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Thu Sep-13-07 12:47 PM
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She just looked at me funny, zipped up her jacket, and walked away.
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Thu Sep-13-07 12:48 PM
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:hug: :hug:
her loss.....
lost
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Thu Sep-13-07 03:22 PM
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33. Nice Sympathy IDI Amin |
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:spank: :spank: :spank:
:hi:
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Thu Sep-13-07 12:51 PM
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2. better things are down the road. nt. |
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Thu Sep-13-07 12:55 PM
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3. There's no accounting for taste |
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:01 PM
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:17 PM
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8. I asked her out at the restaurant, but was a bit too shy and nervous... |
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In time I will learn confidence and come across less nervous, but I've always been nervous... the only way to combat it is to face the fear head on.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:19 PM
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10. Have you tried transference? |
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When you're around someone that makes you nervous, imagine them as someone you are normally comfortable with.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:21 PM
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12. well atleast now you cant blame gay men for rejecting you. |
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:26 PM
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17. That's their problem. |
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Nobody is universally liked; it'd be foolish to attempt to think otherwise. I used to, and that caused more problems than life was worth. Particularly when I disagreed with a lot with things I was told I had to like...
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Fri Sep-14-07 11:51 AM
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Maybe you'll understand the context this time around. (you clearly didn't before...)
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:05 PM
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5. That was rude of her not to even answer. nt |
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Edited on Thu Sep-13-07 01:07 PM by raccoon
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:38 PM
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22. not if she didnt know him personally, i am not obligated to reply to people who approach me |
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:00 PM
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25. She didn't know him personally? I was thinking she was a co-worker |
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or something like that. Oh, well.
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:04 PM
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26. sorry, its a pet peeve of mine because after i reject men they often demand explanations |
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why should i have to explain my decisions?
thats sort of what i was going for... :hi:
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:41 PM
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28. I don't think you owe them an explanation either. nt |
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:06 PM
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6. You switched teams!!1!?1? |
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Say it ain't so1?!1!?! :cry:
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:22 PM
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The long story is tedious and maudlin; but both sides kept saying for me to make up my mind; the usual anti-bi stereotype stuff. For that amongst a couple other reasons, I made up my mind.
Other people have their lives; I have mine. I made the choice. I've no qualms by doing so.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:14 PM
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As in September 13?
Either way, it was pretty rude.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:18 PM
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9. Well, I may have been rude too and didn't even realize it. |
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Edited on Thu Sep-13-07 01:19 PM by HypnoToad
Body language has never been my strong point, but I do know I tend to make people feel nervous when I'm in the room...
And technically, it was the 12th... :)
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:23 PM
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16. Well, unless you were coming across as |
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a serial killer stalker type, the least she could have said was, "No, thank you."
Better luck next time.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:30 PM
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And some people are just like that. And maybe I took their reaction the wrong way as well; I've been told to remain conscious of the difference between a personal attack and a generalized reaction; they can be different and I can misperceive others just as much as they misperceive me...
I've been misperceived as that sort of personality type, amongst many others. Some of the stories I have to tell are very interesting indeed... But I am also known for throwing off body language experts. Being an Aspie has its advantages, even if they are more often disadvantageous... :7
Well, they're not quite "stories" as they're not fiction, and the books I am writing either use the full events unabridged (based on a real life story), or even in the later autobiography I'm being 100% upfront, even with the darker sides of my nature. Otherwise there is no point; honesty must be full.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:30 PM
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19. i disagree, if someone approaches me and creeps me out, i leave |
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women often sacrifice too much to be polite.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:33 PM
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20. Given how some men can be, I wholly agree with you. |
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Some men indeed are stalkers, serial killers, and other nasty vicious types. With the crap that does go on in society, even if it's an accidental misunderstanding*, I would never blame a woman for just leaving.
* despite coming across nervous, people who know me DO know I am not the vicious animalistic type.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:34 PM
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21. exactly, i dont think she was rude. i would have done the exact same thing. |
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infact i just did that a day or so ago.
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:44 PM
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29. Actually, I believe we agree. |
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If a guy totally creeps you out, there is nothing wrong with removing yourself from the situation. You should keep yourself safe at the expense of politeness.
I guess my response was clouded by the fact that HT seems like a perfectly nice person online. I assumed he would be somewhat the same in RL. :)
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Fri Sep-14-07 12:01 PM
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Edited on Fri Sep-14-07 12:02 PM by HypnoToad
I am a nice guy in the real world and my actions prove it. I care little for words.
Also a very nervous and unsure one in the real world due to a childhood of less than friendly circumstances. AS on its own has led to some unfortunate misunderstandings, which is the core problem, but environmental factors always play on peoples' abilities or lack thereof to one extent or another. Genetics combined with environment is what makes people... people. We often forget that and I'm hardly immune. Like I said to LP, if the lady creeped me out, she had every right to vanish.
I just hope I wasn't acting like I was hitting on her for cheap sex. That sure as **** wasn't my intent and that's the one thing in life I certainly don't care for, for reasons I've said many times in the past... but that's as much her problem as it was mine if she misread me; I can't change peoples' minds. I can only hope to state my case on their same wavelength and hope they like it. If not, too bad, misunderstandings happen, it's time to move on in life if I can't convince a person what I said differs from how I said it. And sometimes, some people can become militant and pigheaded too. Again, nobody's perfect.
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:21 PM
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11. Is your avatar a picture of you? That might have something to do with it. :) |
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:22 PM
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:23 PM
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...and a shit for not even answering you. There are better people out there....now go find them.
Cheers
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Thu Sep-13-07 01:51 PM
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You tried. That's worth something. I'm sorry her response was less than stellar. Hang in there.
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:34 PM
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27. What were the surrounding circumstances? |
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that may help explain her behavior.
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Fri Sep-14-07 11:52 AM
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38. I adumbrated that in a different response |
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Miscommunication was probably the ultimate cause; this isn't the first time I've said I have these little difficulties...
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Fri Sep-14-07 12:15 PM
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41. do you know this person? |
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did you walk up to her behind the place after dark etc...
Those are the circumstances I was referring to.
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Thu Sep-13-07 02:51 PM
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30. Need a lil more info to make a judgement really |
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Did you know her or talk to her at all beforehand? If you guys were friends or at least on speaking terms then I think you deserved a 'No thanks' at least. Of course if you were a stranger to her, then her response wasnt all that outta line, not nice perhaps but not outta line.
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Thu Sep-13-07 03:14 PM
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be your usual charming self. she will eventually succumb to irresistible ways. oh yeah, ask out other girls too ;) don't put all your eggs in one basket!!
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Fri Sep-14-07 12:36 PM
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If/when he sees her again, he should be his usual charming self, and if SHE decides she might have misjudged him, SHE can ask him to go for coffee or something.
At this point, she knows he is at least, somewhat interested. But "keep asking" moves into harassment/stalker territory. She didn't say "Yes." She didn't say "Maybe." At best, she left the question unanswered, and if he sees her again x number of times, and is charming, decent and not pushy, she can claim she hadn't made up her mind, and hadn't actually said "No." But in any case, any next move is hers to make.
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Thu Sep-13-07 03:21 PM
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32. She Didnt Give You The Date |
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Fri Sep-14-07 12:20 PM
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42. You're too good for her. |
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Has that ever made anyone feel better?
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You're smart, cute and damn funny.
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