I've run into my ex on a "support" website

[Critters2]

I had just been lurking on a support site last night. This guy kept posting these song lyrics and nothing else. Apparently does it all the time--all hours of the day and night. I was trying to figure out if he was a musician, some kind of academic, what? So, I made one post--asking what he does for a living. Well, it turns out it was my ex-husband! And so then he posts a bunch of my private info on the site, to let me know he knows who I am, I guess.

I changed all my e-mail addies and other info after the divorce, because he and his parents were kind of cyberstalking me. I don't use any addies with my name, to keep them from finding me. But he knew right away who I was...so he's still creepy, apparently. I reported the abuse on that site, but what's done is done.

I go from being astonished that the one post I made was to him, to being upset that he's still keeping track of my e-mail addresses and the like. We've been divorced for 10 years. I really don't want him wandering into my life.

I can't believe I was married to him.

When I need support, I'll stick to DU. What he did on that site would've gotten him TS'd here.

[BarenakedLady]

1. Scary

:hug:

[Critters2]

2. Thanks!!

It is scary. What really creeps me out is that I was moved to respond to his posts. I keep telling myself it was just dumb luck, but what if I still have some deep psychic connection to that POS.

God, what is wrong with me?!

Thanks for the hug. I need it!

[Whoa_Nelly]

3. mycritters2!

:hug:

If he even once harasses you beyond what he did last night, get a restraining order.

This has the hallmarks of him being a stalker, abuser, and one, so obsessed with you after 10 years, may have the potential to find you and work to destroy your life or you. :hug:

Hope you did a screensave on that post and/or printed it out with date/time documentation.

[Critters2]

8. Good points all.

I just printed out the post with the date/time stamp.

If anything more happens, I'll get a TRO.

Good advice! Thanks!

[BlueIris]

4. Woah; creepy!

Have you read Gavin DeBecker's "The Gift of Fear"? Sounds like it could help you validate some of your feelings.

[Critters2]

6. I haven't read that, but I will.

I'll look it up. Thanks.

[Critters2]

9. Just read reviews on Amazon.

I'll get this. Sounds like it could be helpful to me in this situation, and with parishioners as well.
Thanks! :hi:

[DS1]

5. habitual lyrics posting is definitely dump-worthy

you made the right choice :hug:

[Critters2]

7. Oh, if only he'd spent his time doing nothing but this during our marriage.

That would've been the least of my problems.

Thanks for the hug!