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Mon Feb-11-08 09:57 PM
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How many serious relationships have you had in your lifetime? |
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I've had three. One lasted one year, another lasted 2.5 years, and the third lasted 5 years.
What about you?
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Mon Feb-11-08 09:58 PM
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1 year in HS 2.5 years in college 2 years post college 2.5 years currently (grad school)... and this one is a keeper :loveya:
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:00 PM
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2. One. And two I thought were serious. nt. |
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:02 PM
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4. spent seven years with the first one |
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 10:15 PM by kagehime
spent nine months with another (we moved in together after three months and lived together for another seven after we broke up)
elrond and i will hit a year later next month
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:04 PM
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the last one 20 years
before that 1 year was about the most
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:05 PM
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6. One. The rest were fleeting bouts of silly sexual and/or emotional fun. |
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But only was, and is, serious.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:06 PM
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:08 PM
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first one lasted 5 years second one lasted a year third one, 7.5 years so far (and not going well)
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:09 PM
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9. I've had one six month relationship... |
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And that was it . . .
But I'm also currently not looking so I can't really complain about not having anyone. . .
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:10 PM
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10. Not counting a loveless marriage- just one |
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It's been over a year and she still puts up with me for some reason.
It is a pretty cool feeling.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:12 PM
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11. Well, hard to define "serious" but... |
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 10:13 PM by Withywindle
One that was a total of about 5 years off and on (mostly long-distance, with periods of seeing other people) and TWO different relationships, one after the other, where we lived together for 6 years and then he dumped me. (In the first case, we went so far as to get engaged.)
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:13 PM
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but I've had a few that bordered on serious.
Then again I'm young, and I tend to be rather picky about who I date. :P
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:14 PM
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Marriage that lasted around 10 years then turned into a great friendship that has lasted another 10 and still going.
My 2nd one is 5 years and counting.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:21 PM
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I am a loser. Nothing ever lasted more than 3 months. I have no idea what it is like for some to love (or at least to MEAN IT when they say it and not just lie about it). What the hell is wrong with me? I am 39 and not getting any younger.
I think I'd settle for being with someone I like and not worry about the love thing because apparently that is not going to happen ever.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:46 PM
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:21 PM
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 10:22 PM by alarimer
Dupe. Stupid intertubes.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:24 PM
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One for about 2 years at the end of high school/beginning of college. One for about 3 years for most of college. One for (going on) 6 years, with Zornhau :D
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:27 PM
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17. I'm tempted to say none - but |
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there was one that I thought was serious and there was one that somebody else thought was serious (yeah, I tried to tell him otherwise).
I don't really want a "serious relationship." I'd be delighted to share my life with an opposite sex friend who has similar lifestyle preferences, values, interests, and goals. But I'm not looking. If it happens it happens.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:30 PM
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:31 PM
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:hug:
i wish i could get the words i want out right, but they're not there, so here's another :hug:
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:38 PM
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lots of love and healing thoughts to you... :loveya: :hug:
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:06 AM
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44. Such a beautiful thing. |
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I know it cannot possibly seem like this could ever make sense...but damnation, you are a lucky lady for knowing him and for knowing that love, and he was a damned lucky man who loved you more than words could dare to explain.
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:08 AM
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Continuing thoughts, prayers and positive vibes to you and your family
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:32 PM
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One lasted 4 years (two years in high school and two out) and my hubbie. We've been together for 13 years now. Known eachother since we were 12.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:38 PM
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21. Four, including the man I married. |
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One was serious only for me, so I ended it after eight months and moved out of state to make the end permanent.
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:43 PM
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22. hmm, basically just 1 and I'm still in it |
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and I'm married to her...before my wife, I think the longest relationship I had was 3 months....
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Mon Feb-11-08 10:44 PM
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Not even one mutually reciprocated relationship:cry:
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:11 PM
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I've had 3 big loves in my life... my high school sweetheart, my college sweetheart, and my husband of 13 years.
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:13 PM
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let's just say I'm old with a rich and interesting past........
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:03 AM
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:20 PM
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27. Love is like the Highlander |
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There can be only one!
Not really. But that is how it has been for me. Currently zeroing in on 25 years.
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:33 AM
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48. LOL I thought you were gonna say |
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Who wants to live forever when love must die? ...oh dear god I'm such a nerd. :crazy:
Congrats on almost 25 years though! That's awesome! :D
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:28 PM
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 11:37 PM by Mojambo
In fact, I'm 34 and I've never even really been on a proper date.
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:35 PM
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Two years, 2 1/2 yrs, 3 yrs, and the one (my marriage) I'm in now...which is going on 16 yrs. :loveya:
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:38 PM
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now. Almost 6 years now, and I expect it to last for the rest of my life.
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:03 AM
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:44 PM
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32. Two. One high school romance, where I thought the sun rose |
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and set around her but she dumped me as soon as she got around the college "men."
And now my blissful (most days) marriage to my wonderful wife, coming up on 16 years now.
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:46 PM
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33. Just one...a few years ago. |
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 11:46 PM by Fox Mulder
It only lasted a year.
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:51 PM
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34. Does a decade old dependence on booze count? |
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:05 AM
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42. Jack, the man I've loved the most. |
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:55 PM
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35. Not enough. I need one more. |
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Edited on Mon Feb-11-08 11:55 PM by ThomCat
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Mon Feb-11-08 11:57 PM
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My first one was a woman that I married when I was 19 that lasted three years. Then my first male lover when I was 22, that lasted about 9months. Then my second lover for 15 years and my my recent lover for three years.
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:00 AM
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37. One, the one i am in now. But I may have said that before. |
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:03 AM
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38. 1. Two years; 2. 9+ years; 3. Year and a half... |
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:04 AM
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41. Three. Three yrs.; eight years, and so far..seven years. |
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I tend to go for longer rather than shorter.
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:07 AM
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:06 AM
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43. 3 in high school and college |
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and then 1 after that. I have now known my husband for almost 30 years!
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:29 AM
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47. I'm going to have to think about this. Four serious relationships. |
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12-15... 3 yrs. 16-23... 7 yrs. 26-28... 2 yrs. (this one was a marriage that I had my first child in, so I wouldn't change a thing, I learned I was strong and my son and I moved on)..
29 to present...16.5 yrs and counting (GREAT marriage and two beautiful boys)
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:35 AM
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My marriage, still going strong...
And a very serious intimate friendship, a long time ago...
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Tue Feb-12-08 12:35 AM
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Only one of which was remotely healthy. That one lasted 7 years and was its own flavor of Cup o' Fucked.
Right now I'm playing it slow with a triad. We'll see where that goes, but no pressure, as the two in question have been dear friends for a long time.
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Tue Feb-12-08 01:14 AM
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I used to fall in love completely, and then find out a person's attitudes, beliefs and actions towards others. No more.
Now, I only fall in love on every other Tuesday.
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Tue Feb-12-08 03:02 AM
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The one I'm in has lasted far longer than the others - going on 14 years!
No high school sweethearts.
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Tue Feb-12-08 06:33 AM
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57. That's kind of hard to answer |
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When I was 11, I was supposed to get engaged to a Native American who lived with my grandparents. I guess it wasn't so serious, but I thought it was, then. When I was 14 I got a boyfriend I kept til I was 18, but he loved me much more than I loved him. I dumped him when I fell in love with another man, and we lasted a whole two months, because he didn't love me. Next time I fell in love, it was when I was 21 and he was 16, and that lasted a month. Lasted until he ran off with my brother, although whether or not they were lovers I will probably never know. I have my suspicions. Finally I met my husband of 14 years when I was 22, and married him when I was 23. And that's the end of the story, or at least that's all I'm telling.
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Tue Feb-12-08 07:20 AM
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58. Not sure how you'd define "serious" |
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but I'd say I've had two. One was seven years. The other was only 8 months, but we lived together and talked about marriage and kids. It turned serious too fast was the problem. So, yeah.
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Tue Feb-12-08 07:36 AM
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59. Serious to them or serious to me? |
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I dated a few guys who were serious enough to buy rings and propose (to which I replied "Are you serious?") and they were delusional. For me, I'd say I've had 3 relationsips that I took seriously. I'm married to one of them.
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Tue Feb-12-08 07:43 AM
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The man I'm involved with now. And will be for the rest of my life.
I am so, very, very much in love with him.
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Tue Feb-12-08 07:55 AM
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A couple years in high school, my former marriage (together 14 years in total), and my current marriage (together almost 3 years). Had a number of shorter, interesting experiences thrown in the mix there too. I've had an interesting life and learned a lot (so far).
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Tue Feb-12-08 08:14 AM
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if there's a man out there who is dead wrong for me, I fall for him.
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Tue Feb-12-08 08:56 AM
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one of them was my partner that i took care of night and day for two years before he passed on. oy
i found out years later another big love of my life died of cancer -- badly and in a great deal of pain. oy
another just contacted me after many years and we had another date -- he is still such a sweet boy.
one has his own very successful dance troupe in OZ.
one is tramping around west hollywood last i heard.
and i've lost touch with the last two.
i love love affairs -- may i have many more!
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Tue Feb-12-08 09:00 AM
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64. Two. One lasted about 2 years. The other, about 7. |
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We lived together for 5 1/2 years.
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Tue Feb-12-08 09:01 AM
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One that lasted 10 years, one that lasted three, and my marriage, which hits the 12-year mark on Valentine's Day.
And a number of short-lived crushes somewhere in there...but none in the past 12 years. :P
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