So, do I get back in the saddle right away or do I give myself time to regroup?

[Connonym]

It was a 3-month relationship, the L word was used (by him). Is the best way to get over it to start dating again or to just chill and mentally get my shit back together? I guess I really know that the answer to this is that I need to get settled into my new job and fix some of the other shit that's broken in my life before I think about it but damned if I'm not already lonely.

[TK421]

What is the L word?

:shrug:

sorry-dupe

[TK421]

1. What is the L word?

:shrug:

[Connonym]

2. love

[RetroLounge]

3. The L word?

He called you a Lesbian?

:shrug:

RL

[Connonym]

4. mmm no

that has thus far remained in the realm of sexual fantasy for me

[RetroLounge]

5. Well, as long as it is on your to-do list...

:hi:

RL

[MissMillie]

6. if you're lonely get out

doesn't have to be romantic... just be w/ people

(this is from the file labeled "do as I say, not as I do".... I hardly ever get out, and I'm always lonely)

[lizziegrace]

9. Miss Millie

I've missed you.

:hug:

[MissMillie]

12. hi darlin'!

I've been crocheting like a fiend... trying to finish this blanket for my office-mate's wedding on Friday.

my hand is numb and my arm feels like it's going to fall off... but I'm pretty sure I'm going to finish

How have you been, dear?

[lizziegrace]

13. Hanging in there

wish you were closer. I'd drag you to a concert I want to see tonight.

:)

[MissMillie]

15. lol

gonna have to crochet some more tonight anyway....


who's in concert?

[lizziegrace]

19. check your pm

:)

[Connonym]

10. I have agoraphobic tendencies

and it's really hard for me to leave the house unless I specifically have someone to come with me. One of those issues that I should probably resolve prior to getting involved but I'm half afraid that it will never resolve and that it will just leave me all the more lonely.

[applegrove]

7. Move on with other things while keeping your eyes open for opportunity.

If you come across a good egg...jump in. Not worth passing one of those up.

[xchrom]

8. i always tell myself i'm gonna chill -- then i step outside see a cute boy --

and bingo i'm back in the saddle - so to speak.

[fizzgig]

11. sounds like you know what you need to do

but that doesn't make it any easier, i know. i've found that i usually find someone when i'm not looking to :shrug:

[LeftyMom]

14. Plan on waiting, but don't shoot yourself in the foot.

After the kid's Dad and I were done, I told myself I wanted a year off, because I realized I had never been single for so much as a day in my adult life. Well, a year turned out to be a few weeks, and I'm glad I didn't stick to that, but I think I was healthier for having dealt with the idea that I'm whole on my own.

[janx]

18. I second this opinion!

:hi:

I wanted time off, and now it has been YEARS! No fun. No fun at all.

[The Straight Story]

16. I never really dated in my life per se

I married my first gf, was gonna marry my 2nd but it fell through, and then married the woman I am now with.

I am 42 today and since I was 19 I have lived with someone except for a stretch of 6 months (I was with someone, just not living with them).

When we lived in Ohio my wife would fly out here to CA with our daughter for anywhere from 2-4 weeks to visit family, and I cried every time when I got back in the car after dropping them off at the airport.

I guess I am just needy in that way, always wanting to share life with.

Me, I would jump back in the saddle - but for me true love came from meeting someone when I was not even looking.

Do what is best for you, and if it does not work at least ya can learn from it :)

[KG]

17. jump right back in! a hot night of rebounding is very cathartic!

call me. i'll, um, fill you in, so to speak. :) :hi:

[Connonym]

20. if you promise not to use that fist!

[KG]

22. oh, that? that's for me.

i have something much better for my friends... :)

[Starbucks Anarchist]

21. Whatever works for you.

Don't feel pressured either way, and do what you feel is best.