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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:25 AM Original message |
what do you think about controlling a spouse by with holding |
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KG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:26 AM Response to Original message |
1. sign of a very dysfunctional relationship. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:29 AM Response to Reply #1 |
4. trudat |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 12:51 PM Response to Reply #1 |
51. ditto that! |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
2. Well, doesn't he usually want you to hold it? |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:30 AM Response to Reply #2 |
5. not me, silly!! |
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candycom (36 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 02:40 AM Response to Reply #2 |
117. LMAO |
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Callalily (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:29 AM Response to Original message |
3. Solves nothing! n/t |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:31 AM Response to Reply #3 |
6. apparently --- |
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Lyric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:33 AM Response to Original message |
7. Trying to "control" your spouse is disgusting |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:50 AM Response to Reply #7 |
9. not me. i am NOT married. not even dating at the moment. |
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KG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:11 AM Response to Reply #9 |
23. oops |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:35 AM Response to Original message |
8. using sex as a weapon |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:51 AM Response to Reply #8 |
10. Do you actually know a couple that isn't dysfunctional? |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:52 AM Response to Reply #10 |
12. some are more than others |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:52 AM Response to Reply #8 |
11. NOT ME SPK!! THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME!! |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:53 AM Response to Reply #11 |
13. pffftttt! |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:05 AM Response to Reply #13 |
14. well, the use of the pronoun 'you' in the original comment |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:39 AM Response to Reply #14 |
34. oh, yeah, sorry about that pronoun use |
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truedelphi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 04:07 PM Response to Reply #11 |
151. You certainly protest an awful lot. No wonder |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:10 AM Response to Original message |
15. i would just go find it somewhere else |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:34 AM Response to Reply #15 |
18. ahhh --- |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:32 AM Response to Original message |
16. what do you think about forcing a spouse to |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:34 AM Response to Reply #16 |
17. i, muself do NOT condone either ... |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:38 AM Response to Original message |
19. No one is obligated to have sex. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:42 AM Response to Reply #19 |
20. trudat |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:56 AM Response to Reply #20 |
22. Right. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:44 AM Response to Reply #22 |
26. exactly - refusing to have sex isn't an "attack" |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:27 AM Response to Reply #26 |
29. and conversely --- |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:29 AM Response to Reply #29 |
30. You aren't "using" people by not having sex with them. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 12:55 PM Response to Reply #30 |
52. you have me so confused about my original topic |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:16 PM Response to Reply #52 |
63. If you are telling a person |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:06 PM Response to Reply #30 |
68. But you can be manipulating them. Is manipulating someone ok? |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:18 PM Response to Reply #68 |
73. Whether or not they "feel" manipulated is in their own head. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:19 PM Response to Reply #73 |
75. So anyone suffering from psychological manipulation or abuse, it's only in their head? |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:44 PM Response to Reply #75 |
82. You're arguing a point I didn't make. Did you mean to reply to someone else? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:51 PM Response to Reply #82 |
92. No, twas to you. "Whether or not they "feel" manipulated is in their own head." |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:01 PM Response to Reply #92 |
94. I was talking about a specific. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:06 PM Response to Reply #94 |
95. True, I added some, apologies. Is it ok to manipulate others? |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:27 PM Response to Reply #95 |
97. I am very specifically NOT expanding it to other things |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:38 PM Response to Reply #97 |
99. How about this scenario... |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:59 PM Response to Reply #99 |
101. I meant the question that followed (which you just addressed) |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:02 PM Response to Reply #101 |
102. withholding sex can be part of the whole parcel or 1 simple thing. |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:14 PM Response to Reply #101 |
103. we're not talking about willingness |
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Danger Mouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:19 PM Response to Reply #103 |
105. way to speak truth to power, baby! |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:51 PM Response to Reply #103 |
108. I'm saying there was an underlying conflict that was the real problem |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:34 PM Response to Reply #108 |
113. i'm not disagreeing that there is likely an underlying conflict |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 05:43 AM Response to Reply #113 |
122. What if you are so fed up about the conflict |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 11:02 AM Response to Reply #122 |
135. That is a different situation,a different thing. |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:45 PM Response to Reply #122 |
146. not the same |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 04:02 PM Response to Reply #146 |
150. Money is not coerced sex |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 05:40 PM Response to Reply #150 |
154. i never said anything about coerced sex |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 06:12 PM Response to Reply #154 |
156. Yes, it's different because one is property, the other isn't. (nt) |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 11:00 AM Response to Reply #113 |
134. Exactly. Thank you. |
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Hosnon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:32 PM Response to Reply #94 |
143. I disagree... |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 04:46 PM Response to Reply #143 |
153. If relationships were frozen at a static point in time |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:53 PM Response to Reply #73 |
93. "they are doing the manipulating, not me.", I agree. Is it ok to manipulate others? |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 08:52 AM Response to Reply #73 |
128. yeah, I think that's what I meant to say when I made my post |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 10:24 AM Response to Reply #29 |
132. Bullshit. Absolute Bullshit. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 10:42 AM Response to Reply #132 |
133. there are two sides to a coin |
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midlife_mo_Jo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:33 PM Response to Reply #22 |
112. You're right |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 07:15 AM Response to Reply #19 |
124. agreed. |
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Ptah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:55 AM Response to Original message |
21. Old Joke - |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 04:33 PM Response to Reply #21 |
59. Worse, |
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Wapsie B (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:18 AM Response to Original message |
24. First, besides being dysfunctional as hell, |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:30 AM Response to Original message |
25. In many cases, you wander if the with holding spouse even wants sex with their spouse |
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jobycom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:55 AM Response to Original message |
27. Disgusting. Horrible. Awful. Really bad. I'll never do it again. Promise. |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
28. I'd never be able to hold out |
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txwhitedove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:30 AM Response to Original message |
31. Years ago a so-called "Dr./Therapist" actually suggested that method.... |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:37 AM Response to Original message |
32. Well I sleep in the basement |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:37 AM Response to Reply #32 |
33. nope |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:46 AM Response to Reply #33 |
35. Yup |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:07 AM Response to Reply #35 |
37. mostly good |
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TOhioLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:04 AM Response to Original message |
36. My STBE did that... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:08 AM Response to Original message |
38. unhealty and passive aggressive. some people may say over time its abusive. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:31 AM Response to Reply #38 |
41. It's abuse to not sleep with someone? (nt) |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:35 AM Response to Reply #41 |
42. if you are in a relationship, and over a long time, someone is withholding sex to control you |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:46 AM Response to Reply #42 |
43. Not having sex is NEVER abuse |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:48 AM Response to Reply #43 |
44. exactly, the question posed was about control through sex. not just refusing sex. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:57 AM Response to Reply #44 |
46. My point, though |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:59 AM Response to Reply #46 |
47. i disagree, i think people can control others by refusing sex |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 12:50 PM Response to Reply #47 |
50. This was the basis for the marriage rape exclusion |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 04:34 PM Response to Reply #50 |
60. no ones saying the one partner should rape if they are refused sex |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:27 PM Response to Reply #60 |
66. The problem isn't the withholding of sex. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:00 PM Response to Reply #66 |
67. or you are in a relationship with an abusive person, and not only does s/he physically and verbally |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:08 PM Response to Reply #67 |
70. The abusive part is the physical and verbal abuse, though. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:14 PM Response to Reply #70 |
71. i said it upthread that withholding sex can be a part of a pattern of abuse |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:16 PM Response to Reply #70 |
72. But essentially that's what the original question was |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:23 PM Response to Reply #72 |
78. You can't "withhold" your body from someone. |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:33 PM Response to Reply #78 |
80. Your responses are what is offensive in my opinion |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:34 PM Response to Reply #80 |
81. i know people who have been in abusive relationships, where sex was a MAJOR form of control |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:59 PM Response to Reply #81 |
109. I don't like blaming the victim either. |
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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:03 AM Response to Reply #109 |
116. You are being deliberately disingenuous about this whole issue |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 05:38 AM Response to Reply #116 |
121. "Like it or not, sex is a part of being in a romantic relationship" |
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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 03:39 PM Response to Reply #121 |
148. More strawmen comparisons that have nothing to do with the OP |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 04:39 PM Response to Reply #148 |
152. The basic argument is over entitlement |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 09:15 AM Response to Reply #116 |
129. "purely out of spite" ??? |
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WildEyedLiberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 03:42 PM Response to Reply #129 |
149. Well, exactly - it's a sign of an unhealthy relationship |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 06:36 AM Response to Reply #109 |
123. i think you mistake my original post. withholding sex can be part of a pattern of abuse |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:51 PM Response to Reply #80 |
84. Straw man. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:44 PM Response to Reply #84 |
90. Refusing to allow your spouse that sort of intimacy to prove a point is psychological abuse |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 08:48 PM Response to Reply #90 |
91. Rephrasing |
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Sock Puppet (624 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:17 PM Response to Reply #91 |
139. bullshit |
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Danger Mouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:18 PM Response to Reply #80 |
104. well said. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:24 PM Response to Reply #72 |
79. Excellent, excellent post |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:18 PM Response to Reply #70 |
74. Is psychological manipulation abuse? Can there be psych abuse without physical abuse? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:20 PM Response to Reply #74 |
76. yes, |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:48 PM Response to Reply #74 |
83. There is physical and emotional (psychological) abuse. |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 12:09 PM Response to Reply #46 |
48. Yes, because sex is only about physical pleasure |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 04:30 PM Response to Reply #48 |
58. Exactly!! |
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GirlinContempt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:39 PM Response to Reply #48 |
88. Very succinct |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:08 PM Response to Reply #43 |
69. Is psychological manipulation abuse? |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:27 PM Response to Reply #43 |
87. It also perfectly reasonable that |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:56 PM Response to Reply #87 |
89. I'd agree with that |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:11 AM Response to Original message |
39. controlling behavior is wrong |
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Omphaloskepsis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:16 AM Response to Original message |
40. I'm withholding my comment from this thread.. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:42 PM Response to Reply #40 |
114. ~ |
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Heidi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:50 AM Response to Original message |
45. I think it's wrong, but I also think lots more people do it than will admit to it. |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:19 PM Response to Reply #45 |
140. I agree with you |
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Haole Girl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 12:38 PM Response to Original message |
49. I think when you no longer have sex with your spouse... |
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HEyHEY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
53. Looking for a method? Or is this something being applied to you? |
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JitterbugPerfume (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 01:12 PM Response to Original message |
54. a stupid ,stupid thing to do |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 01:14 PM Response to Original message |
55. I'd say, whoever is doing that is not worth being with. |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 03:39 PM Response to Original message |
56. I doubt either of us would have the sort of willpower to even attempt it. |
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WindRavenX (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 03:46 PM Response to Original message |
57. if you even need to "control" a loved one, it's over. |
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LostinVA (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:12 PM Response to Original message |
61. Haruka withheld from me on our wedding night |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:13 PM Response to Original message |
62. Grounds for divorce |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:17 PM Response to Original message |
64. a sign of many problems |
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deucemagnet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 05:22 PM Response to Original message |
65. Very wrong, |
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NC_Nurse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:22 PM Response to Original message |
77. Yuch. |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 06:52 PM Response to Original message |
85. "Controlling a spouse" is just wrong. |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 07:10 PM Response to Original message |
86. Lysistrata, is that you? |
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Niccolo_Macchiavelli (641 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:27 PM Response to Original message |
96. withholding sex/affection...for the purpose of power is contraproductive |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:28 PM Response to Original message |
98. I have a very dim view of it. |
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Danger Mouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 09:53 PM Response to Original message |
100. i think it's wrong. |
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LostInAnomie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:35 PM Response to Original message |
106. Two opinions on this: |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:19 PM Response to Reply #106 |
141. great response. |
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Mutley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 10:39 PM Response to Original message |
107. Using sex as a weapon is evil. |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:23 PM Response to Original message |
110. I think it's horrible. |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:26 PM Response to Original message |
111. Sounds kind of malicious to me. |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Sep-16-07 11:45 PM Response to Original message |
115. Eeewww! Sex with my spouse? |
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hfojvt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 02:52 AM Response to Original message |
118. if you do |
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Ghost in the Machine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 04:17 AM Response to Original message |
119. I'd tell her: " That's fine, doll. I'll just have to rethink the ones I've been turning down" |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 05:29 AM Response to Original message |
120. I would say it means you don't enjoy sex very much |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 01:17 PM Response to Reply #120 |
147. The withholding person you mean? |
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Fire Walk With Me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 07:25 AM Response to Original message |
125. Deny him dinner. |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 07:57 AM Response to Original message |
126. Why would anyone want to control his or her spouse? |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 08:51 AM Response to Original message |
127. it's bad... but |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 09:16 AM Response to Original message |
130. pretty scummy thing to do |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 10:04 AM Response to Original message |
131. I prefer when she uses a dog collar or restraints. n/t |
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Pacifist Patriot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 11:07 AM Response to Original message |
136. The word "controlling" jumps out at me more than the word sex. |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 06:01 PM Response to Reply #136 |
155. thank you!!! my point exactly!!! |
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Dr. Strange (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 11:20 AM Response to Original message |
137. I tried it once--totally didn't work. |
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Sanctified (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 11:24 AM Response to Original message |
138. If one spouse can control another with sex then the sex is probably not that good anyway. n/t |
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ElboRuum (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
142. Control in a relationship. |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:39 PM Response to Original message |
144. Wasn't there a Sci-Fi story where all the women agreed to withhold sex |
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Starbucks Anarchist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Sep-17-07 12:42 PM Response to Reply #144 |
145. Lysistrata? |
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