Ever had to drop kick someone out of your life out of self defense?

[Rosemary2205]

I figure most of us have had at least one person in our lives at some point that just sucked all the life and joy right out of us. Sometimes you just have to give up on forcing something to work that isn't going to and set them free.

Even when it's the right thing to do, damn it's hard.

I am going to have to figure out a way to wall out a co-worker and still work there. --- call me Houdini.

[datasuspect]

1. hell yes

there is no time to waste in life. i've wasted enough.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. Yes, my sister-in-law.

This has made my relationship with my brother a bit strained, but my SIL is such a poisonous person I finally decided I didn't want anything more to do with her. Life is too short to have to put up with that much negative energy. She's a fucking Dementor.

[Pacifist Patriot]

16. Oooo, should have read your post before I responded.

I have a life-sucking SIL too. Oy!

[Xipe Totec]

3. Drop Kick? Hell!

I had to move to a new apartment and not tell him where it was in order to get rid of one mooch.

He just would not take the hint that he had worn out his welcome.

[Rosemary2205]

7. I really feel for you.

It's a lot worse when it's in your own home.

[Seabiscuit]

4. Hell, yeah. My entire friggin' family. Before I created my own family.

[philosophie_en_rose]

5. Absolutely. There are some people I'd rather not know.

I resist being unkind, but sometimes people grow apart. Or sometimes they're dirtbags that need to get out my house.

[NC_Nurse]

6. A few.

Some people are black fuckin' holes.

[Rosemary2205]

12. yep

I've met 2. Both times I spent a long time trying to make it work "for the sake of whatever". Most people are worth the bullshit, more good than bad - but dangit you are right. Some people just suck every bit of life and energy out of everything.

[Pacifist Patriot]

8. JK Rowling, for whatever you think of her, nailed one thing.

There is such a thing as a Dementor.

There are people who just suck the life and joy out of every room they enter. I have tried to help some of them with mixed success.

When it gets to the point where the negativity vacuum is stronger than the positive vibes you emit....self-preservation must prevail.

[Withywindle]

10. Yup. I've known a couple of those.

Expecto Patronum, Debbie Downer.

There's also the crazymakers - people who are just such a constant drama vortex that, even for the times when they're fun to be around, SO not worth it. You find that your own life has come to revolve around their crisis-of-the-week whether you like it or not.

I've known a lot of these, and I've been worried that I've been one. I work so hard to get my shit together so that doesn't happen to me.

[Pacifist Patriot]

13. A friend of mine used to refer to some folks as "Occasional People"

It took me a little while to figure out what she was talking about. Not intermittent people, but people who live from occasion to occasion. Everything is about a funeral, wedding, birth, breakup, hiring, firing, etc. Can't hold a conversation unless there is an occasion to stew on.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

14. Expecto Patronum!

I've wanted to say that to my SIL (see below) more than once...

[havocmom]

9. Yes. my father

Never regretted it. He was a mean drunk and misogynist. I saw what he did to my mom, my older sister, two step-moms. As soon as he made one crack to me that signaled he considered me a grown woman and now fair game for his mental abuse, that was it. I was calm, cold and surgical. He just didn't have a part in my life from that moment. No fight, no accusations, just no more dealing with dad. I just knew any further relationship with him would cost more than I was willing to pay.

It puzzled him and he called years later to ask what he had done. Told him it didn't matter, it wouldn't change things as he couldn't fix it. No anger, no bitterness, just the facts.

I do have some fond memories of him, and some very bad ones. I saw him clearly. And I learned from what I saw him do to others.

After he died, I got two very peaceful messages. It was all OK. What was left was love and affection. The bitter drunk was not there anymore. What ever it was that made him so angry at, and dangerous to, women was gone. I can think of him and smile.

[TheProphetess]

21. That's hard to do

I'm glad that you were able to do it and find peace. :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

11. Yes

A toxic boyfriend and a joy sucking friend.

[SPKrazy]

15. Yup

had to do it with a few people

one a good friend who kept trying to get me to blow off class in college and go do fun things :grr: I was trying to succeed finally and the only way to deal with him was to blow him off (not in a PEV sense)

[Left Is Write]

17. Yes.

[NMDemDist2]

18. only my mother

:no appropriate smilie to insert:

[swag]

19. A couple people. One guy repeatedly until it stuck pretty well.

[leftofthedial]

20. yeah

the old me

[TheProphetess]

22. My oldest sister

It has been a very good decision for me and I have much more happiness and peace in my life now.

[NV Whino]

23. I call 'em leeches

but Dementors is good, too. There is no gentle way to remove them. Do it fast and move on.

[LeftyMom]

24. My mother, for several years.

I wasn't equipped to deal with her immaturity and her drama. Now I can handle her on a limited basis, but we can't really be close because she absolutely wears me out.

[Wapsie B]

25. Yeah my dad for one.

Just sucks the life outta where he is.

My ex too for that matter.