DU women only: Is baldness a huge turnoff?

[pokerfan]

I lost a lot of my blond locks in my twenties.

I work out and try to keep myself fit. The hair is thin but still covers my head, though I now can get sunburned up there which smarts in the shower. I keep it short and always tell the barber/stylist, "No fucking comb-over!" That is something I will never do.

I don't like the side affects of some of the so-called cures, so I have done nothing more than wash and condition it.

I'm 48 and single. Most people would consider me balding, not bald. The enemy is encroaching pretty much everywhere on top and I have a noticeable bald spot in the traditional location.

To me, it's not a big problem. Having to worry about sunburning the top of my head is a minor annoyance.

So what say you, ladies? Is it a dealbreaker for you?

[mainegreen]

1. As a guy I say go cue ball, man.

If your hair is going, help it along and go for a smooth, sleek head. Much better than 'fuzz' or sparseness.

[meegbear]

4. Hear hear!

Been shaving solid since March 2001 and haven't looked back.

As the phrase goes: "I didn't lose my hair, I just got more head". :evilgrin:

[Mrs.Matcom]

65. And you look soooooooooo...

yummy!!! :* :hug: :loveya:

[pokerfan]

8. You obviously don't understand the concept of

DU women only

[mainegreen]

9. Oh I do. I just chose to ignore it.

I'm very bad at following instructions.

:P

[Omphaloskepsis]

12. Being a dick might be why women stay out of your pants.

Or insecurity. Pleases don't use all bold caps

[pokerfan]

16. WTF?

[MrScorpio]

18. I concur

Shave it all off. It exudes an I-really-don't-give-a-fuck-about-hair-because-its-really-not-that-important- attitude.

And that's a winning attitude, my friend.

[idgiehkt]

56. It worked for Joey Lawrence.

He sizzles. He played a serial killer on CSI and I didn't even recognize him, he did such a great job.





I think he looks much better without the hair. He has such intensity.

[stanwyck]

67. Oh, yeah. As a woman, I totally agree

the shaved head is hot. If your hair is thinning, just shave it off. It's a great look.

[Iris]

75. Nope. I disagree.

I don't like the shaved look, but a good-looking balding man who has some hair left? Yum.

[Pushed To The Left]

86. I've thought about shaving mine one day, but shaving it every day seems like it would be a pain! n/t

[spinbaby]

2. Not at all

I'm married to a balding man and I find them very attractive. What's unattractive is some guy who's got the obvious results of the latest baldness cure perched on his head.

[MissMillie]

3. Not at ALL.

If anything I think baldness can make a sexy man even more sexy.

[sarge43]

5. Hell no. Nothing is more masculine than a well groomed bald head.

Need we list all the fine looking bald men.

You're doing it exactly right, pokerfan. Keep what's left trimmed; comb overs look ridiculous.

[Fredda Weinberg]

51. ..

[Tuesday Afternoon]

6. Not a turnoff at all. If anything it can be a turn ON.

;)

[MANative]

7. Bald is NOT a turnoff

Maybe because I grew up around bald men (my granddad and uncles) but I think bald is cute and sexy! Drives me nuts when guys wear toupees or do the comb-over thing. The real deal is much better :)

[BarenakedLady]

10. No

[QMPMom]

11. Not at all. If a person doesn't like your baldness, or encroaching

baldness, they are not worth knowing.

Like I heard once, "Embrace Your Baldness" and shave the whole head.

[Pool Hall Ace]

13. Not at all, my husband's hair is sparse right on top.

I do, however, detest combovers. I also don't care for long, thinning hair. If you are losing your hair, keep it short. Or just shave it all off.

If someone doesn't want to be with you because you've lost some hair, she's not worth knowing anyway.

[Heidi]

14. I can't speak for other women, but *I think a bald head is very attractive,

especially if you don't carry yourself as though you're ashamed of it. Please don't consider baldness "the enemy." It's part of who you are. Just don't forget the sunscreen. :)

*Disclaimer: I'm married to one of the cutest blond bald guys in Europe, if not on the entire earth. :7

[Connonym]

15. No dealbreaker for me

I obviously can't speak for all women but I'm a 41 year old woman and I think that attractiveness is about much more than hair or lack thereof. Some of the sexiest men I can think of don't have a full head of hair. And it sounds to me like you're wearing it exactly the right way you should, nice and simple because comb overs never work. I have no objection to the shaved head look but I don't think you should feel you need to run right out and do that immediately. If you're comfortable with what you've got that exudes sexiness. But because I'm a mom as well as a woman I have to remind you to put sunscreen on your head!

[crim son]

17. When I was much younger I really wasn't attracted to a man

who was losing his hair. At 44, it is not an issue. What is an issue is what the man does with the hair that remains. Letting it grow to "compensate" for its scarcity is a turn-off. Not washing it because it's too painful to see good hair go down the drain, that's a turn-off.

A confident man is always attractive, with or without a full head of hair IMHO.

[Phillycat]

19. Not at all!

Bald guys are HOT.

On edit: just shave it when it's time. Don't try to have half a head of hair.

Also, male pattern baldness is a sign of elevated testosterone levels in men. So usually bald guys are more...virile. :D

[raccoon]

20. Nope. No way. nt

[Maine-ah]

21. nope. My hubbie's hair is on it's way out

and I think he's sexier than ever!

[Skittles]

22. you are correct: - comb-overs are a HUGE turnoff

but confident bald men - not only is it OK, very often it is SUPER AWESOME!!! You're fine, pokerfan!!!

[NMDemDist2]

23. if it's really thin, just shave it off

but no, I date men based on their personality

[NewWaveChick1981]

24. No, not at all.

:) Hair, no hair, a little hair---it's all good. :D It's the guy that matters, not the hair.

[LaraMN]

25. As long as you don't try to "Trump" it,

it's all good. I like shaved heads.

[liberaldemocrat7]

70. I like this picture of Trump :)

[QueenOfCalifornia]

26. I am a woman

(unlike some of the other respondents) and for me it doesn't make any difference - My husband is bald - I like him because he is funny and smart. I have to say though that there is a lot of anti-bald sentiment out there. Women have said things about it to me that I found very short sighted and not very nice.

I say shave it all off - I wish my husband would.

[MissMillie]

27. funny, smart, and liberal

that says sexy to me!!!

[Scout]

28. as long as they're not doing the "combover" baldness does not bother me...

besides, it's a sign of lots of U-turns under the sheets :evilgrin:

[LeftyMom]

29. couldn't care less, myself

The fella's losing a bit, and he's very sexy.

[Sanity Claws]

30. No

Combovers and bozo hair are turnoffs, though. Bozo hair is when the man is bald on top but lets the hair on the side grow long or too full. Yuck!! Very clownish looking. Cueball is definitely better than that.

[midlife_mo_Jo]

31. Bald, no! Combing hair over in an attempt to hide, yes!

Not that it would be a huge turnoff if I actually got to know the guy and liked him, but I have to admit I've giggled along with a few friends when we see a guy with thinning hair on the top try to cover it by combing over long hair from the side. The comb over thing just doesn't look good, imo!

I'm married, so it's just not an issue for me, except that my hubby's hair is thinning a bit. LOL It's happening so gradually that I just don't notice it.

[SmokingJacket]

32. No, no, no!!!

It's vastly superior to big, fake-looking hair, or comb-overs, or any other hair sins. My husband's been losing his hair since his twenties, too, and just looks better and better every year. :loveya:

[China_cat]

33. If it was, you wouldn't see a lot of us

drooling over Patrick Stewart and Avery Brooks, would you?

[pokerfan]

59. Well, yeah but you're nerds! :-)

So all I need is to be the captain of a starship?

[China_cat]

63. Nope, all you need is to be bald and have a wonderful voice.

[AllegroRondo]

34. Ive got Alton Brown hair.

Its going, and Im theres no way Im doing a combover.

But at least my wife likes it.

[Katina]

35. no, it's not a turnoff at all

but wear sunscreen and a hat. The bald spot is a primary location for skin cancer

[redwitch]

36. nope.

silly! I have been fantasizing about Jean Luc Picard for decades. Bald guys can be tres sexy! Combovers now, that's a different story. :-)

[eyepaddle]

37. Funny you should mention that.....

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=6985748&mesg_id=6985748

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

38. Not at all.

Honest baldness is just fine -- it's the comb-overs and cheesy hairpieces that are turnoffs.

[Hobarticus]

39. Shave it bald, or at least way short....you'll never want hair again.

I tried it, and I love it. Low maintenance, it's a clean look, and I think I look better. I had really fine hair to begin with, and when it started to go thin and grey, I just took the plunge and never looked back.

Shaving your head is a lot easier than you think No need to buy special razors or anything. You'll learn to go by "feel" and the sound of the razor. Hell, I even used an electric, at first.

[RebelOne]

40. No, definitely not a turn-off.

Bald Vin Diesel in Pitch Black really turned me on.

[devilgrrl]

41. No! Tupee's are a turnoff! Hairplugs are a turnoff!

They are as big of a turnoff to women as breast implants are to most men.

Leave your bald head alone!

[Lydia Leftcoast]

42. I don't care what's ON a man's head; only what's IN it

If he has high intelligence, a kindly attitude, and a sense of humor, he can be bald or dread-locked or anything in between.

The one exception is that comb-overs and toupees make men look like dorks.

I once knew a man who blamed his baldness and weight for his lack of luck with women. He complained that women were "superficial and would never look at someone who is fat and bald." He could have walked down any street in America and seen fat, bald men in the company of a wife or girlfriend, but he couldn't admit that the problem was his personality.

[Missy Vixen]

43. Absolutely not

Balding's just a part of getting older. Any woman who'd reject you for it is someone you didn't want to spend time with anyway, IMHO.

Julie

[Wapsie B]

44. Gosh one physical attribute I do have

is a thick head of hair. Stylists have commented on it several times. But man oh man, I do know that bald guys get the attention from women just as much as someone with long, 70's rock star type hair. It's all in the man and how he carries himself.

[Fleshdancer]

46. I agree

The way a man carries himself makes a huge difference. I think this is ultimately why most women don't like the comb over because it's a very visible sign of insecurity.

[Fleshdancer]

45. NOT a turnoff

I don't have a bald fetish like Bush does, but depending on the shape of the face and the build of the man, baldness can be very attractive.

I would recommend getting rid of the hair you do have and PLEASE start wearing sunscreen.

[From The Ashes]

47. Not a turnoff to me...

The combover look is though. :puke:

[Patiod]

48. Especially not if you're Mitch Pileggi

Hottest guy on the X Files (sorry Duchovney fans, but it's true)

[ceile]

50. *sigh*

Totally agree!

[femmocrat]

64. Me too!

OMG, I nearly fainted the one time they showed him in his underwear! :swoon:

[ceile]

49. Not at all.

My ex was pretty bald and would shave his head every other day. Very hot!

[NewWaveChick1981]

52. Addendum to my earlier answer:

The only time baldness is a turnoff is if a guy tries to cover it up. Toupees/hairpieces, shoe polish/hair-in-a-can, combovers, swirlarounds, or whatever----leave it the FUCK alone! :yoiks: Baldness or partial baldness is just fine. :) Just go with it!

[RevCheesehead]

53. Are you kidding me?

Bald is SEXY!!

But combovers are a definite turn-off.

[Marrah_G]

54. No way, I love bald guys!

[tandot]

55. Only if you like to date superficial and immature bimbos

We are both in our early forties and got married last month. I love him because he is smart, caring, and funny. I find him totally sexy and attractive. His hairline is receding and he has some gray mixed in with his red hair. He doesn't complain about it and I wouldn't care if he'd lose all of his hair.

If you have the head for it, just shave it completely. However, the worst thing you could do is a comb-over. HORRIBLE.

[Love Bug]

57. Nope. I'd much rather see an honest bald head than a

stupid comb-over. It does takes a certain panache for a man to carry off the completely bald look, tho.

Don't forget to use sunblock! :D

[Midlodemocrat]

58. Not in the least. I think bald is very sexy.

Although, my husband still has a full head of non gray hair. lol.

[legally blonde]

60. definitely not!

I'm much more interested in what's in a man's head, not what's on top.

[mwdem]

61. Only on my own head!

Other than that, no.

[SeattleGirl]

62. Absolutely not.

Some of the sexiest men around are bald.

[WildEyedLiberal]

66. One of my first crushes was Patrick Stewart

Bottom line, if the man is attractive, baldness will not change that. It might even have its own special allure.

[SOteric]

68. Definitely not a turnoff. Some balding men are quite distinguished looking.

I think you're right to avoid the comb-over, by all means. And if you find they suit you, you might find a well-trimmed beard and moustache can do something decidedly handsome for a balding gentleman's look.

[TorchTheWitch]

69. bald is hot, sparse is not

Once I get the chance to actually meet and talk to a guy I don't much care about what is or is not on his head. But when it comes to initial attraction cue ball gets my attention as does a full head of hair (and I only go for full heads of hair if it's a nice style that compliments his face, so I guess I find myself being mostly first attracted to cue balls). It's that in-between sparse "going bald" look that at first sight doesn't do it for me.

Shave it all off and shine it up. Cue ball is sexy as hell. I actually dated someone a couple of times ONLY because he had such a nice smooth round textbook head... too bad what was IN his head wasn't attractive enough to keep my attention.

[redqueen]

71. Hell no it's not a deal breaker... it's SEXY.

And I don't mean just bald... I like the balding look too. I don't know why, but I sure do.

[applegrove]

72. No abosolutely not. It is all in the personality. But I like it when bald

men keep their hair very short. That looks good.

[Dystopian]

73. All or none.

Being from the 60s, hair has always been my thing.....I've always been attracted to men with not just hair, I love long hair......So I would be attracted more to a man with no hair than just some hair! Bald is cool.....
Shave your head! I'd go for a bald guy....and at my age, there aren't too many men with a full head of hair....
There are a lot of young guys around with shaved heads...
So it's a youthful thing in this day and age....
This is probably the longest reply I've ever written....
Rambling about hair....:shrug:
Go for the hot hairless look....
:hippie:
Our hippie is bald... ;)
peace~

[debbierlus]

74. The right woman for you won't care

Because SHE will find you attractive & that is all that matters....

Beauty is completely subjective.

[Bucky]

76. Are you talking bald head or bald ass?

That could be a big deciding factor.

[skyblue]

77. only your head and your back are ok for being bald.

[AZBlue]

78. Not at all.

[grace0418]

79. Baldness, no, not at all. Comb-overs, bad toupees, or letting what's left get long and

stringy, definitely a turn-off. I have no problem with bald heads, they can be quite sexy in fact.

[Xipe Totec]

80. Funny story

I have a coworker, a very hot looking Parisian French woman.

She asked me once if she could take a picture of me.

Why?

Because I look very much like her husband. I am bald on top, have very little hair on the sides, and I cut my hair very short (1/4" buzz).

She wanted to show her husband, who is desperately trying to hide his bald pate under a horrendous comb-over, that balding men with short hair can look attractive.

I've never been more flattered in my life.

:blush:

[Zookeeper]

81. No. But if it's partial baldness, keep the sides short.

Bald on top, long on sides and back is not an appealing look. (IMHO.)

[XemaSab]

82. Really depends on the guy...

Usually not. ;)

[XemaSab]

83. Oh, and remember:

Male pattern baldness is caused by excess testosterone. :D ;)

[momophile]

84. not at all and here's a good example

Nigel Barker

[Haole Girl]

85. No

I'm married. But, when I wasn't, it was never a deal breaker.