Have you ever had neighbors that were so difficult that you felt on edge

[Blue_Roses]

every time you were in your own home? We live in an apartment now (because of a move from a different state) and our neighbors moved in about 7 months after us. Every morning I put our two parakeets out on the patio and they chirp--too loud I guess. Well, yesterday, I look out the patio door and see water pouring down on our patio, drenching my plants (they liked it) and soaking my birds. The guy's roommate had thrown water over his balcony I guess to try and shut the birds up. The water was so heavy I thought it was storming until I looked out the front door and noticed it was BONE DRY---that is, except on my patio.

I was talking to one of the guy's last Friday and he told me his roommate "jokingly" asked did he think we would miss the birds! WTF? I told him, "well, my kids would since it's their birds"...

These guys STOMP and THROW stuff around at all hours of the night and we are constantly thinking that they may one day fall through the ceiling they STOMP so hard. I've talked to them and so has my husband and they are not used to living in an apartment. Blah, Blah, Blah...

I feel like my head is going to explode. I find myself tip-toeing around and I'm on the bottom floor! It's like they don't want to be inconvenienced but to hell with waking us up all hours of the night. These guys are in their 30's and 40's. You would think they would be somewhat more mature about this.

Anybody else been in this situation before?

[NewJeffCT]

1. so, they're stomping around at all hours of the night?

and they're upset about tweety birds?

maybe the chirping of the birds doesn't jive too well with their hangovers?

[Blue_Roses]

2. you know, my husband said the same thing

they never work and they are so inconsiderate at night. It's driving me NUTS:cry:

[Gidney N Cloyd]

3. I did the rental apartment thing for way too long. I've seen just about >

> every type of crappy neighbor there is. Some people are just too screwed up to be mixed in with the rest of us. They have no clue of their impact.
And two guys "in their 30's and 40's" ? There's probably a lot of good reasons they can't afford to rent on their own.

[VenusRising]

4. My best advice to you is read your lease.

I have dealt with all kinds of people in our apartment complex like that.

Most offices will have a clause about not annoying the neighbors in the leasing agreement. If that clause is in your lease, go down and talk to the office. I would also start writing down things that happen and the date and time. It's documentation that the office can use to deal with the problematic tenants.

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. It's a pain in the rear when there is no common courtesy when there are common walls (floor/ceiling).

Good luck!!

[Blue_Roses]

5. the couple that lived there before them

were so quiet and polite. They didn't live there long because they got a house but they were the sweetest, considerate people, so when these guys tell me that it's because the foundation is crappy and that's why they sound so loud, I know it's bullshit.

I just get the feeling that they think they are the only ones who matter around here. They claim they have jobs, but I never see them going to work. I was here with my kids all summer and I NEVER saw them go to work. I know this because my kids complained about their STOMPING too!

On top of that, one Saturday I had a knock at the door and when I opened it, who should be standing there, but a "fugitive agent." He flashed his badged and asked me if I had seen the guy upstairs. He was holding a folder with his name on it and I looked at the folder and saw one guy. The fugitive agent said when he stopped by the office, they told him only one guy was living there, but that's not true, because there are TWO! :wtf: Come to find out, the agent was looking for one of their friends who they bonded out of jail and never showed for court. Sheeshhhhhhhhh...

I feel like I stepped into a Lifetime movie:crazy:

[bikebloke]

6. The current bad neighbour.

One of my current neighbours is a bit off. In the beginning I was polite, figuring he was a mental case. He works at home. I don't know if it's due to his rotting teeth (isn't there some kind of medication or recreational drug use that causes that?) Anyway, he started pulling his boom box out on the patio and blasting it full volume. I politely asked him to turn it down. He brushed me off. So I had management send him a letter. He brushed them off saying he could play it at any volume before 9 pm. So I reminded him about the contract. He still brushed me off. So much for civility. Next time he faced the wolf. Now he's scared of me.

When you live so close amongst other people, the first thing is to consider how your actions will affect others. Nobody had to tell me that. I just knew. What's wrong with these other eejits?

[skygazer]

7. I believe meth use rots teeth

There are other medications that do as well - I believe some meds for epilepsy do - not that epilepsy makes you crazy and your neighbor sounds nuts.

Yeah, I don't miss living in an apartment situation.

[pitohui]

8. well actually in a worse situation

i've told the story before, in the 70s we lived next door to a foster father who was raping his daughter, to the point where she had even attempted suicide, authorities did nothing and the foster father caught on that we had reported him and threatened us, parents had to buy (and visibly bring into the house, so that the neighbor was aware) a loaded shotgun for our protection

eventually the creep vanished w. the daughter, i've often wondered if she survived very much longer, this i'll never know

as a young adult i lived in a neighborhood where my stupid-ass neighbor decided to inform on the crack dealers, getting all of us shot at in drive-bys, not just his stupid-ass -- this made me esp. angry because he KNEW, i had told him myself, that i had watched police officers take envelopes from the crack dealers and that you could NOT inform on these people and expect them to be arrested, the upshot was we were all shot at and WE were investigated and threatened w. arrest, while the crack dealers continued to rule -- no option there but to move away when $$$ became available, however, the investigator followed me, at least, and i was pretty much under police harassment for at least another year

i've learned to keep my distance from neighbors unless i'm very sure they have their heads on straight, believe you me

if you live in a condo, start documenting and report to the condo association, also to the police if you think the intent was to kill the birds

if you live in an apartment, i think you should look into moving when the lease is up, life is too short to live in the same structure w. crazy people, it's bad enough when the crazy people are in the house next door but when they're on your ceiling? what if their next move is to "accidentally" flood their bathroom and bring the ceiling down on your head? with druggies, as i assume they are, based on their marvelous behavior, you just never know

crack and meth just don't kill like they promised us back in the day, and there are MANY crackheads and methheads in their 30s, 40s, even their 50s & 60s, so you can't assume someone will be a good neighbor just because they're "older," (seriously in recent news in new orleans a 64 year old crackhead was reported dead, not from the crack, but because someone finally got sick of his shit and shot him) you must judge them on behavior only -- and if it's out of line plus "fugitive agents" are seeking the creep, there's probably a reason you don't want to be involved in it

if you see "parties" that could be evidence of drug selling, it's worth reporting it to the police if you are sure the police are not in on it

otherwise get the heck out of there is my advice! people who would take out their hate on a harmless budgie are not normal, i've had budgies, and these birds are just not loud unless you're in a constant state of hangover or something

[Bennyboy]

9. My nabes have it all over those guys.....

2 doors down my neigbhors have been in a knock-down, drag-out fight since 2:30 this AM. Still going at it. Every week they do this, pretty soon the cops will come and arrest one of them.

[Blue_Roses]

10. lol

I really needed that. Thank-you!

:rofl:

[distantearlywarning]

11. The last apartment I lived in

Our downstairs neighbors were terrible. I could make a list of all the crappy, unneighborly things they did, but it would be paragraphs long.

The last thing they did before we bought our house and moved out was that the landlord evicted them and gave them 5 days to take their shit away. Instead, the bastards turned off their power and water and moved out, abandoning half of their stuff in mouldering piles in their filthy, roach infested apartment along with their two terrified cats - no food, water, or attention for days before we found the poor beasties. Needless to say, we reported the idiots to animal control. The cats were taken away, but nothing at all happened to our neighbors (that's another rant for another day). Also, the fact that they kept their apartment a roach pit made me sick for an entire winter (forced air heating brought their yuck up to my apartment). I had allergies and illness for months on end with no relief. I couldn't figure out what was causing it until we went down there to check on their cats when they got evicted and found out that their apartment was a disgusting cesspool of filth. Amazingly enough, all of my problems cleared up the week we moved away and haven't returned. Funny how that happened. :eyes:

After that little experience, I never want to live with neighbors in the same building again. I feel lucky we didn't end up with bedbugs or something.