Wow, I thought I left sixth grade behind 36 years ago

[1gobluedem]

But, apparently I have not.

I have three college roommates who live in Florida: A in Coral Gables, B in Cocoa Beach, and C in Jacksonville. B and C no longer speak after some overblown kids' birthday party incident when they both lived in Boca Raton years ago and A has only kept in touch with me; she hasn't seen either B or C since we graduated even though she's lived in Florida for thirteen years and B was in Boca for most of that time -- they moved to Cocoa Beach about two years ago but also bought a small house in Boca for when her husband has to be there on business.

I have visited B a couple of times years ago and she's been up here a few times for various family things and we've gotten together. C's and my correspondence is primarily Christmas and birthday cards with the occasional e-mail and I went to her mother's funeral in the Detroit area about four or five years ago. A I am in touch with constantly; I've known her since I was five, our families are friends, etc., etc. She has been bugging me to visit her for years and I am finally going next week; I refused to set foot in Florida while Jeb Bush was still governor because I didn't want even a dime of my money to be spent in his state, yes, I loathe him that much. I hadn't mentioned anything to B until I wrote a short message on her birthday card (b-day was Wednesday) because 1) we don't e-mail all that often; 2) I didn't think she would want to make the trip down to CG during the school year; she has two kids in school and has always been one of those "you need to come to me" people; and, 3) I am coming to Orlando in July which I thought was more convenient to Cocoa Beach and we could plan something then. I did tell her at Christmas that I would be in Orlando in July.

So....I just got back from a meeting and found this e-mail message:

> Hey 1gobluedem,
> Got your card today. Guess you and A had no interest in seeing me. If you would have given me some notice, I could have worked out being down south (and I would have stayed at my house and not inconvenienced A). A lunch even.
> B

B never liked A much (and the feeling was mutual); she certainly hasn't reached out to her all the years A's been there when she lived much closer so I don't think it's that far-fetched that I didn't think she'd be interested in getting together with us now. Am I off base here?

[rug]

1. How long have they been posting in GDP?

[Rabrrrrrr]

2. I know she's your friend, but she's a passive agressive self-centered dipshit.

What an asshole thing to say to you.

[1gobluedem]

3. She is a piece of work, that's for sure

She came for Homecoming a few years ago, and told me that she didn't want to sit with all her successful business school friends (because she stopped working when she had her first kid); she'd rather sit with me, and in the next breath told me how fortunate I was to live in a place where looks weren't important. I protested mildly to both; pointing out that I am considered fairly successful in my field and, while I'm not a supermodel, nobody has ever run screaming from me because of how I looked and she snapped "You know what I meant!"

[Shell Beau]

4. Jeez! I guess she is one of those who feels better about herself

by putting others down! Some people can't leave the 6th grade! The office I work in (mostly I am on the road thank GOD!!!) is full of DRAMA! And it is because some here are still stuck with that kind of mentality. Thankfully I have never been that way and I hate drama! Some people can't live without it.

[1gobluedem]

5. She is very insecure

And has always felt inadequate since she quit work to raise her family although the she married a guy who is loaded and they didn't necessarily need her income anyway. And, I think, if a parent can stay home with the kids, it's a good thing.

Her kids are older now, college and high school, and she doesn't have as much to do anymore and I guess is feeling a little lonely and at loose ends; she hasn't made a lot of friends in Cocoa Beach. But, Florida is a big state and I can't tailor my vacation to fit her needs especially when I'm coming to visit someone else anyway.

[suninvited]

6. I think I would have gotten up at that point

and said, I think I shall go see what the successful people are up to.

[youthere]

7. You should reply...

"If we had invited you...you might have shown up and then A and I couldn't talk about you."

[Debi]

8. Good Answer!

:bounce:

[youthere]

9. But of course...I am the QUEEN of the perfect answer...

AFTER the fact. At the perfect moment all I ever seem to manage is "um...errrr" ...ten minutes later though...I've got one HELL of a zinger.

[Shell Beau]

10. Don't you hate that? Happens to the best of us!

;)