*sigh* My best friend, who is getting out of a bad relationship is pregnant.

[Sannum]

God certanly does have a sense of humor? Yeah right.

I am so angry at those who seek to take choice from us. She was in an abusive relationship that ended two weeks ago, and now she suspects that she may be pregnant. She knows what choice needs to be made, but it is very hard because the "Life" side has just bombed the women of this nation with misinformation and lies. Those who seek to protect a fetus, but not give a shit about it as soon as it is born. I am worried about her, and I am so angry at the anti-choice zealots who seek to judge those who make these difficult decisions. Contrary to the fucking imbicles who would have her have an unwanted child, this was a difficult decision. It was not made easier by aforementioned lies and misinformation. I am going to support her through this, because that is what friends do. Thank god for the brave americans who fight for a womans right to choose.

I am proudly pro-choice. I will shout it from the rooftops. Tomorrow I will go with her as she explores her very difficult options.

I am so emotional tonight. Please send good energy and positive prayers to my friend. She has been through so much and I am proud to stand by her side during this difficult time.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. Good for you, standing by your friend at this hard time...

It's always difficult to contemplate ending a pregnancy...

I was always grateful I never had to do that...

But now your friend needs you as she never has before...and there you are!

Good energy and positive vibes to her.....

And to you as well...

:hug:

[Cabcere]

2. Hugs and good vibes to your friend, Sannum.

:hug: Sounds like a difficult situation for her, but at least she has a good and caring friend in you to help her through this. :pals: Peace be with both of you.

[Suich]

3. Good for her for getting out of the relationship.

I'm glad she has a friend like you. Good energy and positive prayers for both of you.

:hug:

[CatholicEdHead]

4. Good for her for getting out

Try to keep adoption as a top choice behind keeping the child.

[Ellen Forradalom]

6. With all due respect

what is considered an option is not up to you.

[China_cat]

14. Adoption is not really a choice.

That still makes it a forced birth. Birth is not the question...pregnancy is. And all the things that go with it, including having to deal with an abusive other who would see the pregnancy as a way back into her life and a control mechanism. Unfortunately a court would side with him as the biological 'father'.

[Breeze54]

5. You're a good friend. Keep supporting her.

Glad she's getting out of that relationship.

[Sannum]

7. Thank you to everyone.

It is a very difficult choice for her.

I cannot imagine the pain she is feeling, because luckily, I have not had this happen to me. If it did, I would want the support of a friend in a time of need with no judgement or anger.

[Aristus]

8. I must be a really horrible person;

My first thought was "Why do they always wait until they're pregnant before they get out of a bad relationship?"

Still, having confessed that, I wish her well, and stand with you as a die-hard pro-choicer.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

13. Maybe she just found out.

Its possible.

[China_cat]

15. I can answer that very easily for you.

What you are willing to accept for yourself, you very likely aren't willing to chance for a child. And then it hits you that if you continue the pregnancy, even if you live in separate places, you give him a legal inroad back into your life.

Not to mention that abuse tends to escalate during pregnancy.

[Withywindle]

9. Her healing is the #1 priority.

I've been there with friends and my baby cousin. (OK, she's only 4 years younger than me but I think of her as my 'baby sis' because we're both only children and clung to each other when we were 4 and 8) I'm sending her my best wishes, whatever she decides is best to get herself free and clear and cool with herself.

Bless you for being a true friend.

[CraftyGal]

10. I am so glad that you are here for her.

I went through that very tough road 20 yrs ago. My daughter was 4 months old and had sleep apnea. She was on a heart monitor. I found out I was pregnant and had to decide really fast. as Canada only allows abortion in the first trimester. The baby's father wasn't able to commit so I made that very tough decision. Medically, I wasn't able to use birth control pills and the protection broke.

For anyone who says that abortion is easy, they are barking up the wrong tree. I had to have some grief counseling over it. Be that as it may, I would make the same decision all over again.

I had some wonderful, supportive friends and family who supported me, by going to the hospital, by taking care of my daughter and just being there. i remember going through that mob of anti-choicers and stopping and looking at them and saying, "So if you are so pro-life, who is going to live with me to take care of the 4 month old who is on a heart monitor until she is 1? To make sure that she is taken care of because this pregnancy is exhausting me so much that I can't wake up to respond to her needs. Should she die because I am pregnant? What do you say?" They couldn't answer me and parted so I could go in for my scheduled abortion. My friends helped me through it as you will help your friend.

I am glad that she got out of that abusive relationship. It would be good for her to seek out counseling or a support group for battered women as well.

Crafty

[Sugar Smack]

11. Hey.

:hug: I'm sorry.

[Pushed To The Left]

12. I'm sorry to hear what your friend is going through.

The next election will be VERY important when it comes to abortion rights. Some Supreme Court retirements are very likely, and a Republican president will probably lead to an even more right-wing Court. That's why I will support the Democratic candidate, even if he or she is not my first choice. I don't think any of the Democratic candidates would screw with the Courts the way the Republicans would.

[I Have A Dream]

16. I will certainly send your friend good energy and will pray for her.

She is blessed to have you as a friend.

[judaspriestess]

17. best wishes to your friend

and thank you for supporting her.