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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 10:56 PM Original message |
Marry Him! -- The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:02 PM Response to Original message |
1. Stop it, Mr. Romantico! |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:07 PM Response to Reply #1 |
4. love has made a cynic out of me, i guess... n/t |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:13 PM Response to Reply #4 |
6. "Love". Your "Idealized Love" or a REALISTIC, committed relationship |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:11 AM Response to Reply #6 |
11. good point |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:34 AM Response to Reply #11 |
12. Hey, all snarkyness aside.... |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:02 PM Response to Original message |
2. I think that author needs to pry her eyes away from her navel |
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Dangerously Amused (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:05 PM Response to Original message |
3. The grass will be greener no matter the choice. |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:09 PM Response to Reply #3 |
5. Yeah. The author has a writing career, |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:23 PM Response to Original message |
7. In a word: No |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:59 PM Response to Reply #7 |
10. I agree, supernova |
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PRETZEL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:42 AM Response to Reply #10 |
31. I sort of got that opinion also, |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:57 PM Response to Reply #31 |
54. am i the only one |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 08:51 PM Response to Reply #31 |
82. Woah. With all due respect... |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:23 PM Response to Reply #7 |
34. ... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:45 PM Response to Reply #34 |
38. Backatcha |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:55 PM Response to Reply #7 |
53. thank you for your insights |
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dorktv (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:38 PM Response to Original message |
8. Depends, do you want a divorce in ten years? |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Feb-20-08 11:52 PM Response to Original message |
9. Settling is bullshit, unfair to both parties, and a really fucked up situation to bring a kid into. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 10:41 AM Response to Reply #9 |
19. Best. Post. Ever. |
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NNadir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:35 AM Response to Original message |
13. The real problem is that men, believe it or not, are human beings. |
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RoyGBiv (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 01:28 AM Response to Original message |
14. I love the way that's set up ... |
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REP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 02:39 AM Response to Original message |
15. "Really wants a husband ... and a child" - Horseshit! |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:08 AM Response to Reply #15 |
24. Oh, there's one of those at my local coffee shop! |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:54 PM Response to Reply #15 |
52. very true....like i said |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 02:48 AM Response to Original message |
16. I'm a guy who is always overlooked and passed over |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:02 AM Response to Reply #16 |
23. Maybe you just haven't found that right person...... |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:11 AM Response to Reply #16 |
26. You may not yet be "in your prime" when it comes to relationships |
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Rob H. (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:49 PM Response to Reply #26 |
39. Some women never grow out of that phase, though, imho |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 03:51 PM Response to Reply #39 |
45. Yes, but most do grow to appreciate mosre stable men |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:52 PM Response to Reply #16 |
51. i'm in the same boat |
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asthmaticeog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:27 AM Response to Reply #16 |
71. Yeah, that's it, billyskank. There's something wrong with women. |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 05:09 AM Response to Original message |
17. Its COMPANIONSHIP |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 10:32 AM Response to Original message |
18. what are you holding out for, and what are you settling for? |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:13 AM Response to Reply #18 |
28. YES! |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:44 PM Response to Reply #18 |
48. good points....thanks |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 10:42 AM Response to Original message |
20. "To the outside world, of course, we still call ourselves feminists..." |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:08 AM Response to Reply #20 |
25. yeah, this story is chock full of head-slapping idiocy |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:21 AM Response to Reply #25 |
29. I feel sorry for her because...she lacks self-respect. But also because she put her name |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:29 PM Response to Reply #20 |
36. Amen. (nt) |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:46 PM Response to Reply #20 |
60. The ever-quoteable BlueIris scores again! |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:56 AM Response to Reply #60 |
74. Hee. I am ever-quotable. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 10:45 AM Response to Original message |
21. my motto: keep your spirits high and your standards low! |
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qb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 10:48 AM Response to Original message |
22. Mr. Fabulous didn't work out for me, but I'm not going to settle |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:11 AM Response to Reply #22 |
27. I'm the same as you |
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EstimatedProphet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 11:27 AM Response to Original message |
30. I think it depends on what you mean by "settle" |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:30 PM Response to Reply #30 |
37. That's a good point... |
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Blue_Tires (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:43 PM Response to Reply #30 |
47. i've never been the type obsessed with womens' bodies or faces |
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EstimatedProphet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:41 PM Response to Reply #47 |
59. Then definately DON'T SETTLE! |
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riderinthestorm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:16 PM Response to Original message |
32. During the bad times (and there will be bad times) |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:21 PM Response to Original message |
33. GOD no, are you crazy? |
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Zuiderelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
35. This is just bullshit. |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 12:58 PM Response to Reply #35 |
40. Every woman she knows? |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 01:03 PM Response to Reply #40 |
42. She needs to count her blessings......... |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 01:33 PM Response to Reply #42 |
44. No shit. |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 01:01 PM Response to Reply #35 |
41. Thing is, I'm close to 40....... |
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prole_for_peace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 09:33 PM Response to Reply #35 |
70. I totally agree. |
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mcscajun (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 01:28 PM Response to Reply #35 |
78. "Every woman she knows"...Both of them. |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 01:23 PM Response to Original message |
43. Alternate Honest Version |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:00 PM Response to Reply #43 |
63. Yes, growing up is hard. |
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SocratesInSpirit (540 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:23 PM Response to Original message |
46. A good question... |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:46 PM Response to Original message |
49. This kind of writing is focused precisely on middle and upper-middle class women |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:04 PM Response to Reply #49 |
56. Seriously |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:08 PM Response to Reply #49 |
65. Thank you. |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:10 PM Response to Reply #65 |
66. Oh for fuck's sake. What a nosy parker! n/t |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:47 PM Response to Original message |
50. When I hear that women out there are willing to settle down with second rate guys |
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Darth_Kitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 06:58 PM Response to Reply #50 |
55. now that's funny. |
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yardwork (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:05 PM Response to Original message |
57. No! This is just silly. |
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Zephyrbird (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:32 PM Response to Original message |
58. Lord, how bitter she is! |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:53 PM Response to Reply #58 |
61. See my #43 Alternate Honest Version |
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Zephyrbird (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 07:56 PM Response to Reply #61 |
62. yup, I read it before I posted. |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:03 PM Response to Original message |
64. Here's a thought: Get a vibrator and a dog. |
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S n o w b a l l (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:14 PM Response to Original message |
67. Sounds like the rebellious daughter of |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:58 AM Response to Reply #67 |
75. Yeah, no kidding. She's going to regret publishing this, I think. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:25 PM Response to Original message |
68. It all depends |
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lizerdbits (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Feb-21-08 08:49 PM Response to Original message |
69. Ugh |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
72. Do.not.settle. |
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NewWaveChick1981 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 11:38 AM Response to Reply #72 |
73. Seconded! |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 01:23 PM Response to Reply #72 |
76. Thirded! |
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mcscajun (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 01:27 PM Response to Original message |
77. "Settle" is a word I struck from my personal vocabulary a good 18 years ago. |
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El Fuego (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 01:58 PM Response to Original message |
79. "Idealized love" is just self-love. |
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Wcross (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:16 PM Response to Original message |
80. I decided a long time ago I would never marry. |
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amitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Feb-22-08 02:18 PM Response to Original message |
81. It's about CHEMISTRY. The rest is all B.S. (looks, etc.) n/t |
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