15. Oh, they're not senile... maybe a bit fuzzy, but that's it.

I guess he's always been kind of a 'difficult' husband, but now Granny had diabetes. She can't drive and falls down a lot because her legs are numb. And Poppy is now the eternal victim.

He found out he had prostate cancer but won't tell anybody anything about it, too. Nobody has any clue about how it's progressing or if the treatments are working because he won't let the doctor talk to anybody else about it, either.

I guess they go for days without speaking, sometimes, too.

It's driving my mom batty! And she's a social worker!


So that's not the kind of example I'm looking for. I want (I thought I had) something like what my parents have.

[Jack_Dawson]

32. So...

what was the problem? :hi:

[Bullwinkle925]

16. I don't mean this in an offensive way at all . . .

but I was not surprised to see this was posted by a MALE!
I don't know how many women would want a spouse just to take care of them when they're sick - and I'm unsure of how many males would?

:shrug:

sorry - hit the *post* button too quickly - i do hope you feel better soon.

[krispos42]

18. Oh, I was quite happy married

My ex was my best friend. We did everything together. I took care of her, she took care of me. Actually I took care of her a lot because she was often sick.

Then, well... now she's somebody else's problem. But I still miss somebody to snuggle with.

And my insides seem to have settled down for now. I might try crawling into the tub with "What's the Matter With Kansas?"

[Bullwinkle925]

19. Sounds like a plan . . .

I've recently purchased that book as well. Alas, here I sit between getting up and doing some housework and slothing my way through the computer.
aarrghhhhhh.

[Bennyboy]

17. I miss my ex wife dearly....

She was my best friend. Every day I think about her. Her kids however I do not miss.

[krispos42]

23. He he! n/t

[greymattermom]

20. left alone

Well, I'm married, and I'm always left alone when I'm sick. The worst was after having a bunch of screws put into a broken arm. that had to be rebroken. Couldn't move at all and was left alone for days. Overdosed on pain killers. Gotta work ya know.

[krispos42]

24. Ooch

Sympathies galore!

I've been lucky enough (or boring enough) to never have broken a bone or taken anything stronger than Advil for pain.

[no name no slogan]

21. My ex-wife abandoned me when I got sick

So OTOH maybe being single is okay.

And if it's just sex, use your hands. In the words of Billy Bragg, if God didn't intend for us to masturbate, S/He wouldn't have made our arms this length. Plus you always get a happy ending.

[Bennyboy]

22. Mine too....and she created it!

I suffer(ed) from depression due to her child getting me almost shot and then sued for 2 million dollars. I had it really bad. I never could get my meds right and it jsut devasted me totally.

[krispos42]

26. Well, I'm not talking anything permenant here

I think I have a stomach bug or something. Thank the Flying Pink Unicorn for that, I guess...

My biggest fear was running out of toilet paper, but I found my son's now-unneeded baby wipes and am using those.

As to Billy Bragg, rest assured I have the problem well in, um, hand... :-)

[BarenakedLady]

25. No one takes care of me when I'm sick...

Hmmmm...

;(

...let me add that to the list...

}(

[krispos42]

27. Uh-oh... sounds like the dear hubby is in the doghouse tonight...

:-)

[BarenakedLady]

34. Tonight?

LoL!

*giggle* I've been sleeping in the basement since January 1st (my choice).

[Inchworm]

35. What do you need when you are sick?

I'll email it to you :D

Drink yer juice!

:hug:

flirt- flirt- flirt- :loveya:

:hi:

[BarenakedLady]

37. Don't worry your pretty little head about it

I've had a string of relationships with men who have more exciting things to do. I've learned to take care of myself.

But thanks for the offer.

:)

[Inchworm]

38. Oh my

Better things to do than rub your neck? hmm...

Why I oughta! :D

;)

[BarenakedLady]

39. ....

:P

neener neener

[Inchworm]

40. ...

I take that as a yes? Wait, maybe your neck just doesnt need rubbing atm? Are you relaxed rutebaga?

:rofl:

[lost-in-nj]

28. No one takes care of me either

even when he was here.....

He would just leave me alone...


:shrug: :shrug:

but oh boy was he the biggest baby when he got sick......



lost

[krispos42]

30. I'd have brought you some hot tea with honey in it...

...and snuggled up in the bed!

I am a snugglebunny, after all... :-)

[Inchworm]

41. If you drink your juice

you never get sick :P

I make a mean chicken noodle! :)

:hug:

[laylah]

29. I feel that way

many a time when the finances get thin. That said, although HE believes that $$$ can buy happiness, I never have. That said, as he makes his mid-6 figure, and I my (if I am lucky) low 4, I still believe I did the right thing. THAT said, he was a good emotional support...after I taught him. Gotta love him, tho', even tho' he hates my stinking rotten guts.

[Critters2]

31. I know.

I realized how hard it is to be single the first time after the divorce that I tried to carry a 40 lb bag of dog food. Gawd! I hated my ex then. Now I buy smaller bags.

I honestly don't think human beings are intended to live alone, because even adults sometimes need someone to take care of us....like when we're sick.

I'd take care of you if I could!!

I hope you feel better soon.

[SCDem]

33. I miss the dream of a partner

But as I was reading Zora Neale Hurston's book Their Eyes Were Watching God - I shared the sentiments of the character Janie - "Besides she like being lonesome for a change. This freedom feeling was fine."

Maybe that just shows how bad my marriage was - but I've dated a little bit but most of the dates come in a good second to a good book.

Again I miss the dream of a partner - but not sure missing things you've never had or may not even exist is worth the breath.

[Inchworm]

36. skr00 dat!

I'll take my chances with soup and rest :)

:hi:

[badgerpup]

42. Wasn't married, but thought we were 'committed'...

:dunce:

We were together for almost six years...figured it up and ex-Sig Other spent at least nine months cumulatively of that in hospital for one thing or another.
I don't miss the hospital visits and the worry and the 'oh god, what's going to go wrong next?'
but I miss the feeling of having emotional backup, that someone loved and appreciated me.

I miss having someone to go places with me...helped with the social anxiety and agoraphobia that I deal with.

I miss having someone to call at ridiculous hours and have loooong talks with about absolutely nothing at all...

I miss HUGS...long, engulfing, wraparound, hold-you-securely embraces.

And...I miss having someone to care for, to spoil, to do things for.

But...he wanted to upgrade; wanted someone he could 'be IN love with'. Dumped me when he 'fell in love' with someone on the interwebz...told me that 'no, we hadn't really been committed, he just let me think we were so my feelings wouldn't be hurt'.
His new 'fiancee'...who was actually a man (masquerading as a woman, of course) then scammed his a$$ but good. :shrug:

Schadenfreude? Suprisingly, not so much...just made me feel very sad.

But it's been a year and half...and I'm still picking up the pieces and I kinda resent having to do so. Coulda used the energy on other things...

[krispos42]

43. Well, at least there weren't any kid's involved

Often times I wish strongly for a clean break from my ex. But it's impossible because we have a son together. He turns three in about 10 days :-)