I think its time for a new therapist....again

[Rising Phoenix]

I got put on "probation" fucking probation.....for missing too many sessions....appareantly being in the hospital, almost dying, and horrible infections are not reason enough to miss. At one point my rash was so bad I couldn't put any clothes on without pain, and had to lie in bed naked....she says I should have found a way to make it. Today I went, despite horrible allergies ( brought an entire box of Kleenex) and back pain that makes it hard to breathe ( because of the rash and how sensitve it has made my skin, I still can not wear a bra and it is causing major problems for my back) I"m just so pissed, if anyone should understand illness, it should be a doctor, and, in my opinion, especially a therapist whom I talk to all the time about my ailments and how they effect me. Am I over reacting....or is it time for a new tdoc?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

1. new doc time. therapy is generally ineffective if you dont feel warmly towards your therapist

[Rising Phoenix]

2. I think you are right

I want to find someone who specializes in dealing with patients who have physical ailments, as well as mental health issues. Pain in my ass.

[LeftyFingerPop]

3. Is your therapist...

a psychiatrist?

Without getting too personal...

I believe that a person should always see a psychiatrist rather than a psychologist for emotional therapy when that person has various physical problems also.

A good psychiatrist will truly understand the mind/body link, and will work with your GP to treat both physical and mental issues.

If this person is indeed a psychiatrist that you are seeing, based only on your OP and nothing else, it doesn't seem like she is doing very well by you. Difficult to say though...without knowing her motivation for putting you on "probation" (sheeesh I hate that word).

[Rising Phoenix]

4. she is not, I see a psych at the same clinic for meds and stuff

and I see her for talk therapy....she specializes in DBT which is very big on the mind body connection.....but I think she is all talk.....I don't think she really gets what it is like to be sick. Her motivation for putting me on probabtion was to scare me into coming to both therapy and group for the next four weeks, regardless, or I don't think I will be welcome back to therapy with her.....scare tactics....nice.

[LeftyFingerPop]

6. Bottom line....

If you missed the sessions because you were ill, she is wrong to do this to you. It is disrespectful to you.

[Rising Phoenix]

9. thank you

I needed to hear that. She made me feel like a hypochondiac, or some crazy person who claims to be sick, her actions make me feel unvalidated and that is not right.

[IndianaJones]

5. probation? nt.

[Rising Phoenix]

7. yup

I should be used to it....this has been an issue with every class, job, therapist, SO I have ever had.

[IndianaJones]

8. what does this probation entail? nt.

[Rising Phoenix]

10. for the next four weeks at least

I can't miss a Tuesday session or a Thursday group or I"m out.

[IndianaJones]

12. You're right, time for a new one. nt.

[Frosty1]

14. Here's your clue

"I should be used to it....this has been an issue with every class, job, therapist, SO I have ever had."

As harsh as it may sound sometimes it is necessary to continue therapy despite the physical pain in order to transcend that barrier. Good Luck
:hug:

[Rising Phoenix]

15. I thank you for your response

but I must ask, with all due respect, do you deal with chronic illness?

[Frosty1]

16. Yes I do

Every day

[Rising Phoenix]

17. my apologies then

if you don't mind me asking, how do you push through on the days when you feel you just can't.....I haven't been able to find a way....

[Frosty1]

18. I simply decided that I had given

enough of my life to pain and that I would learn to live in spite of it. It doesn't happen over night. Be patient with yourself. Stay in DBT:thumbsup:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

19. yes because its so easy to go to therapy when you cant wear clothes and almost died

twice in the last month :eyes:

[Frosty1]

21. For me the answer was simple

not easy. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do.

[Rising Phoenix]

22. I think I've done enough hard things lately

and need to listen to my body right now.....but I"m glad you are able to push through.

[Phillycat]

11. When you miss sessions, do you call with plenty of notice to cancel?

[Rising Phoenix]

13. most of the time

usually I try and tough it out and plan on going and end up canceling with pretty short notice, but she still gets paid my insurance covers all scheduled sessions, attendance or no.

[Deep13]

20. What the hell is "probation" and since when do doctors impose it?

Can't give real advice of course, but my gut feeling is it may be time for a "Fuck you, you're fired" note.

[zanne]

24. Any therapist who treats you like a child should be dumped. nt

[Cabcere]

23. Good grief!

:wow: And I thought my therapist telling me to get a boyfriend was bad...wow. That's not cool at all, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. :hug: Hope things get better for you soon, RP!

[drmeow]

25. I mentioned this in a previous reply to one of your posts

Look for a Clinical Health Psychologist who does mindfulness or mindfulness with CBT.

try contacting http://www.meditationandpsychotherapy.org/aboutimp.html for a referral.

If you don't want to do mindfulness, try contacting:

http://www.mspp.edu/academics/degree-programs/psyd/health-psychology.asp

to get a referral.

But it is important to find yourself a clinical health psychologist. The PhD in clinical psychology here at ASU has a huge health component as do a number of other departments. Students here are specifically trained in the treatment of health, especially chronic pain. The research group I work for studies Fibromyalgia and the graduate students are all clinical students who treat people with chronic pain and chronic illnesses as part of their training.

[Rising Phoenix]

26. thank you so much

I've been having no luck searching on my own....you are a doll

[drmeow]

27. I'll ask around

to see if there are any of our former students in the area or if there are any internships in that area where our students might go.

I'm not a clinical person otherwise I'd be able to probably give you even more guidance.

Good luck finding someone and keep us posted.

Also - look for books by Jon Kabat-Zinn. He's considered the father of American mindfulness.

-M

[ThomCat]

28. Definitely time for a new therapist.

:(

:hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

29. Her job isn't to make you feel worse.

I hope that you can find a new one who has a better understanding of what you've been experienced lately.

[NJmaverick]

30. The real question is this:

Do you feel the doctor has helped you? If yes, stay If no, find a new one

[kineneb]

31. geez, "fire" her... the therapist is not your mother...

bad R.P., you are grounded and must stay in your room

If my therapist did that, he would be replaced (and yes, I do have a therapist). If you are unable to attend due to illness, you should get a pass, not that kind of treatment.