Were you ever in a relationship with someone, or just starting one, and

[raccoon]

there was a defining moment--something happened, or something clicked in your head--and you just knew it wasn't going to work for you?

[LostinVA]

1. Yes -- as well as the reverse

[Mugu]

2. Oh yes, several times. n/t

[soleft]

3. Yes, and I ignored it

And things worked out anyway.

[LeftyMom]

4. No, that would have saved tons of time.

I've had the reverse though. :D

[flvegan]

5. Well, when she cheated on me was sort of a defining moment.

I pretty much knew then.

[Javaman]

7. Took the words out of my mouth. nt

[LeftyMom]

17. Never introduce me to your ex, okay?

Unless you've got my bail money handy.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. yeah. i think this has happened to me several time where i know the

other person like me a lot more than i like them

and i know thats not going to work

[suninvited]

8. Yes, and I ran like a scared rabbit

turns out I was right about what I sensed, and ended up threatening to call the police if he didnt leave me alone.

[lightningandsnow]

9. Yes...

My ex-girlfriend was telling me about how she once racked up a $250 cellphone bill from going on dating sites from her cellphone.

She was 15 at the time.

[KG]

10. happens all the time for me. explains why i've basically been single for 20 years.

[SPKrazy]

11. I suppose so

and 20 years later I wish I'd paid attention

[Shine]

12. Yup, many times.

and unfortunately, in many cases it took me a while to actually get to the point of ending the relationship. In other words, I stayed in it much longer than I should have.

Oh well, live and learn.

Now I'm happily married and we're still going strong. We celebrate 15 yrs this coming June! :hi:

[MissMillie]

13. yes...

the one that sticks with me most is when I invited a man to have Labor Day Weekend cookout w/ my family and I, and he jumped in with "I'll run the grill".

Did you ever notice that a man will never jump in and offer to run the dishwasher?

Ok, maybe that seems petty, but you know, there were some other things that just seemed not right to me, and this seemed pretty presumptuous to me, not just sexist.

[qb]

14. I kind of wish it had worked that way...

he just gradually faded away and I couldn't figure out what the hell was going.

Anyway, I have a new guy now :)

[MorningGlow]

15. All the time

One of my clearest whack-on-the-head moments: I was going to grad school in a city I chose because the BF moved there (he had been planning to move there when we got together and he did ask me to go there as well...but not as his live-in...hmmm...anyway...), so I knew only my roommates and him. I had two serious bouts of the flu. The first time I was half-dead with it, he came to visit me and brought me comic books and toys and such. The second time, about a year later, I had it even worse. He only promised to call. I waited up. He never called. When I called him the next day and asked what happened, he said well, first his dad called, so they talked for a while, and then he walked through the living room and his roommates were watching a Clint Eastwood movie, so he sat down to watch it with them instead.

Bumped for an old Clint Eastwood movie he'd seen a million times? Yeah, I got the picture.

On edit: Works for friendships as well. Nothing like seeing people you thought were your friends in a new light, veil lifted, and all that. When that happens, I skedaddle without hesitation. Haven't regretted it once.

[av8rdave]

16. Yes

I can handle political/social differences, but when I found the person had some very backward views when it came to race...well, that was it for me.

That was many, many years ago, btw.