LostInAnomie
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Sun Sep-16-07 10:46 PM
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Poll question: Is a spouse withholding sex legitimate grounds for having an affair? |
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Edited on Sun Sep-16-07 10:47 PM by LostInAnomie
As a natural extension of this thread: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=6934086&mesg_id=6934086If a spouse is withholding sex from you for an extended period of time, is that legitimate grounds for going outside the marriage for sex?
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wildhorses
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Sun Sep-16-07 10:52 PM
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1. other, counseling and/or separation |
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Sun Sep-16-07 10:53 PM
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2. Affairs can make a struggling marriage irreparable |
AlCzervik
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Sun Sep-16-07 10:53 PM
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3. good lord if a marriage gets to that point, the first scenario and then the second please |
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:09 PM
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4. No, because whatever problems you've got with your marriage |
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are going to spill over into any extramarital relationship you might have. And it doesn't matter whether the affair is "just a fling" or not.
It's not right to involve a third party...
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:12 PM
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:15 PM
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6. Dump the nogoodnik spouse first |
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:19 PM
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7. no, but I'd say it's grounds for a divorce |
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Assuming counseling wouldn't solve the problem/isn't an option
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:22 PM
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8. I vote no. I don't think there are any grounds for having an affair |
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at all anyhow. A cheater is still a cheater no matter what the excuse. Either separate, divorce or learn to deal with each other.
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:27 PM
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Because it's not grounds for deception (why make a bad situation worse?), but it's definitely grounds for confrontation, counseling, and if that doesn't help, making tracks.
There's also the possibility of open-marriage negotations if the problem really is an honest sexual-compatibility variance. But that's different from cold-blooded manipulation.
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Sun Sep-16-07 11:29 PM
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It's legitmate grounds for divorce, though.
Just because one spouse isn't holding up his end of the bargain, doesn't mean the other spouse should sink that low.
JMO :)
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