Lounge.... I know this is trivial to what OMC is going through

[lost-in-nj]

but if you have a positive thought, or an encouraging word, maybe some courage.....
I would be greatful.....
tomorrow is 25 years since my Dad died.....
I will never forget it....
and on the 8th it will be a year since my husband left me.
so I have gone through all the firsts.... now I have to decide.....
These next 4 days are gonna be tough....

I AM keeping my problems in perspective to OMC's, I keep crying.......
but I just need a little help... when you can

Thank You, thank you.....

lost



:hug: :hug:

[malta blue]

1. LOST...

:hug::hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug:
:hug::hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug:
:hug::hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug:
:hug::hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

18. ...

:hug:

thank you

lost

[lizziegrace]

2. Sure sweetie

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

19. oh hon

thank you....
really


lost

[SPKrazy]

3. You got it lost

:hug: :hug: :hug:

all relative

all in perspective

all real

my mother's anniversary of her death is Oct. 10. 2005.

[lost-in-nj]

20. SPK

:hug: :hug:

its a hard day,,,


lost

[SPKrazy]

25. yeah, i know what ya mean

:hug: :hug:

just took my son home, always leaves me sad

:hi:





BLU

[Bullwinkle925]

4. doesn't matter how great or insignificant (you think) the pain is in regards to others' pain . . .

if it hurts you - it is significant to YOU. My thoughts are with you at this time.
It sucks when prominent people in your life are no longer there.
Hugs -

[lost-in-nj]

21. Thank you

she is beautiful....



lost

[Kajsa]

5. I'm right here, Lost.

Your pain is no picnic either.

Ten years ago I lost my dad to cancer.

I know that pain.

My ex bailed on us when our son was 2 yrs. old.
But that turned out for the better.
It took me a while to see that.

You cry, mourn, and do whatever you need to do
to get through these rough spots.

You've got my support and a big

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

23. ......

This is for you...




lost

[Hugin]

6. Keep planning that ROAD TRIP!!!1!!

:bounce:

:D

I am sorry this is a difficult time for you. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

24. I am

actually I am looking in to


Africa!!!!!


one of my dreams....

:hi:

lost

[mentalsolstice]

7. Everything seems trivial right now...

but it's not really. Our losses help us empathize with what OMC, Mrs.Grumpy and others are going through. And perhaps when things like this happen they bring up some PTSD symptoms for those of us who have experienced loss. Just be thankful that you're human and you can have intense feelings, it's much better than going through life numb.

[lost-in-nj]

26. yes u are so on target

thanks.....



:hug: :hug:


thank you

lost

[mentalsolstice]

43. Hang in there...

you're (a very good) human, because you can feel pain in your heart and soul. I've known a couple of people who have very little feeling at all about the suffering going on immediately around them, much less a world-wide view. I can't really divulge much more, without giving identities away...but it's sad when a mother has no feelings about her (young adults) childrens' addictions.

[NC_Nurse]

8. I'm so sorry for your losses, LIJ.

Of course it still hurts. I think we have enough hugs for everyone, don't you?
:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

27. I have so many hugs

to go around.......



cause we know how each other feels........

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:


lost

[Parche]

9. I feel your pain gunga dain

I was in Hawaii 19years ago last week when my father died of colon cancer

Its been 5years since I lost my 'woos' (kitty)
and i have had 3 dreams this week, all vivid, like she is still here, and she is purring and
i am petting her......



:cry:
:hug:


found lost

[lost-in-nj]

28. .....

:hug: :hug: :cry: :cry:

have fun in Hawaii

memories.....


lost

[Sugar Smack]

10. NJ, I'm all hugs for you. My dad is the world to me.

:hug: Much love and peace to you.

[lost-in-nj]

29. THANK YOU!!!!!

:hug:

lost

[CTyankee]

11. Dear lost,

Here is the end of a poem by Emily Dickinson about remembrance.

Real Memory, like Cedar Feet
Is shod with Adamant—
Nor can you cut Remembrance down
When it shall once have grown—
Its Iron Buds will sprout anew
However overthrown—

I lost my mother in 2005 but I feel she is with me in my heart each day...

[lost-in-nj]

30. ..

n/t

:cry: :cry:

lost

[Mike03]

12. Not Trivial At All

I'm so glad you posted, and my thoughts and deepest prayers are with you.

For what it is worth, I'm facing right now the possible death of my father, and I just think losing someone you love, especially a parent or child or sibling, is just a living hell.

For the last month I have had moments of sobbing uncontrollably, then total denial and dissociation, and then more tears and trauma, and then my dog, who had cancer, had to be put down. She was like the one thing I looked forward to in this life, so really, everything just seems bad now.

Anyway, I sincerely, deeply, from the center of my soul, wish you peace.

[KitchenWitch]

13. I am sorry you are dealing with such grief

Pain is pain.

:hug:

[Mike03]

14. please, don't ever mitigate your own suffering

Suffering is suffering. It is just a very painful part of life, but you are handling it very gracefully and respectably, although believe me I know it hurts to the very core of your heart.

Be good to yourself.

[NewJeffCT]

15. I'm sorry lost

:hug:

best wishes to you.

[Mike03]

16. Hoping you are Okay

I will check back on this thread later.

Victor E. Frankl, a therapist and holocaust survivor, said that pain is like a gas that expands to fill the region it can feel. In other words, no one's suffering is any less or more important than anyone others.

You are right to feel hurt, sad, or whatever you feel.

Suffering is a big part of life. Believe me, I am learning that right now the hard way.

I extend my best wishes and kindness to you

[Cabcere]

17. Of course, dear.

:hug: :grouphug: :hug: Peace be with you.

[coffeenap]

22. Oh, sweetie, your pain is real and you have my empathy.

We all live within our own lives, and although another may be experiencing a terrible time, it doesn't make our own feelings any less substantial. Best wishes to you as you go through the coming days. For me, it is a year since my oldest friend, since age 3, passed. The wonderful thing about this wild DU community is that there are so many here who are not afraid to share emotions and to reach out with comfort when someone needs it.


:hug:

[rateyes]

31. I know it 's tough. And, I pray

for this next year to filled with great blessings and real joy.

:hug:

[Zephyrbird]

32. It's okay, lost-in-nj.

Lean close to the screen....closer....closer

SMACK!

big kiss from my African Grey, Zephyr!! :loveya:

I kind of know how you feel. I feel so badly for OMC, even though I didn't know them.

But you know, there's lots of us going through poop. There's no shame in asking for some reassurance that life is still worth hanging in there for! (oooo, bad sentence--I left a "for" hanging--does that mean I'm guilty of "for"nicating???)

I haven't posting anything about this, and I don't think folks know me well enough to read my posts yet, so I will tell you so you don't feel so alone. I'm waiting for a biopsy on a patch of skin from my back that my doctor is pretty sure is skin cancer. She removed it this past Monday and should have the results early next week. It was a very fast growing area, so she is very concerned that it may have spread.

We're on pins and needles here, my dear sister in DU! I'll make you a deal--you hang in there and I'll hang with you NJ. This last bit of info follows five years of hell, including the death of my mom 3 years ago. This is my third cancer scare in the last 3 years, but we're hoping to have caught it before it spread.

wahhh wahhh. See??? I can't stand to listen to myself, so you tell me more what's up with everything you feel.

Tough about the husband. Geez. That's one thing I can't share with you. Never been married.

I don't want to belittle what you feel, but if you want to know what helped me get through, holler and I'll share.

Meanwhile, here's your big birdie hug.
:hug:

Zeph

[lost-in-nj]

33. I'm here

I know
there is someone
worse than me....
I just wished they were not my DU
friends......


PLEaSE


keep me informed....

please......




lost

[lost-in-nj]

34. MY DU FRIENDS

if I could not answer you
personally I want to THANK you all......
THANK YOU!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!

We all need each other....

i know this......



thank you, thank you



lost

[Mike03]

35. Suffering is never trivial.

Kick and Rec this thread.

[From The Ashes]

36. lost...

Your pain is not trivial. :hug::hug: Courage, my dear. :hug::hug:

[AlCzervik]

37. your pain isn't trivial at all.

:pals:

[FloridaJudy]

38. You've got it.

Christmas and Easter are hard on me: my parents died on those days (tells you what they thought about organized religion!). No matter how long it's been, anniversaries like that are difficult.

And losing a partner is always rough, even if he/she is still alive. I've been there, and I empathize.

:hug:

[Reciprocity]

39. Hang in there!

I lost both of my parents when I was seventeen and I know how hard the anniversary of a death can make you feel so low (ever fricken year for 32 years and counting). Just try and remember these feelings don't last forever.

From Mike and the Mechanics
In the living years

So dont yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective
On a different day
And if you dont give up, and dont give in
You may just be o.k.

[snailly]

40. Pain is pain and it is real.

You're going through a very dark time. Allow yourself to cry and scream and be angry. You know, be human.
I understand.

[Mz Pip]

41. Anniversaries

are difficult. I will always remember Jan 7 (1968) - my dad; Sept 15 (1974) - my best friend; and June 30 (1995) my mom. These are days where I remember and cherish my memories.

Not easy days but necessary ones.

Mz Pip
:dem:

[UrbScotty]

42. Not trivial at all.

Each person matters, as you know.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

44. Of course.

:hug: :hug: :hug: