MissHoneychurch
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:13 AM
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My grandma isn't doing too well |
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she will turn 87 next month. She is in an elderly home since begin of the year. She is blind. Begin of this year they implanted her a pacemaker (for whatever stupid reason). Now she is slipping away real fast. Her short memory is pretty much gone. You can tell her something and a couple of minutes later she has forgotten everything. She is not able to get up anymore, doesn't talk anymore, doesn't eat much anymore (only mash). My aunt visited her this weekend and she didn't even recognized her anymore. I will most likely visit her coming weekend. As it looks at the moment she won't live very much longer. I hope they won't force feed her. I really hope that stupid pacemaker isn#t going to prolong a life that isn't a life anymore.
SHIT SHIT SHIT
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:17 AM
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1. Wishing you and your grandma all the best |
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:19 AM
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as hard and cruel as it sounds I wish her a peaceful dying and no suffering.
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:54 AM
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You have a lot going on right now. Take care of yourself.
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:56 AM
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It sure isn't improving my mood. I am scared that I get the phonecall from my aunt that my grandma died. On the other hand I don't want her to suffer ...
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:50 AM
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5. Aw, MissHC, I'm sorry. |
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When harleydad's 98-year-old grandma was dying a few months ago, he called and told her that he loved her and hoped that she went peacefully. She thanked him and they said goodbye to each other. She was gone two days later. He had talked with her about dying several times before that and knew that she did not wish to have her life prolonged. We were all relieved that she died quickly while her some of her grandchildren were with her and she was talking on the phone with her daughter. Strange as it sounds, we wished she would die before someone had the chance to hook her up to a bunch of machines.
I hope you get to see your grandma again and that she goes quickly.
:loveya: :hug:
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:55 AM
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I am not even sure she would recognize me when I visit her. But we don't know if she maybe has better days again. Doesn't look like it though. This week will tell. I am sure glad I visited her end of June. She was really happy back then about the visit and my aunt tells me she talked about it for weeks afterwards.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:08 AM
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and she doesn't recognize you, please just concentrate on that June visit. You'll still be glad you visited her again. :hug: What a great thing that you made such a big difference to her!
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:14 AM
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she is noticing that we are here. Just talked to my brother. He is coming too. I will call him later that week again and let him know when I will be there (we agreed on Sunday) and he comes down from Berlin.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:18 AM
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I hope it's a good visit for all of you.:hug:
I'm glad she has such thoughtful grandchildren. You know, grandmas are so special to grandchildren that the grandchildren sometimes don't realize how special they are to grandmas. My grandson thinks he loves me more than I love him. :rofl:
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:51 AM
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6. Here's a hug for you and your Oma |
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:56 AM
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9. Thanks for the hug MrScorpio |
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I sure need all I can get.
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:55 AM
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:03 AM
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11. You are having a rough day |
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:04 AM
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when something is up the wall, then it comes in a bunch so to speak
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:06 AM
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Grandma's important. It's awful for her to have to live in confusion, my best friend's grandmother was so unhappy for her last couple of years. If you see her this weekend just try to do something to make her laugh or smile or know that you love her :hug:
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:15 AM
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I don't know if she will recognize me or anybody else. But I do believe that our presence alone will make her feel a bit better and loved for sure. If she can show it or not doesn't matter.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:08 AM
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15. Sorry Misshoneychurch |
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All I can offer you are hugs. I hope the best for you all in a hard situation.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:17 AM
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18. Hugs are more than welcome |
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:19 AM
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20. {{{{{MHC}}}}} and {{{{Oma}}}} |
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So sorry to hear about this...just saw your thread now. :hug:
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:21 AM
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It is a tough time. But was to be expected sooner or later. I get the feeling she is tired of her life.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:29 AM
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23. Please accept my prayers and best wishes. |
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I remember that situation all too well.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:31 AM
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24. I appreciate it a lot |
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thank you very much. Both my grandfathers are gone already. It will be strange to have only one grandma left. But that is the course of the time. We all have to die. Too bad we can't keep our loved ones around ud forever.
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Mon Sep-17-07 09:54 AM
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26. My dear MissHoneychurch... |
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Aw, sweetie...
Hugs to you and your grandma...
It does sound as though she's dying...
I don't think the pacemaker will prolong her life significantly...
And I hope they don't force feed her either...
Did she leave any directions about this?
Do visit! She can still hear you...hearing's the last sense to go...
I wish her safe passing...and to you, joy at her well-lived life...:hug: :hug:
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Mon Sep-17-07 10:01 AM
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Hugs to you and your family....
I will pray for a painfree and peaceful passage for your grandmother....
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Mon Sep-17-07 06:45 PM
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28. Sorry for her and you. Give her a huge hug when you walk in..okay. |
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And hold her hand and rub it the whole time you are visiting. She will get from that the contact she needs to thrive.
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Mon Sep-17-07 07:31 PM
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31. I am sorry. I just lost mine last week |
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She also was in a nursing home for the last year and a half following a stroke. She was 89. It was really a mercy that she went now instead of lingering further. But still, I know it's tough. Best wishes to you and your family.
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:35 PM
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32. I'm sorry, Miss Honeychurch. |
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It's always wrenching watching a loved one slipping.
My love and best wishes for her and for you.
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:37 PM
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33. I'm sending good vibes, good thoughts and prayers for you and your grandmother. |
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Mon Sep-17-07 08:42 PM
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I hope things go as well as then can for you and yours
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Mon Sep-17-07 10:34 PM
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36. I am sorry about your grandmother |
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I know that it is hard to watch her deteriating and dying. I am sending good thoughts to you and your family.
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