Odd thing I noticed about myself today re: approaching opposite sex

[Lethe]

I starting reflecting on my own social interactions with the opposite sex after reading the thread about the same topic.

For some reason I am way more confident in social interactions with women when I am dirty, unshowered, disheveled, and/or wearing dirty clothes. (usually t-shirt with beer logo w/ various stains from fishing and pair of shorts that smells like plastic worms with the odd live crawfish trying to poke out of the pocket)

I have no idea why this is so. I guess for most people they feel their most confident when they are dressed up and heavily coiffed, etc.

Anybody else feel this way or am I just weird lol?

(hey i dress up nicely too)

[Cabcere]

1. Maybe your expectations are lower?

I mean, if you're not dressed up really nicely, you sort of have a subconscious "excuse" if things don't go so well, I guess...it's like you've got nothing to lose, maybe? :shrug: I used to be that way with rowing practices, kind of - when I was feeling my worst, I somehow ended up getting my best times. :shrug: I'm sure there's some kind of technical explanation for this phenomenon, but I don't have the answer. :hi: Peace.

[supernova]

2. Probably has to do with expectations

of yourself. You know you're not all spiffy so you don't have too many expectations about anything happening. You're just yourself. And that's appealing.

They idea is to be yourself when you are all bright and shiny too. :D

[Wapsie B]

3. Whatever works for you.

Maybe it's because when you're disheveled you don't care what anyone else thinks of your looks. From what I've been told that's a good frame of mind to be in when approaching the opposite sex. I can go with a ratty-looking t-shirt but damn, I gotta shower.

[Nikia]

4. Although I dislike appearing as my frumpier self

When I do so, I feel like I am myself only. I am not someone who is trying to impress anyone. I also see myself as more asexual that way. I feel less visible. There is something safer about that.

[Callalily]

5. Interesting . . .

maybe you just feel more like yourself when disheveled. In my line of work I attend dress up functions all of the time, so I'm just as confident dressed up or dressed down. Guess I'm the same me no matter what.

[skygazer]

6. I feel most confident when I am comfortable

And I feel most comfortable when I'm being myself. And I feel most like myself when I'm in casual clothes. I'm a pretty laid-back and outdoorsy person and I feel best when I reflect that. I guess I feel like I'm on my own ground. I tend to feel rather formal and "not myself" when I'm dressed up.

Maybe that has something to do with it for you. :hi:

[Lethe]

7. interesting responses....

i think you guys are pretty close to the mark

[DarkTirade]

8. That's worked for me a few times too.

Well, not the fishing clothes, but dirty work clothes, yeah. :)

[Orangepeel]

9. hmm... maybe you're more confident b/c you don't have as much to lose

If you get rejected when you are dirty and stained, the rejection can be attributed to the dirt and stains. But if you are rejected when you are looking your best....

just a theory
:shrug:

[Joe Fields]

10. women don't frighten me....marsupials do....