okay - so i've had a lot of wine with dinner tonite and i'm feeling a wee bit sad and lonely . . .

[Bullwinkle925]

brought my hubby's ashes home today. still hard to believe. i miss the little guy and hope he knew how much i loved him.

eom

[clyrc]

1. Now that must be tough

Hugs to you

[GoddessOfGuinness]

2. There are times when a lot of wine with dinner is such a good idea.

This is one of them. Many hugs for you tonight, my friend. :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

12. and tonite is definitely one of them. . .

hope we can *meet-up* one day GoG!

[tandot]

3. Oh boy. Sometimes you just need a whole lotta wine

I am so sorry about your loss, Bullwinkle.

A lot of DUers thought about you. I hope it gets a tiny bit easier as time goes by. :hug:

[Cabcere]

4. Sending hugs & good vibes your way, Bullwinkle.

:hug: :grouphug: :hug: I know this has to be a really difficult time for you...if there's anything you need, just let us know, OK? :pals: Peace.

[Bullwinkle925]

17. thanks - i need several of those right now . . .

you're a dear!

[auntAgonist]

5. I can't imagine ...

I can however offer these :hug: :hug: :hug:


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kesha

[Ptah]

6. You are among friends.

[Bullwinkle925]

18. thank you Ptah . . .

my fiona looks like that orange tabby in your photo. . .

i appreciate all the warm vibes being sent my way.

[fizzgig]

7. many hugs to you

:hug:

i wish i had words for you, but another :hug: is all i've got

is fiona around to love on?

[Bullwinkle925]

11. yes - she's wandering around the computer room right now

and she's such a comfort

[buzzard]

8. Hugs to you I can't imagine the pain I only know that time is something that can alleviate some

of it. One day at at a time and try and find some joy in everyday things however hard it may be.

[Perseid]

9. I have a bedroom that I keep my brother's ashes in

I call it his bedroom, and it is until I, and others, in the late summer next year take his ashes to the top of a mountain that he liked to frequently hike.

I wish you peace, in all ways.

[Bullwinkle925]

10. i expect my ashes to be co-mingled with his someday and we can be

put to rest together. he was 20 yrs. older than myself but it only seemed like a couple of years - especially these past 10 years as i felt as if i became his mother and was taking tender care of him.
i hate cancer and what it did to him.

[SeattleGirl]

13. .........

:grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:

[Bullwinkle925]

14. thank you - sweetie-pie

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

[SPKrazy]

15. hey

:hug: :hug: :hug:

i am sure he did

[Bullwinkle925]

16. i hope so spk . . .

he was my sweetheart and so good to me.

[SPKrazy]

21. i get that bullwinkle

and he had to know that

:hug: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

19. My dear Bullwinkle...

I am positive that he knew how much you loved him...

Take comfort in that....

He will always live in your heart and mind...

He will always be there...

All you have to do is...look...

Hugs to you, sweetie...:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

20. thanks CP . . .

i love that guy so much - i feel as if i failed in some way in letting death take him.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

22. Please don't feel that way

From what I've read, both of you fought the illness that he had valiantly and courageously until the end. Your husband passed away ten years after his initial diagnosis -that is a remarkably long time for a cancer patient to live after an initial diagnosis and is probably a testament to both how well you cared for him and his will to live. You stood by him and supported, encouraged and loved him until the end and you did the very best that you could do, which is probably above and beyond what could have been done

I'm sorry Bullwinkle:hug: :hug: I know how hard losing an immediate member of the family is -I lost my mother from a similar illness earlier this year, so I have some idea of what you must be going through. Take care of yourself:hug: :hug:

I'll include a poem that I read at my mother's funeral which gave me immense comfort. I've got more poems like this I can share if you feel the need -we collected a whole lot of them after my mother's passing -so just PM me if you are interested. I'd be happy to give them to you

Remember Me by David Harkins
Do not shed tears when I have gone
but smile instead because I have lived.

Do not shut your eyes and pray to God that I’ll come back
but open your eyes and see all that I have left behind.

I know your heart will be empty because you cannot see me
but still I want you to be full of the love we shared.

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live only for yesterday
or you can be happy for tomorrow because of what happened
between us yesterday.

You can remember me and grieve that I have gone
or you can cherish my memory and let it live on.

You can cry and lose yourself become distraught
and turn your back on the world
or you can do what I want - smile, wipe away the tears,
learn to love again and go on.

[riderinthestorm]

23. I know it's the morning and I missed this last night

but I hope you got some sleep and are waking up after some sweet dreams of your beautiful man.

Sending good vibes and warm hugs.... :hug: oh, and lots of this! :donut: (hope your head doesn't hurt too much!)

[yellowdogintexas]

24. just saw this one, somehow missed it last night. My dear you have been

in my thoughts, I am quite sure he knew how much you loved him. I don't think you could hide that, you know?

We are all out here for you