Is wearing black to a wedding in bad taste?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

its a russian jewish wedding if that counts for anything

[YellowRubberDuckie]

1. Not anymore...

I mean, as long as it's more of a little black dress instead of a full on mourning regalia. And the accessories should add some color?
Duckie

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. yeah. i will accessorize colorfully :)

[lildreamer316]

17. You know what would be cool?

Black and white.
White crop tailored jacket, or white scarf, black and white shoes (those new oxford with a heel style; those are so cool!); etc. etc.
Or knowing you, a white corset with a black skirt! LOL ;)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

24. i think they may faint if i wore a corset. so i will abstain

[LeftyFingerPop]

2. This link says it is fine...

http://www.weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticle.action?assetPath=%2Ftemplates%2FArticles%2FNonContentSet%2FGuests%2Farticle_1152.html


Wearing black: the long standing tradition of ladies not wearing black to a wedding has been overturned. Today, even the bridesmaids might be outfitted in black. Just make sure you don't look like you're attending a funeral. Consider accessorizing that little black dress with a brightly colored scarf or blazer.

[DarkTirade]

3. If I'd been stupid/crazy enough to marry my last ex

she probably would have insisted that everyone wear black.

But she wasn't russian jewish... just into the goth scene. :P

[Tuesday Afternoon]

5. what time of day?

Congrats to the couple :party:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. 4 pm

[Tuesday Afternoon]

13. You should be ok...and reading the rest of the thread, with the

right colorful accessories, should be fine. Have fun!

[OmahaBlueDog]

7. I think a woman can get away with a LBD for damn near anything

like guys can wear tan slacks with a blue sport coat and tie to almost anything.

Unless it's evening, black tie formal, I'd say yes.

or, unless you're the bride .. then I might think twice.

[grannylib]

8. I don't think it's a big deal anymore, unless the bridesmaids are

wearing black and your dress/gown 'competes' with theirs, style-wise...
As someone noted, accessorize with color and you should be fine.
I think white or off-white should still be no-no's for the guests, but black is OK.

[femmocrat]

9. Only if you are the Mother of the Groom.

;)

[auntAgonist]

10. I sure HOPE not. I just bought a little black dress

and strappy sandals (high heels) to wear to one next saturday.

Everything I read suggested it would be fine.

aA

edited to add: This wedding is at 4:30 in the afternoon w/dinner reception at a country club immediately following.

[Fran Kubelik]

11. Not at all anymore

But...looking more beautiful than the bride is in bad taste, so do your best with that. ;)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. irina is very pretty and in great shape, so it wont happen

:P

[pitohui]

14. yes it's in terrible taste

why risk giving offense when you know that older people will not understand? it's a wedding, it ain't about you

[La Lioness Priyanka]

16. did i say its about me? why are you so unnecessarily rude?

[Rabrrrrrr]

18. Don't worry about it - the fact that she said it's rude means it's perfectly fine.

Not worth your time, that one.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. thanks rabrrrr.

:hi:

[auntAgonist]

20. why is wearing black to a wedding in "terrible taste"

I really want to know the rationale for this.


tia.

aA

[Rabrrrrrr]

22. Because doing so might make the wearer happy.

One's life should be constant self-sacrificing pain and suffering.

[auntAgonist]

23. ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhh gotcha!!!

I think I'll go and beat my head up against a wall now :)

thanks!

:banghead:

aA

[La Lioness Priyanka]

25. or why the wedding would then turn into an occasion about lionesspriyanka?

thats what i want to know

[Critters2]

35. If that's what you want, wear a long, white dress with lots of lace and taffeta

and a veil.

THAT would be in bad taste. I see women wear black to weddings all the time. It's no big deal. And I go to weddings professionally, so I know what I'm talking about.

[auntAgonist]

41. thank you! I was hoping an officiant would weigh in.

Officiant? ...is that the right word? :shrug:

:hi:

aA

[Critters2]

52. Yep, officiant works. And this officiant says "Black is the new robin's egg blue"!

Just right for a wedding....besides, anyone who's concerned about what you're wearing to someone else's wedding has their priorities a little out of whack!

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[La Lioness Priyanka]

27. chk out the post on mondo joe's thread in gd. its a gem.

[JVS]

45. While I think you are a bit vehement on this, there's nothing wrong with exercising caution

[noamnety]

47. "it's a wedding, it ain't about you"

I almost got married to this one guy, he was great, so nice and intelligent and talented, everything I could have wanted. But at the wedding, some woman wore black (!) and wouldn't you know, when it came time for the actual ceremony, the groomsmen looked at her, looked at me, stormed the little platformy area where he and I were standing, grabbed me, and carted me off. They tied me up in the back room, using the train of my (white) dress, and my veil. Then they dragged her up there in my place and the pastor married the two of them. They didn't even know each other, she was an out of town guest! They've been married about 10 years now, I heard they have several kids.

Please, I tell this story as a cautionary tale, so that other women will read it and understand. Do not destroy a young bride's heart. Wear appropriate clothing, and especially avoid black if you are invited to a guest at a wedding, so it doesn't inadvertently become about you.

:cry: :cry: :cry:

[Sock Puppet]

50. um.....

:spray: :rofl:





:applause:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

55. ...

:applause:

[Rabrrrrrr]

15. No, of course not. Black is appropriate for everything.

Especially Jewish weddings.

[Haole Girl]

21. Well, I did quite a bit of research on this! lol

It is quiet at work. This is just one - of many - answers I found! :hi:

http://www.dressaday.com/2005/05/rules-for-dresses-at-weddings-not.html

Rules for Dresses at Weddings (not Rules for Wedding Dresses)
I was lucky enough to attend a lovely, lovely wedding yesterday. The bride and groom were glowing with happiness; their families and friends were there to support them and share their joy; and the bride chose (and wore with élan) a perfectly suitable and elegantly simple gown.

I was also pleased to see how many people were following the rules for dresses at weddings (that is, rules for the dresses that are not the Wedding Dress--the Wedding Dress has its own rules that are beyond the scope of this blog). However, seeing so many people dressed beautifully and appropriately reminded me of the many weddings I've attended where many were not, so here is a refresher for those who need it.

One: do not wear black. I can hear somebody whining that she only has one nice dress, and it NEEDS to be black because she has to wear it on New Year's Eve, and besides, black is slimming. I am not listening to you. You do not wear black to weddings. You do not wear black to weddings because wearing black at weddings means you disapprove of the marriage. You do not wear black to weddings because someday, god forbid, you might actually WANT to wear black to a wedding in order to show your disapproval and your deep grief over somebody's ill-advised nuptials, and no one will know that this is what you intended because there will be a roomful of women in LBDs dancing barefoot to "We Are Family" and your grand gesture will be for naught. MARK MY WORDS. (Besides, black is BOR-ing. And not as slimming as you might think.) Black and white prints are allowable if they would be unsuitable for a funeral.

***

p.s., Many women, who attended my older sister's wedding two years ago. wore black. I'm not sure people follow the "rules" much anymore (although, that was a Baptist ceremony).

[Rising Phoenix]

28. I've worn black to an afternoon wedding

I was a little nervous about it, but lightened it up with an off white shall. There was no need to be nervous....almost every other girl there was in a little black dress. Have fun!

[shanine]

29. I wore a black dress

to my own wedding:blush:

[LaraMN]

30. It's not only rude, it's slutty!

No it's not.
:P

I think it's fine.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

31. i am down with slutty.

:P

that might be my motto

[Parche]

32. Bring Kosher Vodka

:hi:

[haele]

33. My brother and sister-in-law had a "black and purple" wedding -

In the summer, no less!
If you think it too somber, accessorize - black goes with almost anything. A nice, colorful indian scarf over a black slip dress would probably be nice.

Have fun whatever you decide.

Haele

[Rabrrrrrr]

34. I've been thinking - yes, you'll be in black. But the Nazi armband brings a festive red to it.

:hide:

[Bake]

36. Not if you look GOOD in black ....

;-0

Bake

[philosophie_en_rose]

37. Nope.

Wear what you like. It's not like you're wearing a black veil and cursing the bride.

[DarkTirade]

38. ... but that would certainly make for an interesting wedding.

I'd rather have a memorable interesting wedding than a plain old boring one. :P

[philosophie_en_rose]

39. True.

And there are people who couldn't have fun at a wedding without someone to talk about... :) Might as well have fun.

[mentalsolstice]

40. Not at all

For my niece's wedding, I wore a black lace overlay over a turquoise slip, it went over big.

[northzax]

42. as a general rule

people who worry about what other people wear to weddings are assholes.

[SeattleGirl]

43. Hell noes!

I was in a wedding once where I, and the rest of the bridesmaids, wore black dresses. It was lovely.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

44. It depends...These would probably be in poor taste:

[orleans]

46. black is beautiful--not to mention sexy and elegant. and it makes

one appear thinner. even ultra thin people look striking in black. (imo)

[FunkyLeprechaun]

48. Nope

I wore a black Armani strapless dress to my future sister-in-law's wedding. My aunt that lives in Italy got it for me for my 21st birthday on sale. It's the best dress I've had and now I need to lose weight to fit in it!

My future hubby said that people told him that I upstaged the bride. Oops.

If it's a beautiful black dress, I'm sure it'll be ok. Better than the last wedding I was at of my friend in MN.... they wore jeans and sweaters and even some wore hunting caps. I swear to god it was close to being at a redneck wedding.

[NewJeffCT]

49. I think as long as the dress is tasteful, it should be fine

as somebody posted above, there are probably things that would not be appropriate no matter the color.

[distantearlywarning]

51. Depends on the type of wedding.

I had an winter nighttime wedding with a cocktail party reception at an upscale urban club. Several of my female guests wore LBDs and I thought they looked elegant and lovely. It was completely appropriate attire for the situation.

Trust me, nobody took attention away from me by doing that. It's very hard to compete for the spotlight with a woman who is both delirously happy and is wearing a floor-length white dress with a 5-foot train, a veil, and elbow gloves.

[IntravenousDemilo]

53. Not if you're the groom. A tux that is anything but black is an abomination!

A grey morning coat is OK, though.

[RainDog]

54. I've seen black bridesmaid's dresses even, and recently.

the thing about not wearing black was the rule in the past. It's just fine for now. However, some ppl do not know that it's "okay" to wear black so if they are so inclined to be raving bitches, they may not like it. As others have said, wear a scarf or jacket that adds color.

And/or ask the bride?

The whole deal about the big frou-frou wedding gown, etc. is a bunch of bullshit that started in the late 1800s when the captains of industry had too much money even after they sent their daughters overseas to marry some poor European with a title. For the most part, women who were not part of the gilded auction block in the U.S. wore a nice dress suit that they could use after the wedding. In medieval times in northern europe, the traditional bridal color was black.

it all means only what someone wants it to mean.

When I got married I wore red and white because red is the color for luck in Chinese tradition. I had a dress I liked and that's what I wore. If I were to ever somehow enter into an alternate dimension and get married again, I would wear something I could wear after the wedding too.