Found out today that my daughter wants to leave her husband

[skygazer]

This is GOOD news. For those who may be keeping score, this is not the daughter who ended up in the hospital recently :eyes: (who is doing much better, thanks for asking) but the one married to the :scared: Republican.

You see why I'm not heartbroken.

Actually, I'm relieved because I've never liked this guy and wouldn't even if he wasn't a Republican - I've always gotten a bad vibe from him and suspect him of treating her badly. :grr:

Anyway, I'm really, really hoping she does and I hope he doesn't make it too hard for her - she's far from home and family and it really sucks to think of her isolated like that. :(

Any Lounge vibes would be gratefully appreciated.

[u2spirit]

1. How long have they been married?

Just be there for her when she calls and when she doesn't. I have been divorced for a year and a half and I was the one who left but it has been a very rough transition after 12 years of comfortable miserableness.

[skygazer]

3. Just over seven years

He's a classic abuser in that he's dragged her off to Kansas where he's from and caused rifts in the family. I haven't talked to her in over a year (except for email) - when she's had a phone, I haven't had the number and he's escalated minor issues between us into major ones.

Thankfully, she's very close to her step-brother who she confides in and he's let her know that all of us are there for her with any help she needs.

[Iris]

10. u2spirit has some Little Debbies she can share!

Not to make light of skygazer's daughter's situation!

[skygazer]

11. Little Debbies alleviate much misery

They are a gift from the gods. :D

[redqueen]

2. tons of good vibes coming from me!

i hope he doesn't make it too difficult for her. that's a real nightmare.

[skygazer]

5. I really fear he will

They have two kids and since he's a lazy, fat slob, he's stayed at home with them while she worked. Because of that, I guarantee he'll try to convince the court that he should have them and he'll fight allowing her to take them out of state - which she'll want to do because she has no family or connections there except through him. :(

But we will all do whatever we can to help and she is smart and strong. Thanks for the vibes. :hug:

[redqueen]

8. oh my... that sounds EXACTLY like my situation

:scared:

i'll be sure to keep sending lots and lots of good vibes. :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. ...

best wishes. :hug:

[Parche]

6. I Feel Your Pain

My sister is married to a plump Republican, he is a right wing controlling fukwad and I despise him.....

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hi:

[skygazer]

9. I almost cried with relief today when I heard she wanted to leave

I would never hope for the end of a marriage, especially when kids are involved, but this guy is bad news and my daughter deserves so much better.

Thanks for the hugs - I hope your sister and my daughter both escape the evil clutches. :hug:

[Callalily]

7. Sending good vibes

and strength. She's going to need her family, and it sounds like you are all there to support her.

[Gormy Cuss]

12. Vibes for the best outcome for her, whatever she decides.

If he's treating her badly then something has to give.

[skygazer]

13. He recently got a job stocking shelves at Wal-Mart

:eyes:

She was so happy and proud, she emailed everyone to tell them. It lasted two days. I suspect that was a final straw - he has worked maybe a month and a half in the 7 years they've been together.

I also found out that on their recent trip to her father's home, he treated her poorly right in front of her dad and step-mom. That had to be humiliating.

I just think she's finally seeing him for what he is and has run out of excuses for his behavior. I just hope she can get away cleanly. :(

[Nikia]

14. I hope that she has the courage to go through with it

I used to be sad whenever I heard anyone was leaving a marriage, but I know that it is often the best thing for the people involved. It sounds like it would be a positive thing for her to leave.
Good thoughts to her.

[ThomCat]

15. Lots of good vibes for your daughter!

I hope it goes well for her. :hug:

[Bjornsdotter]

16. Positive thoughts

..for both of your daughters.

:hug:

[Deja Q]

17. .

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

:grouphug: