My daughter ended up in the hospital tonight

[skygazer]

She called a couple of hours ago - her husband was bringing her to the ER. She was having severe panic attacks and generally freaking out. She's been working two jobs as well as going to school full-time. She got over a bad case of bronchitis about a week ago and found out today that she has another bacterial infection and her doctor doesn't know why. On top of all this, she found out on Monday that her beloved cat has heart disease - I've forgotten now what its called but it involves the thickening of the heart wall and is not reversable though it can sometimes be controlled - for a while.

She's only 25, has had a rough enough life and deserves a frigging break out of life. And she's 2000 miles away and I feel helpless. :cry:

The only good thing is that she's admitted that she needs to go on some medication which she's resisted up until now. Any of those famous Lounge vibes would be really welcome right about now. :(

[Manifestor_of_Light]

1. Her doctor needs to know that her immune system is seriously depressed.

Some doctors don't get it when you're run down, stressed out and keep getting bacterial infections of whatever kind.

Good luck and I'm sending good vibes to you.

[skygazer]

4. Thank you - I appreciate it

Yeah, she tends to carry a lot without letting on - I'll mention that to her husband when I talk to him tomorrow. Her doctor is probably not aware she's under so much stress.

[SeattleGirl]

2. Oh honey, I'm so sorry.

Being on meds is nothing to be ashamed of; God knows, her life is more than full. I've been on anxiety meds, as well as meds for depression, and I have no shame about it. To me, it's nothing different than having to be in insulin for diabetes.

Just be there for her.

I'm glad her husband took her to the hospital. I think she will be fine.

[skygazer]

5. The hospital was the best move, in my opinion

And I'm so grateful she has her wonderful, supportive husband. He really is a great guy and worships the ground she walks on. And I'm relieved she's going to do the meds.

Man it's tough to be a parent!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear skygazer...

Aw, sweetie...

How awful for all of you...

I've been there, with loved ones far away and so ill...

It's damn scary...

I hope she can slow down after she gets out of the hospital...

All, and I do mean ALL of my best vibes are with you now....

And with her and her husband too, of course....

Hang in there, sweetie...

We've got your back...

:loveya: :hug: :loveya:

[skygazer]

7. Thanks, CalPeg

I'm too wound up to sleep and this place always offers me friends I can count on. :hug:

[Inchworm]

6. I love your daughter!

and I love you!

For what its worth I got a big heart. Im perdy smashed atm but I hope she gets good advice at the docs.

:hug:

[skygazer]

8. And I love you, Inchworm

I can always count on you for a smile. Thanks, my friend. :hug:

[ThomCat]

9. I hope she's okay.

:(

:hug:
I'll send lots of good vibes. She's definitely way too stressed out. I did the 2 jobs + college thing and it damn near killed me.

I'm sorry about her cat. I hope he/she is able to have a good life for a while longer.

[skygazer]

21. Thanks, Thom

I just got up - I'm all bleary-eyed.

She's always taken on way too much and most of the time, she somehow juggles it but this is just too much and the cat was the straw that broke her back. I'm not sure about the diagnosis - last I knew they were telling her they felt confident they could keep him going for at least 5 years but she just took him to a university clinic and I don't know what they told her.

I think a break and some meds are certainly in order and I plan on encouraging her to drop the part-time job. It might pinch a bit but its better than destroying her health.

[lizziegrace]

10. You've got them

:hug:

I have mild anxiety issues and Lelapin has moderate to severe at times. I know how hard it is to see a child suffer and be helpless.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

:pals:

[skygazer]

22. Yes, in addition to my worry, I struggle with guilt

Since I'm relatively certain she has inherited her problems from me. :(

I'd a hundred times rather deal with twice as many as see her deal with them.

[Deja Q]

11. You've gottem

:hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe: :hug: :vibe:

[MissMillie]

12. vibes, prayers, and hugs all coming your way and to your daughter

:hug:

Let the healing begin.

[Cabcere]

13. Hugs and good vibes for your daughter.

:hug: I hope things improve for her soon. :pals: :hi:

[BarenakedLady]

14. That's awful

Panic attacks are horrid, I know. I hope the medication helps her.

:hug:

[soleft]

15. Sending good vibes for you and your daughter

[Beausoir]

16. Good thoughts going out for your and your family.

[Phillycat]

17. Vibes on their way!

I hope she feels better soon. I can really relate to running running running without giving myself a break. I know what she's going through. I try to remind myself about a very simple mantra, "Must EAT. Must SLEEP." If I get enough sleep and enough nutrients in my diet, I can keep running without too much many health problems. Remind her to eat and sleep, especially SLEEP.

Hope she's well very soon. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

18. best wishes skygazer~

:hug:

[Arugula Latte]

19. Hope she gets relief soon ...

I woke up at 4:30 am (that's why I'm on DU early Left Coast time) and had an anxiety attack. I was just reading about the symptoms of anxiety/panic disorders. It's very scary. I really feel for her. :hug:

[skygazer]

23. I hope you're feeling better now

They're no joke - scary and debilitating. She's such a tough little trouper - I remember when she was managing a bookstore and she was having horrible waves of panic attacks. She refused to go home because she felt responsible for the store and she'd duck down behind the counter and wait for the panic attack to ease up then pop up and banter with customers as if nothing was wrong.

She's one of the toughest people I know and its painful to think of her in distress and far from her mum. :(

[Tyler Durden]

20. As an anxiety/panic attack survivor from way back...

She definitely has my sympathies.

My buddy CELEXA (generic flavor) helps keep the screaming meemies away, and I am SO grateful

[Ariana Celeste]

24. she's definitely got my good vibes

panic attacks are awful, I have them all the time. I'm sure my mom feels much like you do, we have the same deal going on, her in WA and me in IN. At least I'm coming back home soon. I'll have you and your daughter in my thoughts. :hug:

[prolesunited]

25. Her body is rebelling

She's taken on too much and refusing to slow down, so her body is taking matters into its own hands, saying "if you don't stop, I WILL!"

I went through a similar situation, working a demanding full-time job, doing freelance work, going to grad school and dealing with my mom in ICU at the hospital. When she died, I totally fell apart.

Going on meds is a good place to start and will help her get through this acute episode, but it doesn't seem like a long-term solution in her case. With her health in jeopardy, it's time to take a serious look at her schedule and find a place to cut back. If she won't, it's obvious her body will and it could end up being even worse than it is now.

Getting out in nature (cycling or hiking) and yoga have been very helpful for me.

Wishing her (and you) the best.

[skygazer]

26. You're absolutely right

The same thing happened to me - when all that stuff piles on, it causes overload. Since she's succeptable to anxiety and panic attacks anyway, it makes it worse.

I'm going to suggest she give up the part-time job and maybe cut back on her classes, at least until she resolves her situation with her cat which is really tearing her up. And nature is an excellent suggestion - she has always found solace and comfort in the outdoors.

Thanks. :hug:

[Left Is Write]

27. I'm sorry. That sounds rough.

She DOES deserve a break! Sending some Lounge vibes her way. :hug:

[flamingyouth]

28. skygazer, I'm so sorry to hear all of this.

My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. :hug:

[raccoon]

29. That IS good.

"The only good thing is that she's admitted that she needs to go on some medication"

Best wishes to you both.

[Bjornsdotter]

30. Oh dear

...positive thoughts for both your daughter and you. Nothing, nothing is worse than when our children are hurting and we can't fix it.

:hug:

[Eurobabe]

31. Vibes sent her way

Hope she is feeling better soon. :grouphug:

[Parche]

32. I Feel Your Pain

Panic attacks are no fun, you feel empty and hopeless
Hopefully she can take something to soothe the anxiety
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hi:

[yardwork]

33. I'm really really sorry to hear this!

Hugs to you. :pals:

[Connonym]

34. lots of positive vibes her way and yours

panic and anxiety are awful and it sounds like she's having a lot of stress. It's a big step that she's willing to accept medication and accepting that there's a problem. Hopefully she can reduce her stress load and she'll feel better soon. Lots of love and good vibes to both of you -- to you also because I'm a mom and I know how a mom worries.

[skygazer]

35. Thanks, Connonym

Boy, its hard to be a mom! When I was young and naive, I thought you just raised 'em up to be 18 or 21 or so and then you didn't have to worry about them anymore.

HA!

I think I worry about them more because they're not right here where I can see what they're up to. x(

[LaraMN]

36. Whoa. Vibes forthcoming!

It sounds like she's just absolutely run down. Poor thing.

:-(

[Shine]

37. Wishing her all the best...

:hug: I'm glad she's getting the help she needs. I'm sure it must be hard for you being so far away. :hug: