What are some of the reasons people leave DU?

[Haole Girl]

I wonder if it will become worse as the primaries approach.

There are a lot of reasons people leave a discussion board... a lot that goes on behind the scenes, just for starters.

And, many people have suggested, there might be more disruptors as the elections near.

Though, I wonder if disruptors (the obvious ones) are the primary problem.

Then, there are people helping with the campaigns.. that will certainly be one reason.

Any thoughts?

[LibraLiz1973]

1. Boredom, Change in Lifestyle, Sick of being treated like shit,

Sick of being ignored, Sick of the Cliques, Losing internet service, death, illness, moving to a deserted island, becoming a millionaire overnight, taking a cruise around the world, forgetting how to type...

:rofl:

[Haole Girl]

2. I'll take becoming a millionaire overnight!

:D

[Scout1071]

110. You just named a lot of the reasons that I don't come around anymore.

But, mostly it is the in-fighting and the sometimes collective lack of common sense in this pack.

[hfojvt]

118. Plus, you just spend too much time

hanging out a Kos. Or, as they apparently call it in Wichita - Kose. :hi:

[Scout1071]

119. Well, that's true as well.

I suppose that it's like when I started drinking red wine. I can't go back to beer. No offense to anyone here, it's just a different taste.

[QueenOfCalifornia]

3. One word

LynneSin!

:rofl:

[Haole Girl]

5. I highly doubt that!

:-)

[krispos42]

89. She keeps shocking people into oblivion! n/t

[ashling]

4. They get put on lionesspriyanka's ignore list

... hello? ... hello? chalk up another one on the list.
:rofl::rofl::rofl:

[Haole Girl]

7. Oh, you scared me...

I went to check to see if I was on her ignore list. I clicked on send private message and got an error response! Then I remembered my inbox is disabled... d'oh! :eyes:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

35. odcourse you arent. i adore you.

[Haole Girl]

41. Aww.. I just saw this

Thank you. And, you know, of course you're adored by all men and women alike (seemed like something a Leo would like to hear!). :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

43. ...

:blush: and :hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

34. lol!

[Clintonista2]

6. I know people hate all the primary fighting

But I love it! I've been accused plenty of times of being a distruptor, but I really just feel very passionatley about my candidate. Whoever is nominated I will support 100%, and it will be great to start attacking Republicans over fellow dems.

[Haole Girl]

8. There were some pretty nasty fights on the John Kerry forum...

.. for months and months before he selected his V.P. candidate. I thought Kerry would never pick one.... those were some very long months. I remember, a lot of people were accused of being spies. It was unreal.

[Clintonista2]

9. I want to see DU banded together!

I only registered in November, but I've been lurking since just after the 2004 election, so I've never really seen DU united behind a candidate.

[Haole Girl]

10. In a perfect world

Unfortunately, people will be people.

[Oeditpus Rex]

11. Here's one

[Haole Girl]

13. Nice to see ya!

:hi:

[Oeditpus Rex]

17. Nice to be seen

:hi:

[MrScorpio]

12. Not getting lucky with all the hot chicks around here

Can you hot mamas please be a little more accommodating?



We're dying here

[Haole Girl]

14. I wouldn't know about that

Plus, isn't this a political discussion board?! ;-)

[MrScorpio]

15. That's the sell

But of course, no one ever said that hooking up wasn't included

[Guava Jelly]

16. Life hits them

Who knows.
People change and times change.
The old die to make for the new.
People get hurt or disillusioned or angry.
I can't stay away myself..Believe me i tried
This place is like Heroin

[Haole Girl]

20. Isn't this place worse than heroin... in some ways?

Think about it.

[FloridaJudy]

66. Yeah, but I'm not robbing Quickie Marts

to support my habit.:evilgrin:

[yellowdogintexas]

75. same here. even when I temporarily couldn't post due to some

dumb password issues in my PC, I still lurked, if only to keep caught up on the fast track in jokes in the lounge

[ghostsofgiants]

18. No idea, I tend to ignore such threads.

[Haole Girl]

21. Haven't you gotten an exterminator for that bug yet?!

[ghostsofgiants]

23. Nah, he's cool.

We're gonna go cruising for chicks later.

[Haole Girl]

24. Good luck with that!

:rofl:

[ghostsofgiants]

27. I'll need it...

The ladies are always all over the little bastard. x(

[trof]

19. Mod conflict.

Sometimes (not often) an overeager (usually new) mod makes an arbitrary decision about one of your threads.
The first time it happens it REALLY pisses you off.
"HOW DARE THEY!!!"

You appeal to an admin.
You're knickers are in an EGREGIOUS twist about the INJUSTICE of it all.
They usually back the mod.
Understandably.
This place can get damned chaotic and you've got to keep some kind of order.
The mods calls are probably at least 95% justified.


So you learn to say 'the hell with it...it's just a damned forum board'.
And move on.
;-)

[Haole Girl]

22. It's a thankless job

Often, I wonder if they'll ever know what the truth really is.

But, I've done that job before (at another forum) and I'd never do it again. It's very stressful... and, that's why, I try my best not to get angry over their decisions.

[trof]

25. I'd do it if we got a badge.

I'll take any job where you get to wear a badge.
;-)

[Haole Girl]

26. Any job?

No... better not go there...

[The Wielding Truth]

57. How much time does it take?

[Haole Girl]

73. Sorry... just noticed your post

How much time, out of your life, does being a mod take? Is that your question? If so... a lot! A hell of a lot of time! :hi:

[Radio_Lady]

120. Trof! You said it better than anyone! Thanks for this comment.

I have to use this board because it's established. I don't like any of the other journaling sites I have seen. They caught me hook, line, and sinker.

Yep, it's just a forum board. Sticks and stones can break my bones, but anonymous people with their sticky little comments... can't hurt, unless I let them.

Balderdash to all the nay-sayers! Go stick that in your pipe and smoke it!

Peace, Love and Happiness...

Radio_Lady in Oregon

PS. We're on our way to LAS next Tuesday, then on to Utah by car... Adventure awaits us in Zion National Park and Bryce Canyon.

[Reciprocity]

28. The feeling real or imagined.....

that you are either being ignored or picked on. Disillusionment that the members or not what you thought they where (liberal, democrat, anti-war ect). That’s all I can think of right now.

[Haole Girl]

29. I agree

... those are some of the reasons. Thanks.

[triguy46]

30. Gotta pee.

[Haole Girl]

31. So that's where you've been all this time!

lol! :hi:

[regnaD kciN]

32. It'll get worse...

The 2004 primary season was so brutal, some members jumped to a new, rival site (which turned out to be led by a Naderite in sheep's clothing). I suspect this year could be as bad or worse.

I know that if a certain candidate I can't stand wraps up the nomination, I will restrict my DU time to the Photo Group and Lounge until the election is over, since I won't be able to swear the requisite oath of fealty to that candidate in order to not get tombstoned in political discussions.

What I'm really curious about is what will happen if/when we elect a Democratic President along with a Democrat-controlled Congress. So much of the energy here has been based around outrage at the Republicans still in control -- what will happen when we don't have them to kick around any more? Do we become cheerleaders for the plans of the new Democratic administration, find we're almost as critical for any ineptitude or half-heartedness on their part as for the treachery of BushCo, or something completely different?

[Haole Girl]

42. Well, I certainly hope we get the pleasure of finding out...

... what would/could happen if there is a Dem in the Oval Office and Congress. Wouldn't that be great?! But, I think we've all learned, by now, not to count chickens before they hatch! :hi:

[Mythsaje]

62. I've actually considered that myself...

DU is, to a great extent, reactionary. It was created in response to the BushCo theft of the Presidency in 2000 and may not have any set purpose past the point where Dems take back control of the government.

I really think it's important that we keep channels open to criticize our government from a "left" perspective even IF the Dems are in charge.

[Radio_Lady]

121. We could have used this site all through the 1990s when the Clintons were in office.

I think it would have been great to have had that opportunity.

There were so many things I wanted to say as that was going on -- through all of its undulations.

I'm glad these young men got together to put this website up.

Best thing that happened to me was finding it when I did.

It's an unusual feeling of community that was sorely lacking on the Internet. Chat rooms were scatological from the start; flirty, but flimsy. Usenet forums got eaten up with ugliness day after day. I tried to use them for movie reviews, but found that the lack of moderation encouraged great difficulties. I had one PDX home on the Internet (still running), but abandoned that one for this one.

I've threatened to leave -- and when I came back, I got called out for it by somebody who is now on permanent IGNORE (the admins decision). Best thing that ever happened to me.

[CTyankee]

129. That's a great question! First, we'll revel in our victory but soon

we'll do the RIght vs. Left stuff within the Dem Party. I recently read about LBJ's quarrels with House Ways and Means committe chair, Wilbur Mills, over provisions of Medicare. Mills wasn't against it, he just had some problems with the details of the legislation. THAT would be a luxury for us nowadays!

[MissHoneychurch]

33. Mainly private reasons

I stopped posting for a while because it was said that our internet access was watched. But after a while nothing happened, nothing got locked, so I came back on. Even though I post less than before.

[Haole Girl]

44. They watch us constantly at work

I can post, while at work, but I try to keep it as non-controversial as possible.
In fact, I learned just last week, that they are taking screen shots of what we are doing throughout the day. As much as I love the internet, I sometimes long for the days were weren't all under constant surveillance.

[madinmaryland]

36. The best reason EVAH!!1!!

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=132&topic_id=2507034

[Haole Girl]

45. I can't help but smile every time I see that

:D

[The Wielding Truth]

58. That's funny. I remember Walt Star. Is he back?

Or what happened?

[madinmaryland]

80. No, he never came back.

I always liked his posts, but I think he got tired of his posts being locked.

[Haole Girl]

99. I think when you're TS'd (especially like that) ....

..coming back is not an option. Right?

[NewJeffCT]

108. Somebody by his name posts regularly on DailyKos

or at least did until recently...

[krispos42]

90. rotflmao

He didn't even bother locking it! Not one pip of protest!

:rofl:

[Haole Girl]

96. Did you happen to notice...

..the way Skinner caught that post the very minute it was posted! Talk about a swift response!!

[Radio_Lady]

122. Whoa! I had never seen that thread from March 2006! Walt Starr was a decent

person (at least I thought so). I don't know the backstory of why he left.

Do you?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

37. so many reasons: they get tombstone, they move to india for a year and cant post

their feelings get hurt, they are angry, too busy etc

[Haole Girl]

46. There are internets in India, aren't there?

:hi:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

48. when i was in india, i had limited internet access so i was pretty scarce for 6-8 months

[Haole Girl]

49. Which part of India?

My husband is from India, if you didn't know that already.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

50. I was in calcutta

i didnt know your husband was indian

[Haole Girl]

51. I'll send you a PM

There's a bit to the story.

[DarkTirade]

38. Some people stop coming by because they end up getting a life, y'know a real one. Not online.

The bastards. :P

[La Lioness Priyanka]

39. if i find a job i like i will almost never post her. all my posting is done during work hours.

[DarkTirade]

40. I was almost late to work tonight because I was busy posting here. :)

[cwydro]

74. Lolo

my case exactly. Since I changed jobs I have been here once a week if at all. I only ever posted at work because I was so frigging bored.

[Haole Girl]

47. Imagine!

:P

[Iris]

68. I've been thinking about doing that.

maybe next week.

[DarkTirade]

91. Hey, if you find an extra life lying around that you don't need, can I have it? :)

[johnnie]

52. Thin skinned posters who keep picking fights

And after a while they can't take the heat any longer.

[Haole Girl]

53. One certainly can't be thin skinned around here, huh? nt

[johnnie]

54. Oh, you can be

Just make sure you don't piss anyone off..lol. Of course that is almost impossible here too.

[Haole Girl]

101. Yeah, and if you piss off the wrong person...

... they might retaliate, beyond belief, too. :-(

[PVnRT]

55. The astounding level of stupidity that manifests itself here

Honestly, I sometimes get angrier reading some of the threads in GD more than I do look at right-wing websites.

[DarkTirade]

56. There is no cause so right that one cannot find a fool following it.

[Radio_Lady]

123. You are quoting Larry Niven's law....

From: www.wikipedia.com

Niven's Law

Larry Niven is also known in science fiction fandom for "Niven's Law:" There is no cause so right that one cannot find a fool following it. Over the course of his career Niven has added to this first law a list of Niven's Laws which he describes as "how the Universe works" as far as he can tell.

[SOteric]

59. Butt sores?

The rude intrusion of an actual life?

[noamnety]

60. A number of women have left

because of the continual disrespect toward them here. That's not unique to DU, but a fair amount of feminists prefer not to spend their time being bombarded with the message that women shouldn't be out in public if they are too fat, too thin, if the skin on their elbows is too wrinkled, if they are too young/too old for their spouse, if they wear the wrong belt or wear it at the wrong place on their hip bones, etc. And they get tired of continually seeing women called derogatory slurs.

[idgiehkt]

61. I can see it

gotta love those 'big tents'. :shrug:

[Haole Girl]

70. I haven't seen those kind of threads on DU

I've been fortunate I guess. Thanks for your input.

[noamnety]

115. I'm surprised

Things like this are really really common: http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=389x1946298

[LaurenG]

63. Burn out

and finding out that some of the people you thought were your friends are actually back-stabbers...

And maybe just not agreeing with people the way you once did.

[Heidi]

64. I miss you, OhioBlues.

And I'm glad you haven't left DU. :hug:

[LaurenG]

65. Aww, I miss you too Heidi

and no I haven't left :) . I have a new job and work many more hours that I used to. I hope all is well in your world. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

71. I know what you mean

The back stabbing is out-of-control.

I really wish the sharing of one's private messages, without their permission, was a bannable offense.

Thank you.

[LostinVA]

85. I agree that sharing PMs should be a bannable offense

[Haole Girl]

102. ...

:hug:

[I Have A Dream]

81. OB, I'm sorry if that happened to you.

:(

:hug:

[LaurenG]

82. Dream, you are such a love, but it didn't happen to me.

I watched it happen to others here and it was almost as painful as if it had happened to me. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

100. That is a really nice thing to say OhioBlues

:hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

67. Lack of freedom..

Seriously, if you can't handle a dissenting voice in type you need to get off the Internet. Really, people think different things. That is a good thing. Calling someone who disagrees with you a Freeper makes you look like a child. If the person is wrong counter with a solid argument. Grow the fuck up. If you want this place to be a circle jerk of agreement continue as is. You will exist on the fringe and be made fun of on other sites that allow differing thoughts.

[Iris]

69. It's not people thinking different things that I mind. It's people not thinking at all

and feeling free to dribble all their unthought out thoughts all over the place.

[bridgit]

87. that works for me...

[Name removed]

72. Deleted message

Message removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.

[noamnety]

103. On the flip side of that

I know an awful lot of people who left because DU is too far to the right.

When there are flag-waving DLC-loving we-can't-leave-Iraq-now we-can't-impeach-now I-hate-Chavez immigrants-should-be-shipped-back-to-their-own-country-and-be-condemned-to-poverty (unlike-me-cause-Imma-American), it's-okay-to-support-exploitation-so-long-as-it's-just-women-and-it-gets-me-aroused a-decent-job-is-my-birthright (but-a-privilege-for-those-OTHER-people), to-hell-with-values-just-shut-up-and-support-the-party, I-hate-anti-war-activists-who-won't-keep-their-mouths-shut posts that are up on the greatest page with clearly a lot of support here, some people realize this isn't the place for them.

[MedleyMisty]

106. That would be why I take long breaks

[annonymous]

76. I temporarily leave DU for various reasons.

I rarely post and when I am employed I don't have time to go to the forums. Also, around general election time, things tend to heat up more than I like, especially in General Discussion. I avoided DU for a while during 2004 because of all the flame wars.

[Haole Girl]

78. I tend to be the opposite

I'll become more interested in the issues as the elections approach.
Hopefully, this will steer me away from what I call "Lounge drama"... if I am still here.

[philosophie_en_rose]

77. 1. Too Busy 2. Silliness 3. Drama 4. Divine Intervention

:bounce:

[Haole Girl]

79. All reasons I've seen

Of course, sometimes, we never see the divine intervention, we might pray for, do we?

[Radio_Lady]

124. OT: Just posting to say "hi" to philosophie_en_rose!

Passing these along to you:

[philosophie_en_rose]

137. Thank you!

That's so sweet. You've really made my day.

[Heidi]

83. For GDers: lack of tolerance for dissent. For Loungers, the DU PM grapevine/gossip central. (nt)

[Haole Girl]

84. Very accurately and succinctly put. (nt)

[BlooInBloo]

86. What's "the DU PM grapevine/gossip central" ?

[bridgit]

88. oh honey, you ain't missing nothing, just a little one ring circus...

w/the same ole dog & pony show, sad singing clowns & penny opera :):(

[Sugar Smack]

92. Bridgit, I *LOVE* you!

:rofl:

[Haole Girl]

94. It's a circus alright...

..how I often wish it was one ring. How I wish.

[Le Taz Hot]

132. Are you telling me

all is not well at the Cool Kids' Table? Say it ain't so! :evilgrin:

[here_is_to_hope]

93. Only when the surf is up...

...or the infiltrators get to me.
And you know who you are...:spank:

[Haole Girl]

95. Is the surf up?

Gotta go!

[here_is_to_hope]

116. Ha! Greetings from the cold, fickle and

sharky waters of Oregon...:toast:

[lightningandsnow]

97. "Message Board ADHD"...

At least that's what happens to me. I post a lot on one board for a while, then kind of move on to another one.

[Haole Girl]

98. Ha-ha!

Good description. I think I have that! lol

[Neshanic]

104. Vista updates.

[Haole Girl]

105. Sometimes I wish my computer would have more problems...

.. really. I'm wasting too much time on here. Way too much time.

[ThoughtCriminal]

107. Death

With 108,000+ registered users, a few of us check out that way.

I think I might be able to program a lounge-bot to replace me though. Expect it to complain a lot.

[Haole Girl]

111. I've told my husband to tell y'all when I die

Of course, he might forget. ;-)

[Radio_Lady]

125. Seriously LOL! KC2, I've thought about that too! I'm going to write it into my will.

My husband is now signed on as Audio_Al.

Regrettably, he didn't understand that he has to post about ????? number of times before he can start a thread. He said, "Phooey, I want to be able to post threads NOW..."

Guess who has the job of "ghost writing" his posts?? Sheesh.....

He's too busy with whatever else he does all day -- reviewing audio books, kitchen help (sometimes), yard work (all of it), errands, photos, travel, finance, co-hosting my audio show on some Fridays, and accompanying me to see "Camelot" on Tuesday night 10/02/07.

It's a pretty good life in retirement!

Peace, Love and Happiness,

Radio_Lady in Oregon

From 2007 European jaunt
Radio_Lady and Audio_Al in Brussels, Belgium

[NewJeffCT]

109. too many questions about leaving DU

just kidding.

For every 100 people that leave, though, there are probably at least 50 different reasons.

[Haole Girl]

112. Seems that way

More reasons than I really thought there were, anyway.

[Quixote1818]

113. They don't quit. They embarrass themselves badly then change names

I bet there are a shit load of people here that use to go by another name.

[Haole Girl]

114. Well, as much as I embarrass myself...

I see no point in a name change. People could tell who I was by a pic thread... or, eventually, my writing style.

What is the point of a name change? I just don't get it.

[Radio_Lady]

126. Yeah, you're right... I just don't get it either.

I do know of one case where someone was stalked and had to change...

Spooky.

CU@theDU

Radio Lady Ellen in Oregon

[Haole Girl]

117. Just a few more:

Stalking, harassing, back-stabbing, sharing of other people's Private Messages, divulging confidences, and spreading lies/gossip about other DUers.

And, my all-time favorite: being let down by the people you thought were your friends.

These are all reasons to leave DU.

[Radio_Lady]

127. Excellent thread, KC2. Thanks for your OP.

Making peace a priority,

Radio Lady Ellen in Oregon

[Haole Girl]

139. Thank you.

And thank you for your input. :hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

128. Personally, . . .

I've thought of leaving more than once. I must admit to getting sick of some of the lovefests that go on with some DUers. O well - such is life.

[Haole Girl]

134. Yes

The lovefests. They do get old. That's what hide thread is for, I suppose.

[Bullwinkle925]

140. for the first time ever i finally put someone on ignore . . .

sheesh - all the 'aint i great' stuff was beginning to really get old.

[Cathyclysmic]

130. Tiresomeness.

[Haole Girl]

135. I can see that. nt

[Name removed]

131. Deleted message

Message removed by moderator. Click here to review the message board rules.

[Haole Girl]

136. I do remember that crazy Friday night pic thread

Still can't believe I actually saw it all. :blush:

[crim son]

133. I can't imagine.

It never gets so hot in here that a person should have to leave out of anger. A change in political affiliation, maybe? Sometimes a change in personal circumstances. There have been a few such sad changes around here lately.

[Haole Girl]

138. Anger and pain are closely related.

Often, it is difficult to tell one from the other.

[crim son]

141. I agree.

I am not one to let pain chase me away any more than anger, however. I can be a stubborn wench.

[Haole Girl]

142. As you may know

I'm stubborn too.

Now... I really have to get going.

This thread has been like a winding road, hasn't it?

:hi:


"Everyday Is A Winding Road"

I hitched a ride with a vending machine repair man
He says he's been down this road more than twice
He was high on intellectualism
I've never been there but the brochure looks nice
Jump in, let's go
Lay back, enjoy the show
Everybody gets high, everybody gets low,
These are the days when anything goes

Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

He's got a daughter he calls Easter
She was born on a Tuesday night
I'm just wondering why I feel so all alone
Why I'm a stranger in my own life
Jump in, let's go
Lay back, enjoy the show
Everybody gets high, everybody gets low
These are the days when anything goes

Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer

Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

I've been swimming in a sea of anarchy
I've been living on coffee and nicotine
I've been wondering if all the things I've seen
Were ever real, were ever really happening

Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer

Everyday is a winding road
I get a little bit closer
Everyday is a faded sign
I get a little bit closer to feeling fine

Everyday is a winding road (repeat until song fades)

-Sheryl Crow