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Wed Sep-19-07 10:46 AM
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when was the 'moment' that you KNEW that you had to dump the asshole before you went crazy |
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November 14th 1998. We were with my family at Dairy Queen and it dawned on me this was the last time he would spend any time with me or my family every again.
Never looked back
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:53 AM
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you are leaving out us straight guys... :mad: :crazy:
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:54 AM
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step right up and share your story!
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:11 AM
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men do not call women "assholes"
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:47 PM
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42. men use a different word |
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Wed Sep-19-07 01:52 PM
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59. actually i have heart both hetero and homosexual men say assholes about their partners |
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Wed Sep-19-07 01:53 PM
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in my entire life, I have never heard that.
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Wed Sep-19-07 02:47 PM
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It's the universal rude-body-part insult. After all, they're like opinions, everybody has one. And anybody can be one. :) (Just about everybody is at some point in their lives)
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Wed Sep-19-07 05:29 PM
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104. Tell that to the guy who called me an asshole just last week. |
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There is no way anyone could confuse me with an XY.
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:56 PM
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148. Who the hell called you that? |
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I only met you briefly, but I don't see how anyone could consider you that. :hi:
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:34 PM
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143. I've been called an asshole by men before. |
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I've been called some of those other things you're thinking, too.
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:53 AM
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2. when the police showed up with an arrest warrant |
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yup, thats her! take her away!
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:54 AM
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4. not a spaghetti breaker huh? I understand. nt. |
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Wed Sep-19-07 10:55 AM
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I changed the locks.
The end.
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my ex did. Which is why he's my ex.
flvegan is very sweet.
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:02 AM
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6. right after she stabbed me in the shoulder with a steak knife. |
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7. When he pulled a gun on me. |
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43. My Mother had a gun pulled on her by her ex-husband |
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my ex-step father. He fired the gun in the house trying to shoot me!! I was 13 at the time. It made headlines on TV and the papers, but our names was never revealed to protect me. He only served five days in jail, five years of intensive probation for the whole episode. I used to hate him, but now I just feel bad for him. He was wounded twice in Vietnam and I can understand how that would make anyone nuts.
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Wed Sep-19-07 06:36 PM
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115. I hope someone stapled him to a wall |
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and left him there for a year or so. x(
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8. When her sister chased me around the roof of a B and B with an axe. |
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20. Man, you just saw that on tv. |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:21 PM
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27. Nope, but it is one of my favorite movies. |
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To many great lines in it.
"A Piper is down, we have a piper down."
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Wed Sep-19-07 01:37 PM
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55. excuse me, I ordered a L.a.r.g.e. capuccino. |
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hhehe. one of my fave movies too.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:04 PM
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21. I thought that was normal |
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behavior for Texas gals....
I think you are just a big baby.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:22 PM
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Usually the girl just hog ties you and does naughty things to you. :D
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:28 PM
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32. Admit it, you like that! |
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Girls doing naughty things. What is not to love?
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:05 AM
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She called the cops on me, and since I was with my family at the time, my alibi was airtight.
She OD'ed on pills later on, facing drug charges.
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:05 AM
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10. When she withheld sex to control me. |
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94. the very height of abuse |
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:08 AM
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13. at a Shakespeare Festival |
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He started one too many little freak-out-over-nothing scenes. I realized, "I'm done." Instead of getting upset, I just started laughing at him because I realized what an annoying little Drama King he was. I'd been waiting to break up with him until after I'd seen all the plays we had tickets for, but I just had to get out right then and there.
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:10 AM
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15. When she turned me into a newt! |
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Wed Sep-19-07 11:58 AM
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at a John Kerry appearance. Talk about embarassing! :blush:
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62. Hey, he just wanted to see your circuit city receipt! |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:05 PM
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22. He had told me that we had insurance through the university |
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and I could let my health insurance lapse to save money. Just before I was to have major surgery, I learned that, not only did he not have health insurance, but he was so far behind on tuition payments he was allowed to enroll at the university. I had my mom call a lawyer while I was in surgery.
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Sounds like something my ex would have done.
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Wed Sep-19-07 03:42 PM
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87. And it didn't even make sense for him to do it |
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I had insurance. I was working for a start-up non-profit, so had to pay my own premiums, but I was ordained, so could get good rates through the denomination. There was no advantage to telling me to stop my insurance, especially since he didn't have any to replace it with. That's when I realized that he was not only sneaky and dishonest....he was crazy!!
Interestingly, I have a friend/colleague whose ex did the same thing--convinced her he was in school when he wasn't. What's the point of that?!!
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Earlier this year. It was a small thing, really... but it was definitely the metaphorical straw. He wouldn't stop trying to start an argument with me, which wasn't rare by any means, but it finally dawned on me that he would never, ever stop.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:09 PM
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25. when he called someone a 'nigger'. that was the only asshole i have dated |
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i was 18.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:11 PM
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26. When I realised it wasn't attached to a person. |
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It was just a little sphincter, raiding the fridge, sitting on the couch smoking and blowing little smoke rings all day, never cleaning up, asking to borrow the car. Quit a shock I tell you. I could have sworn there was person attached to it, but I think it revolted, killed it's master and buried the body out back.
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that is a good reason to get out...
Were the animals okay?
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35. I think there was a cat, but I'm not sure. |
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It may have eaten the cat.
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They usually can kill a sphincter... they run em down and toy with them until they just give up.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:22 PM
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28. When an LSD trip revealed to me that I was not with the right person at all. |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:27 PM
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31. When, totally unprovoked, he called me.... |
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...a "fucking cunt." My husband, mind you. There were other things going on (other verbal abuse, alcoholism, wouldn't work), but that was quite literally the last straw.
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Clearly, we were with the same man.
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93. ROFL...oh, I hope not. |
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I wouldn't wish him on my worst enemy. :rofl:
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Wed Sep-19-07 03:50 PM
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95. Yes, I feel the same way about him. |
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He's married to his female equivalent now, so good luck to them both.
My daughter (now 20) lived with her dad and stepmonster for a few months last year, but is now, thankfully, under her own roof instead of theirs.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:29 PM
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33. When she told her parents I beat her to get money |
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right after she hocked the wedding rings for drug money.
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:(
That's definitely a sign that it's time to leave. Two signs, actually.
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Wed Sep-19-07 02:53 PM
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84. And I've been much happier ever since |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:29 PM
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34. I've only had that happen once. |
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We were with my family at the time too just like your story.
I was 22 and we were spending the night at my familys for Christmas.Christmas morning I got up,got in the shower and when I came out he was in my room with a glass of OJ acting really content and cozy in his surroundings.
I knew right then that it was over between us.
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Wed Sep-19-07 08:56 PM
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124. I feel like I'm missing something here. |
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well obviously we weren't compatible or else I would've had a different reaction to that scenario.
Suffice it to say he was the definition of a narcissist and was satisfied with himself in that moment,it had nothing to do with me/us.It was crystal clear in that split second what an asshole he was.I fell out of love right then and there and could hardly stand to look at him that morning.
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He'd sit, comotose, on the couch, head between his legs, a big pool of drool forming on the carpet.
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He was bombed on morphine, pot, nerve blockers, codeine and who knows what else all prescribed for a back condition he didn't have. One doctor had already "fired" him as a patient for prescription abuse.
When I finally roused him, he came at me with a knife, I walloped him with a canvas backpack, HE called the cops on me but they took him away.
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:41 PM
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40. When I realized they had more fingers than teeth. |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:50 PM
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44. The moment the Supreme Court gave him the presidency. nt |
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154. Best. Answer. Ever. n/t |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:51 PM
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45. She pulled a gun on me |
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Wed Sep-19-07 12:52 PM
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46. When he criticized me for "over-tipping" the waitress. |
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I was picking up the bill and I put down a tip for the server. He picked the tip up and started trying to tell me I over tipped and it was a waste of money to do that.
I never went out in public with him again. I loathe cheap assholes.
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Every time we would go out I would wait till me cheap ass wasn't looking and add money to the tip -- It was embarrassing and creepy to not give the server a normal tip -- one day/night he caught me and he left me at the restaurant --- p.s. he has lots and lots of money.
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163. This guy had worked in service industry. He should have known better. |
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I always tip at least 20%, and if there is a problem I speak to the manager at the time. If it was his money that he was moaning about, I'd have just dropped some of my own on the table and walked away. IT was MY money he was throwing a fit about and THAT pissed me off. I remember thinking that if we had issues over the amount of MY money to leave as a tip in a restaurant, there was NO way we would ever be able to deal with stuff like bills and family expenses. (Imagine the fights over buying school clothes for kids or paying for orthodontia!)
Under-tipping bugs the crap outta me, and it is even more offensive coming from anyone that has EVER waited tables or worked in service industry.
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Wed Sep-19-07 01:01 PM
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48. When I finally realized I was tired of being treated like a yo-yo by this asshole. |
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Come here--go away.
I wrote him a Dear John letter. Only one I ever wrote.
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Wed Sep-19-07 01:14 PM
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49. It was building up over months |
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I took me a while to recognize that I was losing myself in that relationship. He abused me verbally and lowered my self esteem. The last straw was when he said "Oh your more the freaky kind" regarding *ahem* the word not to be mentioned here *ahem* , which wasn't freaky or freaking at all ... next day I broke up. Of course I didn't cry over him (never did) but he found that strange and said "Well, you didn't even cry at your father's funeral" (when he saw me crying my ass off at the grave). He was an asshole through and through.
The whole relationship was a big mistake and I sticked with him way too long. I even broke up with before and took him back. When I moved we were thinking of him moving to Frankfurt with me and move in with me. I broke it off just in time. I was a gold donkey for him and would have been for the years to come if I hadn't stopped it. :banghead:
I was stupid. Plain and simple.
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51. what the heck is "the freaky kind"? nt. |
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someone who does more than three positions in the dark in the bedroom
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58. Took me long enough n/t |
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63. Do you live in Germany? nt. |
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66. Is Holiday Park still around? I loved that place when I was a kid. nt. |
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67. Where is that supposed to be? |
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68. Hassloch(?) I think. nt. |
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69. Yep, it is still there |
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70. I lived in Mannheim as a kid in the late 70's. That place brings back some memories. nt. |
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73. No, but I want to. You just can't appreciate Europe when you're in elementary school... |
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I vaguely remember field trips to castles and stuff. Vast majority of my time there was spent on the base. I think my mom looted half the country though.
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there is a lot to see here. Esp. around Mannheim/Heidelberg.
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76. I think that may be my next vacation. nt. |
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Let me know, maybe we can meet.
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78. Thanks. I may have some questions for you as I research. nt. |
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My bf told me he was fantasizing about me having sex with him and his friend - one night, he kept asking and asking and asking to do it. I wasn't down with that... so I dumped his sorry ass. The end.
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53. When I realized it hurt more to be with him than to be without him. |
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And now I'm happily married and he's left with his d__k in his hands! :D
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And I suddenly realized that I had become "that person" on Cops and so had he. Not that there were any video cameras or anything, but nevertheless it was the same kind of situation.
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102. I had a similar experience |
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lying to the cop about her info so he wouldn't be able to track her down (she'd already left by the time he got there). When not on chemicals she is a great person. I really still love her, truth be told. She called a couple of days ago. But I've worked too hard on myself and my life to allow it to be destroyed by someone else's addiction...and she is not willing to do the work to keep from falling back into the white powder when the going gets tough. I have done that work, and I don't want to deal with anyone who isn't willing to trudge the path, and then expects me to deal with their insanity because they aren't.
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61. When she said "I want to be together, I just don't know if we can be together" |
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That was way too confusing for living. I dumped her... but, being incapable of letting go we began the five month breakup from hell that you read about here.
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71. When he was taken out of our house in handcuffs |
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By morning, I (with two black eyes, and two very scared little girls) was on a bus out of state. Didn't see him again for 20 years. By then, he was a broken-down old man. Karma's a bitch.
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110. I'm very, very glad that you were able to get him taken away, |
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that you got away, and that there was some justice.
I hope you and both of those little girls have been much better off ever since. :)
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142. Thank you for your kind words, ThomCat |
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Actually, I was pregnant when I left (my other daughters were not from that relationship), and we have all been immensely better off. :-)
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I've been w/ so many people that weren't worth my effort that I'm sure I've lost track of some of them.
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79. When he tried to force me into |
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a dependent living situation with him by sub-letting MY FLAT to an ex and her hubby. Helping "friends" get established. I dunno about anyone else but I don't consider anyone who leaves shit in my toilet bowl and rotting garbage in my fridge a "friend" after I offered my space to her for a few days.
It snapped when it seems he contracted scarlet fever from somewhere...
Transmission is never 100%. O8)
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Wed Sep-19-07 03:33 PM
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85. when I felt compelled to install a keystroke counter on my 'puter so I could track her little games |
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a keystroke counter is a very good tool, if you're suspecious and share a computer.
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Calling me the "c" word in the middle of the night while screaming drunk was pretty much the last of many straws.
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88. When (after 34 yrs. of marriage) he went to Florida on my birthday, with the woman |
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he was having an affair with, and they stayed - both of them! - with my mother-in-law, in her condominium for 5 days.
I had him served with papers when they returned.
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Talk about adding insult to injury. :hug:
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91. When she started tasering everyone in the Lounge. |
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You're out of control! It's time for an intervention!
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97. Was she breastfeeding while doing it? |
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her miniskirt was so short, she couldn't keep track of her receipts.
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99. Unfortunately, I should have known to dump my ex |
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But, I always convinced myself that maybe if I stayed with her just a little big longer, worked a little bit harder at it, sacrificed a little bit more, etc, things would start to get better and it would all work out.
The weird thing was, I had this feeling that it wouldn't work out before the wedding, but still went ahead with the wedding. And, it wasn't the "pre-wedding jitters" sort of thing, as I'm not the type to get nervous about that. I was there the night before the wedding, standing all by myself knowing it would never work, but too scared to put a stop to it.
And, right after the honeymoon, it all started going downhill...
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Wed Sep-19-07 04:08 PM
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100. never really dated an asshole |
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a few brooding punk rockers/new wavers though. They always bailed for women who looked like the singer for the Distillers.
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actually they weren't as kick-ass as she is, to be fair.
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I woke up beside my husband, looked at him and realized I simply didn't love him anymore. It was very sad. He later found a wonderful woman and married her. He's very happy now and I'm so glad, though I still have feelings of guilt for what I put him through by falling out of love with him. The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes that sucks.
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103. She left for a week to perform a locum, out of town |
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and I realized I felt nothing but relief.
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105. When the guy suggested I could use a few five mile sprints to get in shape. |
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Almost 5'10" and a size 8. Dawned on me that he was always finding some way in which I wasn't quite measuring up to other women around me. Told him to go find Twiggy and maybe she'd put up with his bullshit. Can't believe I stayed with him as long as I did. I was never funny enough, skinny enough, etc. His friends called him "lunkhead." That should have been a clue. Duh!
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106. for the first one ...on or about 12-12-90 |
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pretty good story behind it all but, NOT for open forum.
for the second one on 9-11-01. i learned who my real family was on that day.
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107. I guess I am the asshole. |
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I've always been the dumpee. Started with mom when I was three. I'm not perfect by any means, but most people think I'm a nice guy, once they get to know me. Don't take this the wrong way - I saw the Bill Maher threads last week - but for me women are like dogs, and I'm the car - they love to chase me and don't have a clue what to do with me when they catch me. Never touched a woman in anger, never stole from one, never called called one a c**t (well, I did tell the ex to stop acting like a bitch once, but hey, it was a simile, and she was really trying my patience - she didn't appreciate the nuance:rofl: ). I guess I was just born to be single. Haven't had a SO in almost a decade now. (And that line about finding love when you stop looking - BS! It finds you - or not.)
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158. I agree, I think that line is BS, |
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"And that line about finding love when you stop looking - BS! It finds you - or not."
I think it MAY be true for some people, who were looking so hard they came across as desperate. Then when they chilled somewhat, and didn't come across as desperate, it was easier for them to find someone.
But in general, I don't think it's true.
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Wed Sep-19-07 06:07 PM
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108. When the private eye |
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sent me the pictures!!!!
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
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109. I'm glad you can laugh about it. |
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It sounds horrible, just needed to use a PI, and then getting proof... :(
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I can "laugh" about it... it hurts, we were married 30 years.... he has been gone almost a year. and you know what??? I have found me..... and I like her... it might be the best thing that happened to me... :hug:
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You are a very cool person. You're definitely worth finding. :hug:
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111. When I got sued for 2 million dollars because of Her kid's actions |
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and she blamed me. After I had been shot at. After her kid stole from me every single night. After her kid a(different one) accused me of child molestation. After her kid stole from me so often I had to move my things every night. After she told me "if you want him to stop stealing, move your stuff". After he tackled her, beat her and she said "it's allright honey you don't have to go to high school". After he had to come to Hawaii with us after being suspended from jr high because she could not trust him and he stole from me before my suitcase made it in the room. As soon as he stole my car at 12 years old. As soon as he wrecked 6 cars between 16 and 18.
But as you can see, I am a slow learner.
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114. Wow. You must have truly loved her to |
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put up with all of that. :(
The truly sad part is not just everything it cost you, and everything you lost, but what kind of adults have those kids become. WHo else is now paying for the way she raised them?
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And still do really. The end came when the DA told me that her kid lied on the witness stand about the reason I was being sued. She could not understand how I could be so upset.
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117. When she kept screaming at my daughter for no reason, and I knew |
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she would treat her the same way she had treated me for 19 years.
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118. When I thought, "I'd rather be lonely for the rest of my life..." |
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"...than to spend one more minute with this woman."
I think it was a Tuesday morning, or maybe a Wednesday.
Never been happier, and loneliness doesn't phase me, either.
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120. when she told her (then) ex-bf that i had raped her in order to make him feel sorry for her... |
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slashed her wrists in front of me, attempted suicide because i didn't want anything to do with her anymore, and told me her ex-bf was beating her to make me feel sorry for her. and i still got back together with her. one of the stupidest things i ever did.
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126. when i think of how she used to treat me... |
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well, i'm so glad i have you, is all... :hug:
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127. I'm glad you're finally away from all of that. |
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I hope you are very, very far away from all of that.
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134. she, fortunately, has done a lot of growing up since then. |
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...and can't believe she used to be like that. i am. i've made peace with it. but it was hell for awhile. she was the ultimate in manipulative, vindictive, and controlling.
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121. About 5 minutes before... |
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...he dumped me. Or something like that.
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123. When I came onto him |
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and he laughed dorkily and said, "Uh, seen the mailman? Seen the water softener guy?"
I can take a hint.
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159. Oh, things are better |
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We are getting along fine now.
But, yes, what a dork.
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128. i lived with the asshole for seven months after the breakup |
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i dumped him cuz he screwed around
i finally got rid of him after he started picking the lock on my bedroom door after a fight to keep screaming at me (the fights usually started because i wouldn't sleep with him), started dropping the c-bomb and threw a can of beer at my head
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135. my turn to do this... |
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That about did it. I was young, but smart enough to end it there.
That was only the beginning of a string of assholes, unfortunately. :(
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but thanks for the hug. :)
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136. you are a lovely person... |
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137. There is no shortage of assholes in the world. |
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It's hard to avoid them. :(
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We'll form a possee.
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Not worth the effort. But thanks for the thought!
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131. Hopefully, it wasn't over one of their awesome barbecue sandwiches |
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because that would kind of ruin my impression of Dairy Queen and also rape a bit of my childhood memories...just a tad, now. But don't get me wrong, because this post would also come to mind whenever I bite into that barbecue-y goodness ( for about two bucks ).:D
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133. When he was more interested in the NBA finals than conversing with his son... |
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Wed Sep-19-07 09:58 PM
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139. About 2 months before I married her |
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thinking it was the right thing to do.
I have yet to regain my sanity, but I'm slowly getting there.
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145. he went 5 weeks without speaking to me.not my thing |
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147. Geezus H! Maybe having no dates in high school was a good thing. I met |
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my husband in college. He drives me crazy sometimes but he's never pulled the shit described here.
:hug: to all of you here.
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149. When I realized it wasn't just her stress over her sick grandma that was causing her to act that way |
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and the only reason I'd put up with her bullplop up until then was because I knew she was under stress.
I can't even really describe the kind of shit I'd been putting up with... it was mostly little things, but it all added up. I just reached a point where I refused to put up with it anymore.
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I refused to go along with his bondage fantasy. This asshole stalked me for almost a year after I broke up with him. He nearly got me fired from my job because he was showing up at my workplace to harrass me. I ended up moving to get away from him and severing ties with old friends because I was afraid they would tell him where I was. This happened well before anti-stalking laws. I was 19 at the time and knew if I let him get away with beating me up then his behavior would only escalate. This was the hardest thing I have ever done but the results were worth it.
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157. You were a very brave person |
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and I applaud you for the strength you showed. :applause:
I have friends who have done exactly the same thing, and for the same reason. I've seen how hard it was for them. I hope your life is much, much better now.
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161. March 2006 - was it the 2nd? |
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Marriage over. I have never experienced anything as horrifying as that realization on that day.
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164. When I was invited to a party only AFTER the host had ascertained that |
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my boyfriend was out of town that weekend.
I knew that his bad manners and self-centeredness were starting to annoy ME, but I thought I was perhaps being too fussy. Then I realized that other people thought he was rude and self-centered, too, so I began preparing to have "the talk" with him.
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