If your spouse's friend hits on you, what is the best strategy?

[Haole Girl]

[Midlodemocrat]

1. I would definitely tell my spouse.

[Haole Girl]

And, what if your spouse doesn't believe it?

Any ideas?

[Midlodemocrat]

7. Are you speaking from a perspective of someone who knows someone

that that happened to? Because my spouse would believe me.

It never occurred to me that he wouldn't, actually, but now you've given me something to think about.

[Haole Girl]

10. Well, yes

Let's say, a friend of mine. And her spouse is sort of in denial about obvious overtures... long, inappropriate hugs, excessive flattery, etc.

[Midlodemocrat]

12. Yikes. I guess I would then mention something directly to the friend

that his behavior was making me uncomfortable. And, if this friend is married, I might also indicate that I would tell his wife.

[Haole Girl]

13. Oh yeah

Thanks! :hug:

[NewJeffCT]

2. Assuming you're not interested

just politely and firmly tell them "no"

unless it's a female friend of your spouse, of course!

[Haole Girl]

5. Oh, this is strictly hypothetical of course

Thanks! :hi:

[NewJeffCT]

You're welcome...

If it happened one time, I'd write it off as temporary insanity.

If he persists, however, then you'd definitely have to bring it up with hubby.

[Tian Zhuangzhuang]

3. Is she/he hot?

I mean it really depends on your favorite outcome.

[Haole Girl]

6. No

Assuming we were talking actual events... no (not after getting to know their personality, anyway).

[Tian Zhuangzhuang]

9. Well then tell your spouse.

It might turn out your spouse was behind it.

[Haole Girl]

15. Now *that * is a conspiracy theory!

:tinfoilhat:

[Tian Zhuangzhuang]

18. No that is actual experience.

Once because she was jealous of her friend and thought I was going to cheat on her.


Once cause she was bi-curious and wanted to have a threesome.


the second time turned out better.

[Haole Girl]

24. Wow

And, you had no idea in advance?

[Tian Zhuangzhuang]

31. The first one definitely not.

Fortunately I was too clueless to catch on.

The second one there was some giggling and some smoke and the three of us were in a house in the woods alone so I kinda got the hint.

[flvegan]

4. Suggest a 3 way?

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I kid, honest. I'd tell my spouse if it was very clear to me that I was being hit on.

[Haole Girl]

8. lol!

Should have seen that coming. Thanks. :-)

[MissHoneychurch]

11. Tell my spouse

that is something that shouldn't stand between partners because I would feel really bad in the company of the so-called "friend". The spouse should know that his "friend" is hitting on me.

[Haole Girl]

14. Guys seem to be somewhat unsure, sometimes...

..about flattery vs. more. At least, from what I've observed.

[MissHoneychurch]

16. There is a different between compliments

and hitting on one. BIG different. And the second one is just creepy.

[Fire Walk With Me]

17. Trout slap, definitely.

I am attempting to recommend a trout slap three times today.

[Haole Girl]

19. Dare I ask

What is a trout slap?

[Fire Walk With Me]

20. Grasp a fresh trout by the tail, and smack the offending party across the face with it.

Should send a clear message. I have not yet attempted this, but dream of the day when I will.

[Haole Girl]

22. Knowing my luck, it would slip out of my hand...

..and hit the wrong person. Then they would sue me! lol!

But, thanks for the tip! :D

[judaspriestess]

21. tell that person to back off

and if it happens again, its going to get ugly real quick.

[Haole Girl]

23. Seems like a strategy

If the person wasn't a foot and 3 inches and 40 lbs heavier! lol

[LeftyMom]

25. I'm fond of the phrase "stop it or I'll beat your ass" in that situation.

:evilgrin:

[Haole Girl]

26. That doesn't work with everyone...

..if you know what I mean (?).

:evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

27. That's where plan B comes in

Plan B is "stop it or he'll beat your ass."

[Haole Girl]

28. *sigh*

If it was only so simple.

Thanks! :hi:

[LeftyMom]

29. You can borrow him if you want.

:D

[Haole Girl]

30. Thanks!

;-)

Well, I better go get ready for the hypothetical dinner party.

I voted for getting really drunk, of course (being the coward that I am!).

:hi: