So I come home after my first day of school to find my SO hammered

[skygazer]

Because his buddy stopped by and they "had to" celebrate his renting a place here. :eyes:

I like his buddy, I don't care if they have a few drinks but they seem to think the only way to celebrate is to get blindingly drunk and obnoxious like frat boys - two 40-something guys who both have to work the next day.

And of course all this means that I don't get a chance to do my homework until I get them calmed down and put to frigging bed.

I hope to hell this isn't a portent of things to come because if it is, he can move in with the buddy and leave me the hell alone.

Just needed to vent. :nuke:

:rant:

[Bullwinkle925]

1. I'm sorry this happened for you . . .

sounds totally rude to me - not to mention very infantile.

hope things improve and you don't have to go through this again.

:hug:

[raccoon]

2. Why calm them down and put them to frigging bed?

I suggest you look for an Al Anon meeting. :hi:

[skygazer]

5. Good old AA logic

1. A person who acts like a drunken moron once in a blue moon has automatically got a major problem.

2. The person who comes home to deal with it is the one who should go to a meeting.

I know you mean well and I suppose it wasn't all that clear in the OP - this is NOT a regular thing which is why I was so irritated. Just needed to rant. It sucks to get home at 9 pm after being in class for about 7 hours and find a pair of idiots carrying on.

[raccoon]

6. Al Anon teaches you not to take responsibility for others in areas they should be

taking responsibility for themselves.

[LeftyMom]

8. Because it's hard to do homework near loud drunk people?

Wanting a little peace and quiet doesn't make a codependent.

[KG]

3. a 40-something still drinking like a frat boy is a red flag the size of Delaware.

[Shell Beau]

7. It is if it happens frequently, but if a buddy he hasn't seen came by

with some beer, I see no problems with that. However, again, if this is a usual occurrence then it is a red flag!

[KG]

9. in my ever so humble opinion, this incident is a hint.

and wouldn't even chime in if i hadn't done the same thing not long ago by igonring hints the ex-SO was sending me about her relationship with alchohol. good luck. :hi:

[Parche]

4. Rant

Didnt you have beverages too? :shrug: :shrug: :hi: